Is it okay to say "Whites only" on tinder/grindr profile?
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So the jist of the replies is, have your preference, but don't say it because that would racist.
I'm wondering if the same people would say the same thing if a black guy said: "black only".
I wouldn't because I would think of a history of repression and violence there and think that a black gay person might feel safer with another black guy and there isn't history of black men oppressing white men. I don't think the same applies to white men, just like the same things don't apply to straight people as they do gay people. I don't know if I'm explaining it well. I would think it was a shame that the black guy was limiting himself, just like a would the white gay guy.
However I'm just now remembering that there are in fact other races! So thinking a step further I would think that was shitty too. Maybe not as shitty (I'm not black so I would not pretend I would automatically know all the reasons for him saying "black only") but still kinda shitty towards asians etc.
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It is Okay but recommend to use other words to express you are attracted to white people. Although it is your right to choose what you like sometimes, we have to consider the situation.
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That's really racist. Not gonna argue about it, but if you were a black guy, you would totally think that's very racist.
But most people are used to being racist without realizing it. So… you can choose that point of view as well. :crazy2:
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Everyone has their own preferences, but I think using the term "whites only" does come across a little racist. Maybe use the phrase "prefer men of caucasian descent" instead.
Or just… don't put it in your profile? To me, putting "WHITES ONLY" or "sticky rice" or "no fats no femmes" is the equivalent of going into a gay bar and then yelling at everybody, before they had a chance to approach you, that "ONLY WHITE PEOPLE APPROACH ME". If you yelled that unprompted in real life, guys would look at you weirdly and think that you're a racist/bigot. Same applies to Grindr.
If a guy who isn't your type approaches you, just turn them down nicely by saying "not my type", as you would at a bar or club. There's no need to emblazon your profile with unnecessary words. Those words may not only seem offensive but would also make you seem like an asshole who is feeling the need to announce things.
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Why not just say Whites preferred?
Personally I like White, Celtic, Nordic, Slav, Northern Mediterranean, Black of all shades, South East Asian, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Polynesian, Melanesian, Micronesian, Native Americans North and South, Latino, Inuit.
I am not turned on by Middle Easterners, Southern Mediterranean, And Indian Sub-Continentals. I'm not sexually attracted to them.Does that make me racist?
By the way, my partner for the last 19 years is Thai. Does that make me racist?
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Why not just say Whites preferred?
Personally I like White, Celtic, Nordic, Slav, Northern Mediterranean, Black of all shades, South East Asian, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Polynesian, Melanesian, Micronesian, Native Americans North and South, Latino, Inuit.
I am not turned on by Middle Easterners, Southern Mediterranean, And Indian Sub-Continentals. I'm not sexually attracted to them.Does that make me racist?
By the way, my partner for the last 19 years is Thai. Does that make me racist?
Just don't put it in your profile. It saves you trouble. Straight people don't put that crap on their profile, simply because it's a really terrible thing to read. Why not use the character to talk about hobbies or non-race related things? I use my character to include things like "no pic no chat" or "Send Face pics please".
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Ah, the old "white people are the real victims" card. Cool, cool.
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Yeah Just say Preferred : blank blank blank - but open to blank blank blank .. :hug2:
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No it isn't.
You can say things like "Serious encounters only, In town for a short time. Do not contact me for sex." etc. Things like that. That's okay.
But saying things like "White guys only, must be good looking, no ugly men." etc. Is kinda petty and unnecessary.
If someone you don't like contacts you, block and ignore them and don't pursue anything with them.
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Whites Only is a sign one would in Jim Crow southern US back in the 1960's. It is OK to have a preference. Everyone likes what they like, but you can preface it in a way that does not come across being racist. At the very least, just say that you prefer white guys or guys with x y z characteristics. Saying things like no asians, no blacks, no Indians, etc just reeks of racism. I truly do not know how anyone could not find the statement "no rice" offensive.
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Honestly, it's not ok.
If you're generally more into a certain thing, that's fine. But excluding entire races pre-emptively says a lot about your openness to other people. It doesn't just say that you're more into the other people. It says that you can't even fathom being attracted to a person of a different race. And that's weird. I wouldn't want to date anyone that had a statement like that in their profile.
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I don´t see why not. People have preferences, it´s about the same as posting "Asians only" or "Blacks only".
I mean, no need to be an asshole, but you can´t force people to like everyone, and it helps to avoid disappointing people.
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