Am I Ugly?
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Maybe it is because I'm into young twinkish guys. I just find it hard to believe that none like an older guy.
Ah yes… From my experience, the younger ones are way more narrow-minded and shallow than they were even when I was still just a twinkie. A lot of the ones that I've seen will take one look at the long hair and keep scrolling sadly.
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Not that I am all too interested, but I can't even get a hook up on Grindr.
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You're not ugly.
You are making yourself look "unflattering".
Get a different hair cut. Wear contacts or get better shaped glasses.
Fix the teeth if possible.
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Maybe it is because I'm into young twinkish guys. I just find it hard to believe that none like an older guy.
Oh, yes, this definitely makes a difference. While there are always exceptions, twinks on the whole tend to be oblivious to just how shallow and superficial they can be, according to my observations. Not many (statistically speaking) have the emotional maturity or life experience to see past things like hairstyle, weight, etc.
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If I was able to get passed the introduction phase, I think I could easily rock it. I communicate well, have a set of interests, and so on. My problem is getting the initial introduction. Since they have not talked to me, and do not yet know what I have to offer, physical attractiveness is all they have to go by.
This is exactly why choosing the right picture is important. I know you said you don't want to "trick" guys with your photo, but there is a general understanding in online dating that people choose a profile picture that paints them in the best light. Using a photo in which you are 10 years younger or 30 kg lighter is certainly deceitful to me (unless you have a good reason for using that photo and make it clear that you don't look that way anymore). I think taking off your glasses for a photo to show your face is perfectly acceptable, though. On sites that allow more than one photo, you can add some with the glasses to show the diversity of how you can look.
I guess the real question is this: Assuming a better picture gets you more real-life meetings, is it worth having a few guys feel tricked if it also means someone will be possibly disappointed at first, but stick around long enough to start liking who you are?
To answer your question, what started the conversation off with my boyfriend, whom I have not found attractive at first. We corresponded on-line (one of dating sites) for a year… Exchanging a message once every few weeks/months. And I probably would have not met him (we lived far away) on my own initiative. But he wanted to come and meet me up at an airport when I was returning from holidays in my home country. I had to stay at a hotel to take the train next morning. He kind of convinced me to let him stay... (originally I wanted to meet for breakfast)...
And then I found out lots of attractive things about him. He wore very cheap clothes, because he liked to save (impressive). He had an upper class accent as he went to a boarding school. Had a dry sense of humour. Was into a lot of the same things as me - learning, history, politics... He also had a massive cock and knew how to use it. And was super enthusiastic about me. So that's how it began. Later on he became very attractive to me even though he looked 20 years older than his actual age
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I can't really tell from the pictures but do the glasses make your eyes look magnified?.. if so, that kind of effect could be affecting your appearance negatively.
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Do things that improve your confidence in yourself - stop trying to please others - if you spend too much time trying to please others then you get nowhere, in my opinion.
The sexiest men who exude a lack of confidence may seem to get more offers - but those offers get retracted, quite quickly - it is hard to do because extreme arrogance is also a turn off - even in the way you write your profiles online can be telling on your confidence level. Trust in yourself and fake it a little (NO LYING though lol)
be comfortable in your own skin.. treat yourself.. if you are concerned about your hair or your glasses - treat yourself, save the money and change them
Hair is easy to change - go to a hairdresser, one you trust or has good reviews in your area and, without going in to too much detail, explain you are after a new look and ask them for advice on something that would suit you
I wear glasses too - I understand 1000% they are not cheap but I see it like this - They are the only thing we wear every. single. day. of my life (unless you have multiple pairs lol )
I see people complain about glasses costs but then spend $200 on a pair of shoes they wear 3x
invest in yourself - you are not ugly and noone is perfect to everyone - no matter what ppl say
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Gay world is full of drama. I know that one would wonder when a guy you send your pic on grindr says not interested or "you are not my type"…. But the main thing to remember is that "Just be yourself"
Also now a days, you can get a lot of inspiration and ideas from Youtube. There are hundreds of videos posted that shows you how to dress well, how to impress people, how to have clear skin, how to have attractive hairstyle. Just see and make a change for yourself -
A haircut may be in order
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Nah.
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how abt change ur long hair….and start to leave some beard on.....take off ur glasses.....and hit the gym to become really muscular......then u ll be one of the gods :P......u have the great potential to be hot....dont give urself up
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