Are you attracted to transgender people?

pjbf1979

I'm scared to say that I'm not… nowadays everything that you say can be used against you. People call me transphobic and genitalist because I wouldn't have sex with a trans person, but the fact is that I like the male body and I like cock. I'm not sexually atractedby female bodies, and even though I think a male trans body beautifull I will miss the cock when it comes to sex. Is it wrong? If so, how is it any different from discriminating any other sexual preferences?

As an FtM transmasculine person, I have no problem with your feelings. If you were an asshole about transpeople, I'd have an issue. But people are attracted to what/whom they're attracted. You're not racist if you're not sexually attracted to black people. You're not transphobic if you're not attracted to transpeople.

I'm not attracted to fat people. Doesn't mean I hate them, nor that I'm self-loathing (I'm fat).

There will be people who hate on you for your attraction or lack thereof. But fuck em. Or rather tell them to fuck themselves ;D

pjbf1979

This thread gives me much hope. I'm FtM (femmeboi is my current label of choice, though I have many) and I've honestly despaired of having sex again, much less having a relationship.

ffuck

@pjbf1979:

@hhsq:

I'm scared to say that I'm not… nowadays everything that you say can be used against you. People call me transphobic and genitalist because I wouldn't have sex with a trans person, but the fact is that I like the male body and I like cock. I'm not sexually atractedby female bodies, and even though I think a male trans body beautifull I will miss the cock when it comes to sex. Is it wrong? If so, how is it any different from discriminating any other sexual preferences?

As an FtM transmasculine person, I have no problem with your feelings. If you were an asshole about transpeople, I'd have an issue. But people are attracted to what/whom they're attracted. You're not racist if you're not sexually attracted to black people. You're not transphobic if you're not attracted to transpeople.

I'm not attracted to fat people. Doesn't mean I hate them, nor that I'm self-loathing (I'm fat).

There will be people who hate on you for your attraction or lack thereof. But fuck em. Or rather tell them to fuck themselves ;D

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! I'm personally tired of people all around the internet saying the opposite, that for example you are a racist for not liking PoC or a fat-shamer for not liking fat people. I totally agree with you, there is a huge difference between actually hating someone and just not being attracted to them sexually/romantically. You are the type of person we need more on the internet, CHEERS BUDDY! :cheers: :cheers:

zeropolis79

I'll admit I have a friend on Facebook who is a MtF transgender who has gone through most of the ops but has the obvious look of a male to him/her and I think I'd like to fuck him/her if they weren't already taken..

(I won't share a photo as the person is a good friend)

Spawner12

Nah i like masculine guys so i dont think i'd fall for a male to female transgender person. But im sure i could get attracted to a cute looking guy without knowing that he was a girl before ;D. Would be akward when i would try to talk to him and he is into girls.

zeropolis79

@ffuck:

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! I'm personally tired of people all around the internet saying the opposite, that for example you are a racist for not liking PoC or a fat-shamer for not liking fat people. I totally agree with you, there is a huge difference between actually hating someone and just not being attracted to them sexually/romantically. You are the type of person we need more on the internet, CHEERS BUDDY! :cheers: :cheers:

What I like about this thread is that people aren't conforming to opinions that have to be politically correct.

If I said (for example) I don't mind Japanese guys (thanks to my first wife, I have a few Japanese guy friends I've traded games with) but don't find them sexually attractive, would that make me racist?

ffuck

@zeropolis79:

[…] would that make me racist?

No. you just have preferences like every human being.

spam17

@ffuck:

@zeropolis79:

[…] would that make me racist?

No. you just have preferences like every human being.

;D

pjbf1979

@zeropolis79:

I'll admit I have a friend on Facebook who is a MtF transgender who has gone through most of the ops but has the obvious look of a male to him/her and I think I'd like to fuck him/her if they weren't already taken..

(I won't share a photo as the person is a good friend)

As a transperson, I'd like to weigh in on your wording here. I know there's no tone on the internet, so let me clarify that I'm not trying to be a dick; quite the opposite.

As a MtF, most likely your friend's pronoun is feminine. Regardless, using him/her (and likewise he/she) is offensive, even if unintentionally so (I've known people who thought they were being inclusive with the term). It may not offend your friend (I certainly can't speak for them) but it may, and they just don't know how to say that they're offended or hurt (I have this situation with some lifelong friends).

