Why men are more homophobic than woman?

semurg30

I don't believe it's true. I've meet plenty of straight men who are nice about it as long as you don't hit on them (which I don't).

But women are vile about it because they're vile and self centered in general. I've never seen it where it is on television where women love the gays. Most hate I get is from women. If I'm friends with one of their husbands, boyfriends or even their brothers I get a lot of hate. The woman I work with…I hate 90% of them. The women in my family are hateful. Both my parents are homophobic but particularly my mother...my dad is less hateful about it. My mother thinks if a guy wears a purple shirt he's a faggot and will tell him so. When I was in high school my parents used to rag a straight friend of mine because he wore purple pants.

I've had straight male friends who are supportive. But I've never met a kind woman where I live. I had a black female friend who more or less implied she knew I was gay but couldn't be friends with me if I was open about it. Kinda hurt.

aadam101

I think porn plays a role. Girl on girl action is porn is considered straight porn. Two guys getting it on automatically puts it in the gay or bi category.

Domosuke

Myself speaking, I think many of it has to do with the fact the male unit is supposed to shun anything and everything feminine, unmanly, womanly, etc.

Homosexuals fall under this category. Whether the gay man is butch or feminine, he still falls under this category and this disrupts the male unit and the male code sadly. I don't make the rules, I just observe and try to not find ways to bend them, but work around them so everyone is happy.

I will say guys are more homophobic to the feminine ones. The butch and masculine gay guys get the, "Well whatever, he's gay but he's still one of the guys."

The feminine gay guys most typically get, "fags, queers, don't do anything gay around me.".

I guess guys feel more scared and intimidated by more masculine gay men, and guys feel feminine or queen/flamboyant gay men are going to try to seduce them or something. Which I can't nessarily disagree on.

Men usually don't want to be sexually infatuated by other men. That includes gay men. It's just the way it is.

Reason why many transgender women don't reveal themselves right off the bat. Yes she's a woman and lives as a woman, but to other men, she is seen as another man and it's sad.

Which is why I typically don't mess with straight men that often as a more feminine queen gay guy. I know they are uncomfortable around me and that's fine.

As far as whether or not guys are homophobic to hide internalized homophobia or fear, that's another topic.

Ononoke

This is easy.

The thought of having intimate morese romantic relationship with another man, has been deemed as 'not masculine'. And we men, has a natural tendency to show PRIDE and bravado in front of others. A way to prove and signify that we are the stronger gender when compared to women (although that's scientifically not the case, because women have more endurance and etc). That's why any men would naturally develop signs of resistance when they are dealing with the homosexual concept. Thanks to the help of generations of misconception planted by parents, of course.

Another major reason, is none other than FEAR. Most men might try to hide it, or it might not obviously shown through their expression nor body language, but in their hearts they are actually afraid to eventually discover that… yes, they MIGHT be homosexual too. They've developed fear that they might ENJOY doing sexual intercourse with the same gender. Which is mind you, a FACT and not a simple exaggeration on my part. I've met some men who realized this and what they truly want/desire after giving it a taste. EVERY single man (and woman, for the record) is born with the tendency to like/love another man at a deeper emotional level. That's why the term man-crush and bromance exist. It's actually a biological nature. To put it simple, they hate homosexuals, because they are afraid to discover themselves as one.

aadam101

@Ononoke:

This is easy.

The thought of having intimate morese romantic relationship with another man, has been deemed as 'not masculine'.

I don't even understand this. Isn't hanging out with a woman all the time "not masculine"?

wohdin

Because toxic masculinity.

Because straight men do not see women as equals; they see them as possessions to be protected by men from other competing men. It is masculine to spend time with your woman because it's not "hanging out with" her but rather a public exhibition of your ability to "protect" her. This is why straight men naturally become more aggressive towards other people while in public with their girlfriends. You might argue that this stuff makes no sense logically, but that literally does not matter because this shit doesn't FOLLOW "logic", it follows the animal brain's instinctual desires. Women do not have this lust-driven protective streak; they instead lean toward the "motherly" motifs of being accepting and nurturing, and therefore don't really give a shit about whether something makes you look masculine or feminine (from an instinctual perspective; not a socially-constructed gender norm perspective).

Because straight men see gay men as threats to their own chastity, and therefore their own masculinity.

JupiterJazz

I think religion is the fault of this, not male masculinity, per se.

The Greeks and Romans were the epitome of masculinity and strength. And they had sex with each other all of the time.
It wasn't even a thing.
You just have sex with your friends.

Then comes religion and says all of this sex is bad and ESPECIALLY guy on guy sex.

chacha

Bottom line, men are assholes. That's why women should lead the world for a few years.

456435653

I don't think women are any better than men in that regard

124uto

I don't know why men are more homophobic maybe fear of the anal probe ?