Adopting last name?
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definitely varies between couples. i personally wouldn't adopt my partner's last name just because im used to my own name HAHHA
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You can do that here but I would not.
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Neither I
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So…can we hyphenate our last names or not?
I honestly feel that this last name thing would degrade into very veiled power games...Which last name goes first (or which one is adopted by the other partner)? Are there maybe hidden meanings? (the first last name in the mix is from the 'dominant' partner?)
This idea is kinda weird to me because, in my country when heterosexual couples marry the female doesn't lose her family name. Actually, the children have both their parents last names (father's+mother's, in that order) and the wife can choose to be called (in public, not officially) Mrs. Paternal last name + Maternal last name + of Husband's last name
Example: let's say a woman called Agatha Smith Souza marries a man with the last name Brown.
Her official name is still Agatha Smith Souza (remember that in Mexico we keep both our parents paternal last names) but for formal or status reasons people might call her Agatha Smith Souza de (of) Brown.
Actually the of + husband's last name seems the equivalent of this hyphenated name thing.
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my husband doesn't have a last name.. so , impossible
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I don't think it's necessary.
First we should stop trying to be mainstream, the use of the word marriage is so antiquated it doesn't fit int he Heterosexual world anymore.We should be happy that we can form a civil union and have rights with our partners.
Changing a name doesn't change the situation, nor do I think it is important. What's important is that we are becoming "normal" no loner weird but acceptable.
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I think people should be free to adopt the name of their choosing, but to be honest it kinda rubs me the wrong way when a person (straight or gay) takes their spouse's last name. It feels like they are giving up part of their identity. I certainly did not choose to do that, particularly as I am the last person in my family with my surname, it would feel disrespectful to my heritage to give it up.
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I wouldn't change my last name. My partner can do whatever he wants.
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I would probably add his name next to mine, if it isn't really uggly. :cheesy2:
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I would be okay with adopting my husbands last time, but only if he wants to do the same.
The whole culture of the woman getting the man's last name after marriage is just kinda absurd to me. It makes it seem like the woman is like somehow lesser than the man.But if the partners take each other's last names, then to me, it sort of signifies the unification of their families, you know? Same thing with hyphenated names.
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i am against marriage, homosexual, heterosexual, everything.So i would not even adopt any name and i would never marry.
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I don't see the need to do it, so I probably won't (assuming that I would marry, and I don't see the need to either).
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My husband took my last name when we got married. I told him that I would never change my last name, so he has to make sure he really wanted to change his name (I was okay with keeping separate names). It was a hassle for him to change his name, but he says it was worth it.
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I remember I had a college professor who took his wife's last name. I always looked at him as a spineless loser after that. I guess if you're in a gay couple it doesn't really matter. But a man taking his wife's name seemed really unmanly to me.
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My partner and I have been together for 30yrs. We only now have started talking marriage, I guess because we are older and don't want or need family drama in the event something happens to one of us.
We have talked about name changes and we are trying to incorperate both because he is the last of his line and I'm a junior so we want to honor both names. We will figure it out. everyone needs to do what's rite for them. -
Adopting the last name is old fashioned and sexist, in our opinion.
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I think it's romantic… if both decide to do it.
I like the idea of creating a bond, but it also could look like an attempt of ownership of the other person's identity...
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the new age law don’t allow change the family name here. bcos the government think wife adopted husband name is not fair to woman.
and same sexual marriage is never available here. even if it’s available I think the new age law still effect to same sexual marriage
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My partner and I have been together for 30yrs. We only now have started talking marriage, I guess because we are older and don't want or need family drama in the event something happens to one of us.
We have talked about name changes and we are trying to incorperate both because he is the last of his line and I'm a junior so we want to honor both names. We will figure it out. everyone needs to do what's rite for them.32 years here and we are in the same boat.
Talking about it but not sure what to do with the names at this point. Seem to be leaning towards a new last name. -
Its sad to say that my surname is the only thing that is even remotely posh about me in anyway, I'm common as muck really, apart from my name that is, and so I'm bloody well keeping it ;D
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