Do you feel disgusted after you masturbate to porn?

[raphjd]

I never felt "disgusted" about porn.

I grew up in a house where sex wasn't treated as a bad thing.

[Domosuke]

@raphjd:

I never felt "disgusted" about porn.

I grew up in a house where sex wasn't treated as a bad thing.

Disgust can have different meanings.

No I know porn viewing is normal.

But to some people, "You're so deviant and ugly you can't get a partner you have to watch a porno"

[DamaDama]

sometimes i do, sometimes i don't.It depends on my mood.

[bimsbims]

i do from time to time, but i want to say it was worst in the past. i've like learned to think around it.

for me it's the times when my "sessions" of porn and jerking off seem to escalate, and an idea i've read about somewhere is that the shame/guilt comes from a sense of losing control? i can actually sort of relate it to times when i've binged on food and such like it's a similar thing.

another theory is that it's just pure hormones, because sex is all about dopamine - that the shame/guilt basically just is feeling the drastic dip after that intense peak u know?

anyways i'm with you and i bet a lot of other guys are too lol

[PumpingMuscl]

yes I do and not because of the porn. I feel bad after masturbating because it's not healthy for me. it feels good when I do it once in a while totally worth it and satisfying with no bad effects, but when I keep doing it for a few days I feel so ashamed because it makes me always tired, lazy also makes my sight weaker and my face looks older and more important it makes my hair falls out which is always scary for me and don't tell me I'm not eating well because I eat like a pig and take vitamins. I don't know how it's not officially proven yet that masturbating isn't healthy but it is for me and I can see the big difference to my mood,face and hair when I stop for a couple of weeks and that's why I feel bad after I do it.

[acakbenak]

I am in a long-distance long-term monogamous relationship, and my partner and I decided that it's better to masturbate to porn than having one night stands with strangers.

I don't feel disgusted afterwards; however, even when I thought "I'm so horny I will do it twice," after I finally cum, I immediately clean up.

The funny thing is, when I watch porn, I find that the actors don't matter to me anymore, but the audio. When I tried to watch it without sound, it took me way longer to cum. But when I just listen to the audio, not even watching it, I finish way quicker.

Maybe it's just me.

[spam17]

@bob85:

It seems like every time I masturbate to porn, I feel a sense of disgust after I climax.

It's like this:
I'm horny and I want to watch some porn. My emotions are positive as I start masturbating…I'm enjoying myself...It feels good...I continue to feel great until I climax. After cumming, my feelings/thoughts turn completely 180 degrees...I feel disgusted, ashamed, dirty, like I did something wrong.

Anybody else feel this way or used to? How do you stop these negative feelings?

I know this feeling..

:cheesy2:

[PumpingMuscl]

@PumpingMuscl:

yes I do and not because of the porn. I feel bad after masturbating because it's not healthy for me. it feels good when I do it once in a while totally worth it and satisfying with no bad effects, but when I keep doing it for a few days I feel so ashamed because it makes me always tired, lazy also makes my sight weaker and my face looks older and more important it makes my hair falls out which is always scary for me and don't tell me I'm not eating well because I eat like a pig and take vitamins. I don't know how it's not officially proven yet that masturbating isn't healthy but it is for me and I can see the big difference to my mood,face and hair when I stop for a couple of weeks and that's why I feel bad after I do it.

whoever downvote me has issues! I'm talking about my own experience and my own feelings it's not your fucking business to dislike it.

[Eridanos]

@PumpingMuscl

IF there was something bad regarding masturbation I'm pretty sure the world's male population would be dying before they reached adulthood.

(And no, I'm not the one who downvoted your comment)

Truth is society has made people feel bad regarding self-pleasure and porn.  From the youth days due to religious or moral codes to the adult days where some people regard the use of pornography and masturbation as unfitting. Some examples:

If you're an adult, you don't need porn anymore, you can just hook up with someone.

Wanking off alone is for losers.  Studs get full on sex.

Partners who feel bad when the other one uses porn to jerk off because they think they're unable to completely satisfy them. ( I think this one is prone to happen more in heterosexual relations)

[PumpingMuscl]

@Eridanos I understand and I was talking about my own experience not in general. I know guys who jerk off every single day with no bad effects at all. but unfortunately for me it's unhealthy I wish my body can handle it everyday  ;D anyway I answered the OP question with my own personal reason. I wasn't trying to make anyone feels bad about masturbation.

[raphjd]

The one time US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders got fired by Bill Clinton because she said;  masturbation is natural and healthy.

[Ellis]

As far as I can remember, it’s always been and continues to be a fun until I’m done feeling and reaction that comes on immediately after any orgasm. Whether by masturbating alone or while having partnered sex, after I cum all interest in anything sexual is totally gone.

Looking back, I can vividly recall being 18 and a senior in high school–Sunday afternoons, mom and sister out, and me and my “high school sweetheart” having sex in my bedroom. It was always a case of once I was through, all I thought about was getting back to the living room to watch football.

These days, and in spite of currently being in a couple of committed relationships of over 34 and 20 years, of the countless loads I routinely deliver, very few are sucked out or fucked out, being stroked out instead.

That being said, for me, masturbating is like waking up or coming to from a state where the “little head” was in complete control of things. Once satisfied, control is given back to the “big head”--to clean up all the mess.  ???

