Will you feel upset if ur bf refuse to hold your hand or kiss you in public？

lovebearlove

I would have to know the reasoning and where we were.. but if it was anywhere, anytime, I wouldn't like it.. and I would quietly let him know that and ask him why

But, I live in Australia, the fear of retribution of subtle or not overtly sexual affection is not something we should worry about, here, and so I would be confused and tbh doubt i'd want to be with someone like that..

cos he said it s not feeling right to show off like that…......but i don't understand why it s a show-off........when u get intimate enough ,things would naturally go that way, right?

gaypraha2

I would hate it . I mean to hold the hand. So sissy and teenage crap. It's not because you are gay that it means you have to behave like a teen girl. and that wouldnt be because of some shame of being seeing as gay. Same goes for holding hand of a girl. so dumb. Now you can hold the hand if the other person girl or not is going too slow so you can drag her/ him quicker. only reason. I guess many people dont agree with me on that coz I see stupid couples doing that. I never did and never will.

lillu

@gaypraha2:

I would hate it . I mean to hold the hand. So sissy and teenage crap. It's not because you are gay that it means you have to behave like a teen girl. and that wouldnt be because of some shame of being seeing as gay. Same goes for holding hand of a girl. so dumb. Now you can hold the hand if the other person girl or not is going too slow so you can drag her/ him quicker. only reason. I guess many people dont agree with me on that coz I see stupid couples doing that. I never did and never will.

What is wrong with you? :-[

hhsq

That's definitely a '1st world problem', as in most parts of the world not holding hands or kissing in public is a matter of safety or even life.

CrusaderRab

Back in the day, my boy and i were near the Castro in San Francisco, and just getting started. We were walking down Market and just started holding hands- about a block or so.

The following Monday, a co-worker at my work- 10 miles away, in Berkeley, said, "Oooo, i saw you guys holding hands…"

I found it funny.

In another case, at a rally for president, i was affectionate in a crowd of over a thousand peeple. The guy i was with got very freaky and said he was afraid of being seen by his air-force co-workers. I scoffed, but left him alone. I felt a grinding on my back- yes it was a crowd, but they didn't have to be THAT close.

I told my guy what was going on behind me, and he said, "That's Ted, from my office."

What are the odds on that?

ddraytton00

@lillu:

@gaypraha2:

I would hate it . I mean to hold the hand. So sissy and teenage crap. It's not because you are gay that it means you have to behave like a teen girl. and that wouldnt be because of some shame of being seeing as gay. Same goes for holding hand of a girl. so dumb. Now you can hold the hand if the other person girl or not is going too slow so you can drag her/ him quicker. only reason. I guess many people dont agree with me on that coz I see stupid couples doing that. I never did and never will.

What is wrong with you? :-[
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I want to point out that he has a good point there. I have only seen teenagers do that and i think it's odd looking. Like i know it's about showing love, but it still is mostly showing off in my opinion. I myself wouldn't like either do that in public. Also wanna point out that in streets when you need to dodge other walkers it's harder and more annoying to always take your hands apart and hold again.

sakyo

People feel different about public display of affection, there are straight couples who don't hold hands/kiss in public, doesn't mean they love each other less, they just choose to express it differently. Being gay and fight for acceptance and equality is about embrace people's differences, there is no magical formula for all couples to follow, whatever works for each relationship.

oxphordo

I agree that I'd never show public display of affection no matter how much I love the guy. Just being really close and adjusting my body's direction toward him should be enough of a clue that we're together.

Giving my man attention by listening, making sure he's okay, knowing his whereabouts, and doing things like opening the door for him are enough for me.

Working at an Aquatic Park in the summers, nothing drives me crazy more than couples who lay on the same lounge chair and are all over each other, or they're straddling each other in the pool and kissing. I tell them that we're a friendly facility. People are already almost naked, last thing they need is a setting that gets the blood moving by the people around the couple wondering if they're fingering each other under the water.

JerodParker

I'm not into kissing in public. Hand holding, I did. But my friend is a clean freak and would use alcohol after.

EHG

@lovebearlove:

what do u guys think of this？

I don't do it. I live in a country town in Australia and the 1 time I did I got verbally abused by some a-holes. Now even when I'm in big cities I still don't do it because I don't want to risk it.

thmail2003

I believe it depends on the situation. I am married for 7 years so it doesn't botter me.

lovebearlove

@EHG:

@lovebearlove:

what do u guys think of this？

I don't do it. I live in a country town in Australia and the 1 time I did I got verbally abused by some a-holes. Now even when I'm in big cities I still don't do it because I don't want to risk it.

oh dear…....sorry to remind u of that

rufusmc

As they say Location, location, location. There are places here where I would happily walk hand in hand and have a quick kiss (I'm not a great believer in anyone going for a full on snog in public), but there are definitely places where I wouldn't simply because I know the area is full of those who would happily try to pummel you in to oblivion.

So in answer to the question, no I wouldn't feel upset if my man chose not to hold hands/kiss me in public.