If you're unsure which pronoun to use (not just with your friend but anyone in general), defaulting to the neutral they/them is a safe bet.

monty

Attraction happens in the brain for me. I could see myself being attracted to a transgender person if the spark was there.

zeropolis79

@pjbf1979:

As a transperson, I'd like to weigh in on your wording here. I know there's no tone on the internet, so let me clarify that I'm not trying to be a dick; quite the opposite.

As a MtF, most likely your friend's pronoun is feminine. Regardless, using him/her (and likewise he/she) is offensive, even if unintentionally so (I've known people who thought they were being inclusive with the term). It may not offend your friend (I certainly can't speak for them) but it may, and they just don't know how to say that they're offended or hurt (I have this situation with some lifelong friends).

If you're unsure which pronoun to use (not just with your friend but anyone in general), defaulting to the neutral they/them is a safe bet.

I don't mean to be offensive and I apologise. I''m unsure what pronoun to use..

gaypraha2

don't mean to be offensive and I apologise.

Don't apologies! pro gender, feminist, radical LGBT are just bullies and take any excuse to make a scene out of nothing. for instance I'll stick to a "mailMan" and **** mailperson and such. If they are too sensitive that's their problem. see you try to be gentle and nice by saying " he/she" but nooo that's not good enough..

pjbf1979

@gaypraha2:

don't mean to be offensive and I apologise.

Don't apologies! pro gender, feminist, radical LGBT are just bullies and take any excuse to make a scene out of nothing. for instance I'll stick to a "mailMan" and **** mailperson and such. If they are too sensitive that's their problem. see you try to be gentle and nice by saying " he/she" but nooo that's not good enough..

I'm hardly a bully. If I were I would've been a dick in my comments instead of explaining that it's offensive and offering a suggestion or two. I wasn't rude, I wasn't nasty (more than can be said your you, bitch). I indicated that I knew it was likely unintentional. Referring a person as he/she is rude. idgaf about 'mailman' and 'fireman' etc. That's apples and oranges.

But since pronouns are irrelevant to you, I'll just refer to you as female. You're sure as fuck acting like one. And if you're going to call someone a bully, little girl, make sure YOU'RE not acting like one

pjbf1979

@zeropolis79:

I don't mean to be offensive and I apologise. I''m unsure what pronoun to use..

I understand. I figured it wasn't intentional. Best bet is to ask them which pronouns they prefer. And, generally speaking, when you don't know (because you'll probably encounter a similar scenario at some point), just go with they as a pronoun. Fuck anyone who tells you "they" as singular is incorrect. We've been using it for ages that way.

gaypraha2

You're sure as fuck acting like one

see my point here lol.. end of discussion for me :cheesy2:

yababylol

Yes; I've actually hooked up with a FTM transgendered guy before, and the sex was pretty hot. Then again, vaginas aren't repulsive to me in the first place.

I've never hooked up with a MTF, with a dick or without, but I've definitely jerked off to some very pretty-looking transgendered women in porn that's made for so called "straight" men. I'd fuck some of those performers with glee.

I've officially moved on from caring about equipment and chromosome-assigned sex; if I find you attractive, I just need to know how we're gonna fit together and exchange the lovely fluids, lol. :hug2:

spam17

@yababylol:

Yes; I've actually hooked up with a FTM transgendered guy before, and the sex was pretty hot. Then again, vaginas aren't repulsive to me in the first place.

I've never hooked up with a MTF, with a dick or without, but I've definitely jerked off to some very pretty-looking transgendered women in porn that's made for so called "straight" men. I'd fuck some of those performers with glee.

I've officially moved on from caring about equipment and chromosome-assigned sex; if I find you attractive, I just need to know how we're gonna fit together and exchange the lovely fluids, lol. :hug2:

Interesting..

wesleyrayne

@Minerboh80:

Yeah, if the chemistry and the cerebral attraction was perfect then i could easily fall for a transgender!

thats how i feel too, essentially

yinjustin

Yes, but only those who look like dudes at all. A masc face with a lady part down there kinda a turnon to me. Am i 100% gay or boarding on bi?

KaiX

Not really. . . .I like men for a reason. Because they're men lol. Never been with a FTM but I wonder how that would work since I'm a bottom and I don't really understand how the FTM penis works?