How old were you when you find that you gay ??
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I'm about twenty and I haven't found him yet.
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It was all over. I was having dreams about locker room gangbangs at 5. Then when I was around 8 a friend of mine called the Hanson Brother or Backstreet Boys, I can't remember, Gay. I asked what that was and he said two boys who love each other. At that point I was like, oh shit that's me.
Life went on, I tried to deny it and eventually came to love and accept it.
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Pretty well as soon as I hit puberty. I was at an all male boarding school so sex was easily available, and I enjoyed it so much there didn't seem much point in chasing after women!
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I'm about twenty and I haven't found him yet.
We're talking about yourself.. (ourselves)
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I was having dreams about locker room gangbangs at 5.
How did you even know such things existed at age 5??? But I remember aroused thoughts about older boys in boy scout uniforms when I must've been 6 - 8. Then I thought a boy in my fourth grade class (age 9) was hot, and by that time I knew that made me queer, and that no one could ever find out. There's still something about cops and military men and those uniforms…
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I was about 15 years old when I realized that I was gay but when I look back there were definitely signs I should have been aware of.
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I was always interested in seeing naked men, though as a kid back in the 1970's it wasn't so easy to do… No internet & porn was very hard to get hold of! My first wet dream was when i was 11 & that was about a man, I woke up all sticky, thinking "that's not supposed to be what happens!" I tried to fight my sexuality all through my teens & at university trying to convince myself it was "just a phase I was going through" and keeping myself firmly in the closet (though I did suck cock for the first time when I was 19 - & I loved it).
I'm a bear, always have been even before the term was coined, & the role models for gays we had in those days in UK were Mr Humphries from "Are you being served", Larry Grayson & Kenneth Williams. I didn't want to be camp or effeminate like them but I knew I preferred men to women.
Eventually when I was 24 after a long struggle with myself I gave in & admitted to myself I was gay, started going to Saunas & bars & discovered that gay comes in all flavours!
I met my hubby when I was 28, came out to my family & friends. That was 24 years agoSame experiences here but in the 80s and first 90s, without internet or porn, the TV was a source for firsts erections :masbana:.
Do you remember the character of Corky , the chubby partner of Stephen Collins in "Tales of the Gold Monkey"? Well, I think I was very young to suffer a boner, but now I can recognize that I liked the series much more because if him.
And what about Miami Vice? No, I didn't like Don Johnson, I prefer Michael Talbott character, DT Switek, the fatty boy. I remember a scene in one episode, when he kissed a girl, I found myself with a strange feeling, with chills , and yes, this was one of my firsts erections.But, remember, a boy with 10-11 years then, without no information about sex, and even less info about homosexual feelings or relations.
For me there was like…mmm.. I feel this excitement because I watched a kiss, no problem with this, it's normal, a kiss between a macho-man and a woman. And I can't be gay, because I'm not a effeminate boy, and I like to play the games of boys of my age, (except sports, I was very intellectual), not stupid games with girls.
Also I felt similar sensations with Simon Lebon in the video "Wild Boys" (I guess by the leather pants, because I don't like it very much with other look), and with Bruce Willis in Moonlighting, I liked the series, but Willis was a plus.With 13 I had a wet dream , but never felt these days I was gay, because never liked a friend, or other young boy, and never fell in love with men or women. In my student days I liked 2 or 3 teachers, but was like "wow! I admire him" in an intellectual way. Today I admit, I liked in a sexual way also, but in the past was like they were only fantasies of my mind, because I don't was a twink or effeminate man, and don't liked.
The older men, always attracted me, but even so, I ignored the idea of being gay , until I fell in love around 23/24, at first was like the feelings for one of teachers of my past, but the feeling was growing and I admitted so sincerily that it hurts me to recognize to me that I was not "normal". I didn't trust in anyone to talk about this, except him. So, even though I was scared , because I didn't know how it would react about another man , younger, confessing his love for him, I told him. I was desperate, and in the closet. :closet:
I know from the begining that he wouldn't correspond to my feelings, because he was happy married with children, but I needed, simply talk.
I was so scared that his reaction was very homophobic and/or violent, but was one of the the best reactions I could imagine, he supported me and encouraged me to ask for help (I was very, very depressed those days) , and for coming out. Well, It took me one year more after this to coming out to my parents, I was 26. And then, soon I realized that I liked bears and I was "normal", and not alone anymore. -
I was always interested in seeing naked men, though as a kid back in the 1970's it wasn't so easy to do… No internet & porn was very hard to get hold of! My first wet dream was when i was 11 & that was about a man, I woke up all sticky, thinking "that's not supposed to be what happens!" I tried to fight my sexuality all through my teens & at university trying to convince myself it was "just a phase I was going through" and keeping myself firmly in the closet (though I did suck cock for the first time when I was 19 - & I loved it).
I'm a bear, always have been even before the term was coined, & the role models for gays we had in those days in UK were Mr Humphries from "Are you being served", Larry Grayson & Kenneth Williams. I didn't want to be camp or effeminate like them but I knew I preferred men to women.
Eventually when I was 24 after a long struggle with myself I gave in & admitted to myself I was gay, started going to Saunas & bars & discovered that gay comes in all flavours!
I met my hubby when I was 28, came out to my family & friends. That was 24 years agoSame experiences here but in the 80s and first 90s, without internet or porn, the TV was a source for firsts erections :masbana:.
Do you remember the character of Corky , the chubby partner of Stephen Collins in "Tales of the Gold Monkey"? Well, I think I was very young to suffer a boner, but now I can recognize that I liked the series much more because if him.
