You should never feel pressured to come out. It is your decision and yours alone. And honestly, there's never any real need to actually come out to your family… Especially if you think that it could put you in physical danger (and knowing the strict nature of orthodox Muslim communities, it almost certainly would). I would just say to instead work on building your individual financial situation up to the point where you could become 100% independent if you need to be, and then disconnect yourself from their influence entirely. Then you can come out to them if you really want them to know, but frankly, if you know they're going to react extremely negatively to it, then I would just say don't. I've never had any intention to come out to my extended family because I know the reaction will be very bad, so I basically just did what I described to you and I've never felt more free.