How do you cope with horrible people in your life?
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there is a monster where I work. It's a fat cow she's a sales person, she brings money to the company, she thinks she's a manager. Our director don't say anything because each he tries she threats to leave and he 's afraid. She's harassing every one that may be a threat for her.
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Thankfully, I am able to forget and ignore such an assholes
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I ignore them…
Life is too short and I don`t want to waste my time on irellevant people... -
I'm sorry to hear of your situation, but it seems like you really do care for your family. Also sounds like you're pretty pissed off your siblings don't care about the person who provided all of you care when you were younger; pretty reasonable emotion to feel. Perhaps it may suit you to focus on caring for your mother, strengthen that bond between you and her. Your siblings may come and go. If they don't want to spend that time, that's fine. I'm sure your mother knows that it is you putting your time and effort to care for her. Cherish that, focus on it, dont let it go. Feeling angry at your siblings may take your attention away from caring for your mother, but I can understand your anger at your siblings.
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Any of the horrible people in my life are dead so I don't have horrible people in my life. It's a little odd however when someone will say to me "Oh I was talking to bla bla" and I don't know whether to question their ability to talk to the dead or their sanity.
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If they are not helping you towards a goal, nor impeding your own progress, then they are irrelevant and deserve no recognition. That's how I finally learned to deal with my family. I was pretty much in the same situation.
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just ignore
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Hi Derekinsa,
I am Hiten from India. 35.
Well I am in a similar situation but I want to approach your problems in various angles.
First, the angle of your karma or deeds-
I must tell that you are very mature and a real adult unlike me who happens to run away at the slightest signal of discomfort.
:cheers:So I must applaud you for what your putting up with. :cheers:
I have seen mature people handle such situations easily and even getaway with good opinions from others and society(not that opinions matter but the sense of integrity you get from them matters).
These kind are extremely well planned people who take things seriously but not too seriously and create plans without informing anyone.
These are the titans among us I must say and you seem to be on route to become one. You could find a similar person who juggles such duties effortlessly and get inspired.
The thing is that society literature and media gives us wrong information about taking care of family as a foolish thing to do or a sacrifice.
So you will see that if you are really 'equipped to deal' with these life problems you will easily deal with them and it is not a big sacrifice it is a calculated well planned life I would say, where you do what your mind says correct and also same time live a fruitful happier life.
Second angle- your mother
You need to take care of your mother because i feel only you are the right person the others are not equipped with any maturity whatsoever.
This deed will give you a sense of inner peace and happiness that you did what your heart told you to.
This is what sets great people away from others.
You are unique and bold.
So really you don't have to worry about the horrible people in your life because it is their loss from all these beautiful deeds and the inner peace and happiness that they can never accomplish. They are pure miserable.
Third angle - your career
You need to become 'more' empowered this i will tell to each member from a minority like gays or whatever.
This ensures you have more money and power to complete not just your duties but also complete the goal of your life.
Your prime focus now must be your goal and career i will stress because that can give you financial and other freedom.
Take a new house buy properties become rich! It is possible.
Plan a tour with your mum or keep your mum in nursing home and find time to rejuvenate.
Try to create a well planned life where your career and health is of prime importance.
Try to get a 'trustable' worker or a servant who could help you out at home front.
Try to get a life long partner who could guide you and support you in all ways to live a great life.
These three are you angles and forget about those morons who irritate you or trouble you just concentrate on your goals for now more and you will see how silly the other troubles are.
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I just try to ignore them
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Don't give a sh*t
probably the easiest way to deal with stupid people and their stuffs -
Usually, I will ignore them and handle my own business and focus on people I care about. But, still, being a member of my family sometimes it's difficult for me to not think about them, but what else can I do? If you told them to behave more appropriately and start to take their place in the family, yet they don't do it… It's like you want to save them but they don't wanna be saved...
If they aregrown ups, they should've been realized about their status in your family and help you taking care of your mother. I guess they really have issues. I think you should invite both of your siblings to have heart-to-heart, serious conversation about their attitudes, if you haven't. And if they remain apathetic... Don't think about them that much. But still, just keep in touch with them for some time.
I have an estranged uncle from my mother's side and an aunt. All of our family members used to be very close and now they treat us like strangers. I have no idea why they changed. But I still keep in touch with their sons, my cousins, because we are pretty close. I just hope when we grow up, we wouldn't be like them.
Hope your mother get well soon.
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cut them out
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I try to ignore my father who is an ass but he does acts like he asks for it!
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