And what about Miami Vice? No, I didn't like Don Johnson, I prefer Michael Talbott character, DT Switek, the fatty boy. I remember a scene in one episode, when he kissed a girl, I found myself with a strange feeling, with chills , and yes, this was one of my firsts erections.But, remember, a boy with 10-11 years then, without no information about sex, and even less info about homosexual feelings or relations.
For me there was like…mmm.. I feel this excitement because I watched a kiss, no problem with this, it's normal, a kiss between a macho-man and a woman. And I can't be gay, because I'm not a effeminate boy, and I like to play the games of boys of my age, (except sports, I was very intellectual), not stupid games with girls.
Also I felt similar sensations with Simon Lebon in the video "Wild Boys" (I guess by the leather pants, because I don't like it very much with other look), and with Bruce Willis in Moonlighting, I liked the series, but Willis was a plus.With 13 I had a wet dream , but never felt these days I was gay, because never liked a friend, or other young boy, and never fell in love with men or women. In my student days I liked 2 or 3 teachers, but was like "wow! I admire him" in an intellectual way. Today I admit, I liked in a sexual way also, but in the past was like they were only fantasies of my mind, because I don't was a twink or effeminate man, and don't liked.
The older men, always attracted me, but even so, I ignored the idea of being gay , until I fell in love around 23/24, at first was like the feelings for one of teachers of my past, but the feeling was growing and I admitted so sincerily that it hurts me to recognize to me that I was not "normal". I didn't trust in anyone to talk about this, except him. So, even though I was scared , because I didn't know how it would react about another man , younger, confessing his love for him, I told him. I was desperate, and in the closet. :closet:
I know from the begining that he wouldn't correspond to my feelings, because he was happy married with children, but I needed, simply talk.
I was so scared that his reaction was very homophobic and/or violent, but was one of the the best reactions I could imagine, he supported me and encouraged me to ask for help (I was very, very depressed those days) , and for coming out. Well, It took me one year more after this to coming out to my parents, I was 26. And then, soon I realized that I liked bears and I was "normal", and not alone anymore.Good coming out for you!!
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About 15.
I knew I liked guys since I way younger. I enjoyed the company of other boys in my classes and got a little excited in change rooms when adult men were around. I didn't come to fully accept my sexuality until I was in high school though. -
I was attracted to my much older cousin when I was maybe about 6 or 7 years old.. I remember it vividly because I confessed it to his sister and she made fun of me for it, thankfully she never brought it up again.. it was before that age though that I started having "experiences" with both my neighbor and my classmate, it wasn't out of a sexual need but more from boredom since they were always the ones who initiated and practically begged for it.. I just agreed every time because they were my friends but I didn't actually enjoy it.. it was more about spending time with them for me.. after those experiences my curiosity grew and I started having crushes on guys, I didn't acknowledge and accept it until I was at least 13 though.
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probably 10
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I was attracted to my much older cousin when I was maybe about 6 or 7 years old..
Literally me, except that I made very active advances toward my cousin and we fooled around for several years lol
I probably didn't actually explicitly say to myself "I'm gay" until around 13 or 14 (mostly after my cousin and I stopped fucking because he went off to the military), but looking back on it, I've always been exceedingly homosexual and it's amazing that I ever thought otherwise.
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I think I already knew I was gay since I was young. I cant specify when exactly it happen cause the feeling was always there. I used to get attracted to male star in movie or like dante from dmc (he was/is hot) unlike my friends or my brothers, that like gave me an idea that my feeling toward men was different
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About 11-12 when I realized I was staring at guys for too long.
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19 years old when i fell in love with him.
The way you wrote this seems like the start of a torrid gay romance movie LOL
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I was maybe 8 and I just knew I was not like the other guys.. i even did the "stereotypical" preference for dolls rather than cars as toys etc - i didn't know/think "oh i'm gay" but i did get crushes on male teachers and even fellow male students - by the time I was 11, someone, a classmate or someone named it for me, in conversation or in a lesson - and it sort of started to click in to place.. i, personally, just accepted it as just me and i kinda just shrugged - but then by 15 i was starting to unravel - European parents in the 80s/90s did not join PFLAG LOL
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when i was 13 :laugh:
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I always knew I was different, and I did not know what the difference was, or that there was a word for it, or that there were other people like me, until about the 3rd grade. Before then, I thought I was kind of like a girl, but not exactly the same. After the 3rd grade I learned what the word "fag" meant. I had heard it before and I thought it was a generic insult, not that it meant something specific.
Then I learned it meant something specific, and it meant me and people like me, and that being like me was a bad thing.
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Maybe 14? I've wondered about it when I was younger (~9-13) but 14 was when it really hit me I was GAYYYYYY
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I noticed something wrong with me when i was a little boy, maybe 7-8yo but nothing related to sexuality, just kinda being into chubby guys, old men on tv and found them cute. Growing up a lil bit more, when i was 15-16, started to know how to masturbating, i really turned on by guys, actors i watched on tv but i just doing stuff, didnt realise i'm gay. Not until 20, i actually admitted that i'm gay and started having fantasies about a life partner and a little family of my own. 2 first people i confessed to were my best friends. And last year, i told my mom. Nothing screwed up but seems like she didn't and didn't want to admit the fact. I think living in this world, espacially in Asian countries is rough for us. I just wanna tell the the rest of the world that i'm gay and i could stop pretend i'm not infront of people.
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