I love my man but…....

Mcjl

I've been married. Happily for 5 years. But my husband gets on my last nerve …... what to do?

benial06

Talk with him or get a couples therapy. There's no solution besides being open to each other.

kenjysn1

do you often have sex? he seed into you? if that’s true, i think it’s a Coolidge effect,.

copy from wikipedia “In biology and psychology, the Coolidge effect is a phenomenon seen in animal species whereby males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners,[1][2][3][4] even after cessation of sex with prior but still available sexual partners. The evolutionary benefit to this phenomenon is that a male can fertilize multiple females. The male may be reinvigorated repeatedly for successful insemination of multiple females.[5] This type of mating system can be referred to as polygyny, where one male has multiple female mates, but each female only mates with one or a few male mates.”

so the more sex you have with him the more tiredness he will feel. the best solution is keep along a couple of days. if both of you can have a child, Responsibility will weaken the effect. tie you and your husband closer.

jkronfuss

@Mcjl:

I've been married. Happily for 5 years. But my husband gets on my last nerve …... what to do?

Have you tried talking to him? You went as far as to marry him, it worths the try, don't you think?

upNXT

Tell him.

AimlessThund

@Mcjl:

I've been married. Happily for 5 years. But my husband gets on my last nerve …... what to do?

Have an open and solution-orientated discussion about what you think is not working in your marriage.
You guys are lucky to have each other. I mean you even got married so that has to count for something.

nancledra53

In the wonderful way that Tammy puts it: D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

kenjysn1

@nancledra53:

In the wonderful way that Tammy puts it: D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

:cry2: you should do that.

lf4317

Get some counseling.

Minerboh80

It one of these nausty side effects of being married.

x112x

You might want to offer up more details if you want some appropriate advice. I don't think anyone can tell if it's super-serious where divorce is even an option, or if it's one of those issues that's gonna hurt in a long run.

If anything, couple's therapy can't hurt and it's often an underrated option.

alex0976

Maybe it is time to talk about this issue with him now. Marriage needs to be taken care carefully. Any cracks may let the marriage wreck. If you two still deeply love each other, I think all things can be worked out. Sometimes, a good and effective talk can let both of you know each other more and love each other more!!!

lostalone

I dunno if the OP will return but: there are lots of types of aggravation.

Is this the small kind that keeps piling day by day? Or is it a sudden change because certain life events? Or is it more like a gradual decrease of certain restraint / boundaries?

vaylon 0

@kenjysn1:

if both of you can have a child, Responsibility will weaken the effect. tie you and your husband closer.

This is an old wives tale, idea. Children do not add to a relationship. They enhance what is already there. If you have lots of love and communication. It gets better. But if you have problems and think a child will fix it or make it better? Wrong. The child will only make it worse.

mcoguy

Welcome to marriage. In every relationship I've been in that has lasted longer than a few months, the guy gets on my nerves in one way or another. I think it's normal for that to happen when you live with someone. Just realize that you are two separate people with different habits and preferences. Just remember why you fell in love with him in the first place and embrace your differences.

nickys1177

the good side is at least you live in a place where you can marry him.. not all people have that privilege

torrus

Take a break. Go visit family for a few days or more. He'll miss you