Should I "come out"?

musclejizz 0

Coming out to friends was easy, it's the family that's always the problem.

Agreed. I came out to my close friends one by one (the ones i trusted the most). It certainly gets easier with each person I tell, but when it comes to my family…....I'm not sure if I'll ever let them find out.....maybe on my wedding day. That'll be a big surprise :cheers:

notquiteme

I actually tested the waters on numerous occasions:

When my parents talk about anyone who's gay, they usually refer to them as "the gay" like - do you remember our principal, the gay? - sign that for them, it is a unique identifier
When one of my closest friends came out, (his name is norman) and my parents know him, they started making quips like "oh i thought he was norman, turns out he's norma instead" and "omg are you sure he's not attracted to you?"
I was once video-chatting with one of my friends when this quirky guy starts singing in a falsetto - my dad heard it. over lunch, he pretty much screamed at me saying: "DO YOU WANT TO TURN OUT LIKE HIM? YOU WILL TURN OUT LIKE HIM!!!"

I guess for me it might not ever be the right time. Both my parents have heart problems and if they were to have a heart attack if I came out, my siblings would most likely blame me forever.

But yes, coming out to my friends wasn't precisely easy, but it opened up my world just a tiny bit more - being able to be open to them. They pretty much opened their arms to my partner, as well.

HugeDickCum

You should come out when you feel you are ready to do this. If you can accept your own sexuality then you should come out.

I came out when I was 23 and financially not independent. I live in a very homophobic society and my parents were same. But I was confident I can do it. After 2 years now they are okay with it. Now I feel I am free like a bird.

horyna

Generally I suggest to come out and be out and proud. Not all the time but in gerneral so you don't have to live a life in secrecy.

Of course there are cases where I would not suggest it: russian passport f.e.

And trust your own heart and feelings.

Minerboh80

@horyna:

Generally I suggest to come out and be out and proud. Not all the time but in gerneral so you don't have to live a life in secrecy.

Of course there are cases where I would not suggest it: russian passport f.e.

And trust your own heart and feelings.

:bravo:

milaeternal

I haven't come out yet. But I've been thinking a lot about that lately (by "lately" i mean the last two years).
Some events in my life are almost pushing me to do, because it's more pressure from my inner conflicts than i've ever experienced before. A part of me wants to avoid to take any decision. The other one urges to take an attitude.

gradguy23

I absolutely recommend coming out.

ajnessaholic

You know.. sometimes Coming Out is such a big decision.. But believe this: people who loves you for who you are won't be affected by how you label yourself: A pride out-gay man or just generally awesome :cheesy2:

milaeternal

I want to share something with you:
After a long time thinking, I came out to my mother. And she was comprehensive beyond expectations.
Then she asked me if I was interested in someone and if that was the reason I revealed it to her. I told I've never been with any guy in my life. As with any women, actually. But that's because I always had a very poor social life, and no luck in develop relationships.
I only hope this can change. The sooner the better.

Alystar

I came out when I was 12 years old. Being raised in a Latin country that's a BIG NO, NO there. Specially Puerto Rico. So I had to make that decision. Most may not agree, but it has been the best decision I have ever made.