I've known my wife since 1996. Twenty fucking years this November. From the beginning I have been open and honest about my sexual attraction to guys. It's never been an issue between us. The way I approach all my relationships, I tell you who I am honestly, no games. Tell you what I like. What I can accept. And what I can't accept. If it's compatible with your list, great. If not, we shake hands, wish each other luck and move on.
While being with my wife, I have had sex with guys. One night stands. Fuck buddies. Even dated. But it's always been the guys who have the problem. Sometimes they can't get it out of their heads and act and believe that I am cheating. Often they become jealous of my wife. My wife and I have been together a long time. We worked on our relationship for years. Someone I've known for two months can't expect the same type of relationship as with a women I've known 5, 10, or 20 years.
My wife has given relationship advice to guys I've dated. Almost every time, they ignore it or do the exact opposite. Than I blow up because they've done something that enrages me. And attacking my wife is a very bad move. My wife is capable of defending herself. She has backed me up in physical fights. I am not jealous where she is concerned. She has dated and had sex with other guys. I know she is with me. And if there ever comes a time when she doesn't want to be with me, I trust in her honesty, trust that she'll tell me. I am not a jealous man. But once, someone I was seeing called my wife a bitch…
So gay? bi? I no longer care. I like what I want to like. Do what I want to do. Try not to cause too much damage as I live my life. You don't like that? You can fuck off.
And as for stereotypes... I'll wear what I want to wear. If it's a purple fucking tutu, I'll wear a purple fucking tutu. I'll dance along to a Bollywood musical. Scream out the lyrics to a punk song. Bake some goddamn cookies. I will not let anyone tell me how to be gay. I will not let anyone tell me how to be straight. How to be a "real" man. I make the decisions for me. I will live my life the way I want to live it.
