Can you be friends with you ex-boyfriend?
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Well my situation with my longest boyfriend is that we don't talk anymore. We kind of parted with peace, but he's still few hours drive away so it's not like we can go grab a beer or smth. To begin with we weren't even friends. We just started as boyfriends and developed the feeling between us. We don't share hobbies and we don't have a common language. It's something I think friends should share. We tried to be friends but it was more like a 'coming back' time.
On the other hand the guy I'm meeting with right now starts as friends. He has contact with some of his exes because they were friends at first and for him the end of relationship doesn't change that.
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i agree if there is no more sexual interested or any emotions left yes why not to be friends with them!!! but if there is its just heartbreaking and drama you better off that
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I've stayed on good terms with three of my ex's. Good friends with one, so much so that I was best man at his wedding.
It is perfectly possible to stay friends with an ex, providing the end of the 'love affair' period of the relationship ends without animosity and mutual respect.
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It depends on the ex…some yes, some no; I think it depends on who may still want to be in a relationship and where the power is...if it is a mutual breakup...that's usually the most friendly
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i had try but i cant
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I think it's hard but not impossible. It's hard if we still one of us still has feelings for the other.
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I cant because of his boyfriend who hates me
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Well I have an ex that we are really REALLY good friends with. He is great as a friend and so am I. The thing is he is not toxic so I think that has to do with how it is not affecting us in any other way. It has to do with what kind of character you have and he has.
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I dont think that is possible, I would be jealous, even if it was me who ended the relationship.
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I've never been able to manage this. Once I'm "in love" and it goes sour, I usually need a LOT of distance from the person to even begin the process of getting over it (no matter who pulled the plug), and at that point, we've grown so far apart that interaction in the future is awkward. That's best case scenario, too … sometimes, old feelings get kicked up, which is even worse.
I'm always a little perplexed by people who talk about hanging out with exes as friends long after relationships are over, but I've noticed that the people who say that they can do this are the sort of people that have very high relationship turnover (the folks who can point to a long list of exes, and always seem to be "with" somebody, never single for longer than a month or two).
The only thing I can think is that their definition of being "in love" is very different from mine. Love, for me, is drowning in the concept of somebody, and if it goes on long enough, making them a secure fixture in your life. Comfortable and known and reliable. They should never stop making you happy when you get to spend time with them. I don't even cross into the "relationship" zone with them unless I'm literally getting butterflies in the stomach when I think about them.
Others just go "meh" and say "let's see how it goes" and slap that Facebook In-a-Relationship status up at the drop of a hat.
The people who have exes as friends never give themselves over to it as completely as the people who can't be friends with exes do. They're holding parts of themselves back, always guarded, so that they never risk becoming too invested. That's my theory.
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