Do you only date a certain race or it doesn't matter to you?

brianboru72

It's hard to argue against the idea of preferences and for a lot of people it seems race is a huge factor.

But for me it has more often been about personality- the ability to hold a conversation and have a good sense of humor are more important than anything else if I'm looking for a relationship. So I would say race plays less of a factor for me.

PetShopBoys

It's not racist or discriminatory to be attracted or unattracted to a certain race. I'm a Black man and I've had guys tell me:

1. "Sorry, I'm just not attracted to Black guys."
And that's okay. Because to be honest, I'm not attracted to Black guys either! They've made no judgment on my race/ethnicity or character as a whole. They're just not attracted to dark skin or African features. And that's 100% okay.

2. "I'd never date a Black guy."
This is usually because of some prejudicial preconceived notion about Black people in general. And that's NOT okay. Not being into Black men is one thing. Being flat out racist is quite another.

That being said, my dating and sexual history is overwhelmingly White. Although just last night, I hooked up with a gorgeous Hispanic guy. I've been attracted to a few Black men and a few Asian men in my life (and various other races) and I certainly will again. But I'm most attracted to White men.

majikock

I think to rephrase the question as "would we exclude dating someone based on their race?" may get to the bottom of some of the murky waters because if inherently the answer to that yes then you have decided that race is a defining factor on finding someone attractive, your prerogative of course. I'm a white guy who has dated many "races" in a weird way I suppose a culture clash sometimes makes things more interesting, more to learn from, but some people click and some don't, but even so, a culture difference is not defined by being of a different "race". The culture or colour of a person SHOULD not be deemed as an appeal nor a turn off. Its simply just who we are in appearance. Having said that, its quite alright for me to sit here and state my opinion, but I'd be a hypocrite if I said I always practiced what I preached, because the culture or colour of a person can certainly be an appeal, but never has it been a turn off.

Bluesurfer

For myself I would have to say I'm color blind. Don't care what "race" a person is, but rather what kind of guy he is. Is he considerate of other people and their feelings is a big issue for me and frankly I have never given any consideration to whether a person was non-white, although I must be honest and say that it is mostly Caucasian men that I find the hardest to date mainly due to hearing from them "I'm not racist, but", which is a red flag for me. I was raised by parent who always told us that the only race was the human race and you don't judge a person by their color but rather by their actions! :true:

semurg30

I'm kind of grossed out by dark penises…they just remind of poop. I can't really look directly at them.

JACK777

This question in itself is full of sexual prejudice and negative exoticism.

@semurg30:

I'm kind of grossed out by dark penises…they just remind of poop. I can't really look directly at them.

To this gentleman I would say, perhaps try and think of peanut butter and chocolate instead of poop next time.

HumanUrinal

I fancy all kinds of people across all kinds of races and types.
I don't disqualify entire swathes of people from my sexual interest just because of their race, because I'm normal and it's natural to be attracted to all kinds of people.
Just go with the flow

sucri1985

Come on! The only thing I can think when I see a black penis is how happy I will be soon :cheers:

SemenDemon

@PetShopBoys:

It's not racist or discriminatory to be attracted or unattracted to a certain race. I'm a Black man and I've had guys tell me:

1. "Sorry, I'm just not attracted to Black guys."
And that's okay. Because to be honest, I'm not attracted to Black guys either! They've made no judgment on my race/ethnicity or character as a whole. They're just not attracted to dark skin or African features. And that's 100% okay.

2. "I'd never date a Black guy."
This is usually because of some prejudicial preconceived notion about Black people in general. And that's NOT okay. Not being into Black men is one thing. Being flat out racist is quite another.

This is how I look at it, too. Hookups ought to be about fulfilling personal preference, not anything meaningful (kinda why I don't like them). Frankly, I will fuck most guys. I don't have any racial preference for what amounts to one evening of glorified masturbation. But I fail to see why it's an issue if anyone does have a preference for something so insignificant. They're just trying to briefly fulfill some fantasy, not affirm other people or build a meaningful relationship. So what if that fantasy only involves a certain race or "type" of person? Too bad. Get over yourself.