As far as doing anything to prevent that "post-jack attack" from happening–I never thought about it. The first thing that immediately comes to mind after doing the do, and that brief disgust-thing has passed…

shower or no shower?

[SemenDemon]

I don't really feel disgusted afterward. Sometimes I get very depressed, though. I assume it's the result of all the endorphins associated with feeding my horned-up brain with sexual stimulation being snatched away seconds after orgasm. Once it's over, I feel a profound existential despair that I can't even put into words. It's as if, once the thing (sexual stimulation and orgasm) I'd focused all my attention on and derived all of my pleasure from for the last however many minutes/hours is snuffed out, I feel like my life has lost all significance. This feeling, referred to as post-coital tristesse, can last anywhere from 5-10 minutes for me.

Fortunately, it doesn't happen every time I orgasm. Only occasionally, or while under the influence of certain medications. Still, it's fucking brutal when it does happen. In general, I don't experience disgust or depression, but I do become totally disinterested in sex. It takes me anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes for me to get back to my baseline, where I can go on about my business, feeling relieved of my horniness, but not totally disinterested in everything, including cleaning myself off.

[yababylol]

The shame feelings are about cultural programming, trust me. I don't know what your upbringing was like, but even a casual connection to Western culture tends to bring with it deeply ingrained Old Testatment hangups about your own sexuality.

Even an atheist who pragmatically knows in his head there's no logical reason to keep feeling those old fears and shameful feelings can't escape an entire childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, etc … however long it took you to mature enough to understand there's nothing wrong with you venting off perfectly natural horny steam, as an adult man, has little to do with it. If you're religious, it's the screaming of the preacher and your parents that have those subconscious reactions programmed into you.

If not, it's at least the jeering and jokes from your peers while you were going through school and growing up (I still remember the day I could finally get all of my male friends to admit to me that they jerked off, at 18. We'd spent the last 6 years denying it and using it as an insult against each other). That stuff sticks with you in ways that don't even touch on your conscious thoughts. They become instinct after while.

Still, there's hope and good news -- you can and will deprogram that nonsense shit. It just takes time, and a refusal to let it beat you. Now, when I miss a day of jacking off, THAT'S when I feel disappointed in myself. It's like exercise for every gland in your body that produces testosterone -- it's good for you, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically to ejaculate at least once a day (or multiple times, if you can get it). The fact that you use porn as an aid is no reason for shame -- we're visual animals.

You'll get over it. I promise. I promise, humanity at large will still love you after you jack off to a video of a twink getting stuffed up the rump. What's more, the people you're talking to right now can relate.  

[junior]

Not at all.

[bob85]

@yababylol:

The shame feelings are about cultural programming, trust me. I don't know what your upbringing was like, but even a casual connection to Western culture tends to bring with it deeply ingrained Old Testatment hangups about your own sexuality.

Even an atheist who pragmatically knows in his head there's no logical reason to keep feeling those old fears and shameful feelings can't escape an entire childhood, adolescence, early adulthood, etc … however long it took you to mature enough to understand there's nothing wrong with you venting off perfectly natural horny steam, as an adult man, has little to do with it. If you're religious, it's the screaming of the preacher and your parents that have those subconscious reactions programmed into you.

If not, it's at least the jeering and jokes from your peers while you were going through school and growing up (I still remember the day I could finally get all of my male friends to admit to me that they jerked off, at 18. We'd spent the last 6 years denying it and using it as an insult against each other). That stuff sticks with you in ways that don't even touch on your conscious thoughts. They become instinct after while.

Still, there's hope and good news -- you can and will deprogram that nonsense shit. It just takes time, and a refusal to let it beat you. Now, when I miss a day of jacking off, THAT'S when I feel disappointed in myself. It's like exercise for every gland in your body that produces testosterone -- it's good for you, mentally, emotionally, and physiologically to ejaculate at least once a day (or multiple times, if you can get it). The fact that you use porn as an aid is no reason for shame -- we're visual animals.

You'll get over it. I promise. I promise, humanity at large will still love you after you jack off to a video of a twink getting stuffed up the rump. What's more, the people you're talking to right now can relate.  

Excellent advice! You hit the nail on the head with that post! I think it was my upbringing that is making me feel down after I masturbate to porn. All the bad things I've been taught as a child/teenager about masturbation and porn (and how being gay is the "worst" thing someone could be) is still ingrained in my mind. It's amazing that even at 23, I still have feelings of shame, guilt, and disgust thanks to my cultural upbringing.

Thanks all for your advice as well!

[Aldiabalos]

Somewhere I read that it's not uncommon to feel a bit depressed after cumming. I think it happens with more or less intensity depending of the person. It's totally normal.

[ffuck]

Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit

[spam17]

@ffuck:

Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit

Isn't that an excuse?

::)

[ffuck]

@spam17:

@ffuck:

Feeling a bit depressed or disgusted after masturbation is so common it should be considered a rule. and it's pretty normal too, it's hormonal (since you have a sexual hormone drop after cumming and also emotional hormone levels increase). Don't worry, it goes away after a bit

Isn't that an excuse?

::)

An excuse for what? Masturbating more? :laugh: :laugh: