@cteavin:
@1995DS:
I haven't come out yet, do you have any ideas on how to do it the right way?
There are four groups to whom we come out:
Ourselves.
Our family.
Our friends.
Our community.
Then there's the fact that we come out daily, pretty much, meaning that when we step out with our bf into public or correct someone's pronoun usage we are coming out to the strangers around us.
There's no correct order except that we tend to come out to ourselves first. (There are people who's family or freinds tell them, or to whom passers-by assume for you but that's a little different.)
If you've come out to yourself and you don't know who to trust next the I suggest coming out to your community. Find the LGBT center near you, take part in an LGBT themed event (baseball game, picnic, social group), go to the gay ghetto near you and sit in a coffee shop. In the community, most everyone will empathize with you. (There's always a bitchy queen out there who doesn't pay them no mind.) Places like West Hollywood and Castro are "safe spaces".
Going to a bar or club is another way to come out to your community but the vibe is very different and alcohol is involved, that might work for you, that might not.
