How long has it been…
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Since you've had sex.
And what is the longest 'dry spell' (time without sex) you've ever had.
For me, for both it's 10 years and 2 mos. Current -_-
Anyone wanna help break that spell? :funny2:
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For me it's been 6 months, but that's due to some health complications I had recently. I'm getting better now though, so I expect to resume sex shortly ;D
But I'm curious, if it's not so rude to ask, what is it that made you not have sax for 10 years? :afr: -
But I'm curious, if it's not so rude to ask, what is it that made you not have sax for 10 years? :afr:
For a few years, immediately following a promiscuous phase, it was a direct choice, but for reasons I'd rather not state.
Then I started wanting more than one nighters and casual sex–not nec LTR but something where I felt safe mentally and physically.
Then in 2010 I identified as trans, and needed to sort myself out, where I stood in terms of both gender and sexual identity.
Being trans, most gay guys aren't interested (I'm FtMasculine). Most straight guys aren't interested. The very few bi people I know are either taken or not interested in me, so on and so forth. The people I've met who do want a transperson are fetishists and I want to be someone's lover and/or partner, so I'm not interested in being fetishised.
Take factors 2 and 3, add in that I live in a very small and relatively conservative area, am obese and not conventionally attractive, and a couple other factors, and the numbers don't stack up in favor of success.
This really isn't as much of a pity party as it sounds like, I should add.
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I really don't want to go in to details, but will say this to "Break the spell" for you, I got you beat by almost thrice.
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I had a dryspell til i lost my virginity to my (today) husband. Its about 24 years ago
We have some kind of sex almost every day, so no dry spell no more…. -
That must be difficult indeed. If I were in your shoes I'd try moving to a bigger, more cosmopolitan city and/or look for other trans people.
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That must be difficult indeed. If I were in your shoes I'd try moving to a bigger, more cosmopolitan city and/or look for other trans people.
I would like to, but right now I cant afford to live on my own; I'm back at home with a parent. There are a couple cities nearby that are more LGBT friendly, though I don't drive, so the onus would be on the other person.
I dabble in online dating occasionally, so I may find someone that way. I'm not totally hopeless. Just cynical. ;D
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