Is it wrong to be with a male cousin?
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on the real, I have heard so many incest stories from friends and acquaintances, I think it's more common than not. I think most folks who have experienced it just don't admit it.
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Well; there's Japan. They (IINM) even permit cousin marriages, IINM.
But personally…hmm. Don't think I can, but go for it for those who do...?
It is perhaps wise to ask whose 'wrong' are we talking here. I admit I am using conventional morality, but not everyone does.
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In Australia (and I think in other Commonwealth areas) you can even marry your cousin, so yeah go for it.
Something like 80% of marriages were between first or second cousins, if you were straight you'd be in fine company
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It's cool with me.
But the real question is can you handle the awkwardness in the family, and judgment from society. -
It depends on cultural and societal norms really. In Asian cultures, cousin relationship are generally fine, especially if the cousin is from your mom's side of the family. Legally, I think in Japan you can marry your second cousin and beyond.
I know reproduction is not going to factor into this, but if it does, from a genetic diversity point-of-view, as long both of your parents are not brothers and sisters (as in two brothers from one family married two sisters from another family), then there are enough genetic diversity to avoid genetic problems that occurs from inbreeding.
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As everyone else has been mentioning, depends on the social norms and expectations of your culture and demographic group. As far as I'm aware, more Western cultures frown upon it. In Asian cultures in the past, it used to be the norm. It was considered good, that bloodlines were kept pure or close. Nowadays, it raises eyebrows if it is a cousin on the mother's side; and as far as I've seen - if it's a cousin on the paternal side, it's not permitted.
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i think if it's private and consensual then to each there own but nothing more then that.
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If you both like it, there's nothing wrong about it.
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Haha you are not the first that did something with his cousin. Many friends of mine did. And the cousins were straight and had kids, families etc…
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okay I am going to be the spoilsport that says. Nope, bad idea cut it out.
This isn't bashing, there is a logic to this in my head. Basically it will only ever likely be some light "fun". Worse still it will be "secret light fun".
That kind of thing just gets n the way of meeting the person where things mean something. It also just makes things awkward most of the time.
Its not so much because its incest, but mainly because I think "casual sex" in general should be used cauiosuly and be kept away from your day to day life circle.
Friends should be off limits as well, if it isn't gonna mean anything.
I know, monk behaviour. But I have truly had my fill of friendship sex drama and if I could go back I would totally avoid it. This is pretty much the same sort of thing.
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I don't think it's wrong. I wouldn't do that, but I don't judge who plays with cousins
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i dont think its bad, as long its just fooling around
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I don't think it's wrong at all, but it's not the smartest idea to mix a familial relationship and sex. I'm assuming your talking about casual sex and not actually having a relationship with your cousin, and in my experience casual sex has a tendency to blow up in someones face. There's also the chance of someone finding out, and is the drama really worth fooling around with your cousin.
If your talking about starting a relationship with your male cousin, I still don't think it's wrong, but keep in mind if your prepared for societies and your families views on the relationship, no point in starting it if it's just going to be too much for you or your cousin to handle.
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I don't think it's wrong at all, but it's not the smartest idea to mix a familial relationship and sex. I'm assuming your talking about casual sex and not actually having a relationship with your cousin, and in my experience casual sex has a tendency to blow up in someones face. There's also the chance of someone finding out, and is the drama really worth fooling around with your cousin.
If your talking about starting a relationship with your male cousin, I still don't think it's wrong, but keep in mind if your prepared for societies and your families views on the relationship, no point in starting it if it's just going to be too much for you or your cousin to handle.
totally agree!
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I don't think it's wrong at all. Incest is only between 1st degree family, brothers and sisters or parents. Cousin is fine as long as you both want to have a relationship.
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All that matters is how you and he feel about it. I do hope you take into account that if things go badly future events could be awkward.
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I know its family but if we're not having kids, is it really that bad?
The reason straight people consider it wrong is because it produces genetically aberrant offspring. Once placed under scrutiny, this taboo doesn't make much sense when applied to gay pairings. What's the difference between two unrelated gay men having a loving relationship and two gay male cousins having a loving relationship? If nobody knew they were related, there would be no difference. No offspring are created. If they were the last two people on Earth, would it matter?
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All that matters is how you and he feel about it. I do hope you take into account that if things go badly future events could be awkward.
I would agree with that!
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Really hard topic to be honest, but I wouldn't say it's wrong to be with a cousin (in any way). ;D
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There has been incest all throughout history and ages ago it seemed pretty acceptable. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it, as long as offspring aren't being produced as a result. It's just our societal mindset these days that makes it unfavorable/looked down on. Go for it and enjoy yourself. You get one life to live.
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