Losing friends after coming out?

bob85

It just goes to show how shallow and intolerable some people are. If he/she acted all buddy-buddy with you before he/she knew you were gay and then rejected your friendship after you coming out, then he/she wasn't really your friend. That's what I call a "fake friendship" - someone who 'acts' like they're your friend/feels like they got your back, but really doesn't care enough about you to look past your sexuality.

A true friend wouldn't ever do that to you.

and to answer your question…yes a couple have. I kinda sensed they were jerks anyways before I came out to them. Glad they aren't in my life anymore

larynx

Weirdly, I didn't lose any friends when I came out. However, it was when I took a stand against homophobia that my real friends remained.

An example was when I was at a party, where we were talking about our holiday travels. I mentioned I stayed at a friend's house for a few days, when a casual friend said, "So you sold your backside to him so that you could stay at his house."

I looked at him and replied, " This may surprise you, but gay people CAN have normal friendships with straight people with no sexual feelings involved. You might want to open your mind more."

Luckily there wasn't violence involved because

A) Everyone was glaring at him
B) I was 1.5 times his size. In muscle mass.

alveer

sad

priya

me and my friended are deserted from the class room when my classmate caught my friend sucking my dick, he informed to everyone is class that we become lone

tony666

I never lost a friend when I came out. But I knew few people who did.

alveer

yes

Tester

thankfully not yet…

mahya

yes . and it hurts.

spam17

@brianboru72:

I was lucky enough that every singe one of my real close friends was able to accept me when I came out to them. :love:
I did have a few who were less supportive and decided to distance themselves, but we were never that close to begin with.

Lucky you!

;D

alveer

yes

Rubber0

Though my society is quiet homophobic I didn't have any problems caused by coming out. Even with a straight guy on which I had a crush.
I still don't believe all this to be true.

Mcjl

It will happen unfortunately. As gay people we get to pick our friends and family.

lf4317

I lost one person who I thought was my best friend. I have made many new friends since then.

lexluthor88

My first friend I came out to when I was 18 ended up giving me up as a friend. She was a Catholic that picked and chose what she found moral, and me being gay didn't sit well with her. What's ironic is that she only did anal because she wanted to stay a "virgin" until marriage and when told me about all the guys that fucked her in the ass didn't judge and cheered her on.

Aside from her though, -every- person I've told over the 7 years since has been really accepting and I've made TONS of friends that replaced her.

vaylon 0

I never lost any friends when I came out. But then again I really didn't hide like lots of guys do.
I just told people my barn door was open to all cowboys or cowgirls. Nobody on my football team ever said a word to me. I was still invited to part's and out on dates. Even hooked up with a couple of my teammates years later.
The only person I lost as a friend wasn't because of my being gay so much because he was very cool with it. But his wife some years later didn't feel comfortable with me and him going fishing and hanging out. So he kind of just quit speaking to me. But that was years after the fact.
family was a totally different story.
Most of my cousins avoid me like the plaque. Because most of us have had lots of sex together when we were kids.

nickys1177

so anal sex doesnt make one non virgin? how crude? isnt that worse than vaginal sex? your friend is kinda twisted

ChuckShirley

Sadly yeah $:-\$

spam17

@vaylon:

I never lost any friends when I came out. But then again I really didn't hide like lots of guys do.
I just told people my barn door was open to all cowboys or cowgirls. Nobody on my football team ever said a word to me. I was still invited to part's and out on dates. Even hooked up with a couple of my teammates years later.
The only person I lost as a friend wasn't because of my being gay so much because he was very cool with it. But his wife some years later didn't feel comfortable with me and him going fishing and hanging out. So he kind of just quit speaking to me. But that was years after the fact.
family was a totally different story.
Most of my cousins avoid me like the plaque. Because most of us have had lots of sex together when we were kids.

Oh dear..

::)

fezobe

Never had many close friends to begin with because of terrible personality. The ones able to endure it barely paid any attention - guess that hasn't really changed anything for them.

marsram08

I at the minimum lost three friends when I blurted out that I was bisexual. The first guy kept on trolling me by pretending to whisper something to someone's ear in front of me and "encouraging" me to go all the way and admit I am totally gay. The second and third guy just got real cold towards me, it was sort of a shame for the third guy, as he was a nerd and we hung out with the same clique and I couldn't open up to him about nerdy stuff.

One time in college, I was approached by one of my classmates who also went to the same high school with me, and asked if I was indeed gay. I said no, just bisexual, and didn't treat me any differently, which I like and prefer to the other guys.