Hookups and "dates" are two very different things in my mind, though. I don't think of a date as a long-winded form of foreplay leading up to sex. I look at it as a chance to get to know someone. Not necessarily with sexual or romantic intentions, but to see where things go with a new person. Maybe they will lead to sex and/or romance. Maybe you'll just be platonic friends. if you're unwilling to go on a date with someone based on race, that seems quite racist to me, given my definition of dating.

I think, if you develop romantic feelings for someone who doesn't fit your preferences, and those preferences are the only thing stopping you from being being involved with them, then, yeah, that seems racist, too. At best, it seems incredibly shallow.

@semurg30:

I'm kind of grossed out by dark penises…they just remind of poop. I can't really look directly at them.

lol.

horyna

Of course I would if he's a hot guy.

The person must be right, skin tone is secondary.

byassi11

I usually feel attracted by guys with light skin, dark hair and dark eyes (not any ethnicity in particular), it's a common feature in east asia, so i have a thing for asians.

RectalTemp

I have mostly always lived in either Los Angeles, California, or New York City, so I have always been around a wide rage of people from all over the world for most of my life. Likewise, I have recognized attractive men of every race and ethnicity from every part of the world. My only preference to dating someone is that we be close in age, and that they behave with integrity and with respect for themselves and others. I do prefer a guy that appears attractive to me, but since that's a quality I have found represented in every race of man I have ever come across, barring that, humor and a great personality go a long way to make up for whatever I may perceive he lacks in aesthetics. Long story short, there is no race of man that I would not consider dating, as long as I am single and available.

matwlep

@horyna:

Of course I would if he's a hot guy.

The person must be right, skin tone is secondary.

I have no race preference, I moved from Europe to Asia and previously I was ambivalent about Asian guys, now I find them very hot.

ffuck

I also think that being attracted to a certain race more than to another is only a matter of preference.
Take me for example: I am half Greek half Czech man, who lived his entire life in Europe, a predominantly white continent. And I am mostly attracted to white guys (with middle eastern guys being second). I think it's just a matter of what you have been exposed to during your lifetime. For me it's white guys. I feel more compatible with them, I can understand them more, since I'm white myself. I would like to date guys of different races, I'm totally up for that, I just think that I will always be more attracted to white guys since I see myself in them and I can relate more.

Racism is thinking of one race as superior to the others.

And just to mention, doesn't it really work this way for other races too? Black guys often date only black guys, latinos date latinos… It's pretty much a normal thing to be attracted more towards what you are used to.

**Also, personal pet-peeve here, but I have to say it: STOP calling yourselves "Caucasian", come on! I know you white people don't like the term "white" since it sounds so boring, but don't use some fancy word to talk about your race. I know that this is used in IDs and other stuff but in common conversation, srsly, it's annoying. Plus, not even people who are actually from Caucasus don't call themselves "Caucasians", why would you???

Domosuke

@ffuck:

And just to mention, doesn't it really work this way for other races too? Black guys often date only black guys, latinos date latinos…
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Not for gay men in western society.

Usually gay men in United States, Canada, England are happy with whatever he gets.

The gay community is also racist. So sometimes it's like that.

everyman

Having now lived in big cities, I have found all shades of guys attractive and had a good time with many of them. I guess if I have one my preference would be black but I think that may be because my first was a black schoolmate my age. We discovered together what to do and how to do it to makes us feel great.

adventurer75

@cannonmc:

Don't be silly. It is not racist to be attracted to someone of an ethnicity, race, nationality. It is not '-ist' to say you prefer one thing over another. If I like fat Asian twinks or slim mature Africans, it is not racist to say what turns me on.

AGREED. Well said CMC

Bluesurfer

@LEVI:

Yes, I only date members of the human race.

Said so well…. Thank You and I couldn't agree more!!!!!

DamaDama

i can date anyone i guess, but i have had only one date in my life and that turned out to be my current boyfriend.But sure, i would try to date with any race

JerodParker

I'm not after dates. Mostly sex, hehe.

Been with only one black guy once (long, thin cock). The middle eastern man I met was a hot fuck. So was the Japanese man I had (except he was married). More variety is nice.