HIV +
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First post ever, saw the topic and was curious what the torrent porn crowd had to say… As someone who's been HIV+ for 26 years (omg, I'm 53 now...how'd that happen?), and who's now an RN working in HIV treatment, I'm impressed with people's thoughtful and I hope honest posts (though, no offense intended, what's up with the spit out and eat toothpaste plan? if it "worked," it was probably a coincidence. I'd go for PEP (the old PREP, different and also very effective if started right away). Cuz toothpaste doesn't kill HIV and you might injure yourself or that nice HIV+ guy you just blew in all the commotion....)
Anyway...since being told in 1990 I had 2 years left at best, I somehow (good doctors, good family and friends, insurance, and some good luck) am still here and still pretty healthy. But if you can stay negative, do it. The meds aren't a cure, most have some icky side effects, you have to remember to take them...
But denying this nice HIV+ guy (in my story, he's nice) a blowjob isn't likely to be effective or enough to keep you negative.
Disclaimer: I have tons of flaws, or at least a fair share. But I am proud of these strengths: I always disclose, always use condoms for fucking (and have had to miss out on situations where that doesn't work for the other guy(s), sometimes very reluctantly, but if I made safer sex exceptions it'd get too confusing and weird for me), and know I've never given anyone HIV.
But like most guys, I have lied to get laid: "No, Kylie Minogue's great and not at all a distraction, even if you start singing along." (sorry, not that funny a person, but hopefully you can see where I'm going) - so to the guys who would only suck dick if the HIV+ guy had an undetectable viral load, or would only blow a guy who's HIV-...think again, please. My colleagues and I spend a huge amount of time (gladly, I'm not complaining) counseling men whose partner was either unaware or untruthful, so along with a surprise serious health challenge, they also have to deal with betrayal.
Quoting my boss: "being in love is a HUGE risk factor for getting HIV." That and fear and denial are why we still have new cases. I'd rather find a new line off work; no one working in HIV wants you as a new patient...and when you get middle aged, don't worry, you'll get to see doctors and nurses plenty.
Apologies for long-windedness, thanks again for reading and if you posted or will post, thanks cuz many of you made me think - which isn't why I logged on, but is a good thing.
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I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?
I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..
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Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.
Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.
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One of my best friends told me that he was positive and I do not know how to comfort him or make things better. He doesn't want anyone to know and even though he has safe sex ( and a lot of it) I do not know how to ask him to take better care of himself. Infact I am so scared of getting infected I have stopped having sex altogether.
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Well I hope we see you more often, gearpigdc.
That, to me, is one of the more rational responses I've read.
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Well I hope we see you more often, gearpigdc.
That, to me, is one of the more rational responses I've read.
Totally agree.
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@I:
I'm negative, and my boyfriend is HIV+.
Before we started the relationship, we did check our statuses and both came back negative.
We did not use protection at all after that. I (always) swallowed his cum and I always cum inside him.The following month, he had to go through a full medical check up for his work. His result came back positive.
We've been together for a year, and I still suck his dick without condom.
I checked regularly, every 90 days, and I am still negative.To be safe, as recommended by our doctor and by the staff at a testing center in Sydney, we figured out safety measures: I suck his dick until he gets hard without condom first, and we will continue with condom – although they confirmed that swallowing has a very minimum risk of HIV contraction.
When it comes to anal sex, we always use protection, now. It felt weird at first -- I lost my erection every now and then, because I was so used to barebacking -- but it gets better. Our doctor recommended to apply lubricants to my dick before I put the condom on.
However, it all depends on ourselves. I mean, if it is a one night stand, I would make sure of his status and I would take more precautions. I would still do all, with protection.
We are in a monogamous-love-based-long-term-relationship, so you might see it as a different case.
I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?
I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..
Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.
Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.
Have you ever thought that 'things' could change?
Will you be or are you prepared for such an issue?
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One of my last boyfriends was HIV Neg while I was HIV + . We always did bareback and he knew the risks. He is still HIV- and still gets tested every 6 months. It's been over 5 years. I have been on meds forever and am undetectqble with a high CD4.
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One of my last boyfriends was HIV Neg while I was HIV + . We always did bareback and he knew the risks. He is still HIV- and still gets tested every 6 months. It's been over 5 years. I have been on meds forever and am undetectqble with a high CD4.
That must have been risky for him..
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One of my last boyfriends was HIV Neg while I was HIV + . We always did bareback and he knew the risks. He is still HIV- and still gets tested every 6 months. It's been over 5 years. I have been on meds forever and am undetectqble with a high CD4.
That must have been risky for him..
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Yes, it was risky for him but we knew the risks going in and he knew my status way before that and made that decision for himself. It's been over 5 years and he still tests NEG. We have a great Doc who we talk with regularly. We had more of a risk of contracting Herpes or crabs then HIV.
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One of my last boyfriends was HIV Neg while I was HIV + . We always did bareback and he knew the risks. He is still HIV- and still gets tested every 6 months. It's been over 5 years. I have been on meds forever and am undetectqble with a high CD4.
That must have been risky for him..
::)
Yes, it was risky for him but we knew the risks going in and he knew my status way before that and made that decision for himself. It's been over 5 years and he still tests NEG. We have a great Doc who we talk with regularly. We had more of a risk of contracting Herpes or crabs then HIV.
:cheesy2:
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@I:
I'm negative, and my boyfriend is HIV+.
Before we started the relationship, we did check our statuses and both came back negative.
We did not use protection at all after that. I (always) swallowed his cum and I always cum inside him.The following month, he had to go through a full medical check up for his work. His result came back positive.
We've been together for a year, and I still suck his dick without condom.
I checked regularly, every 90 days, and I am still negative.To be safe, as recommended by our doctor and by the staff at a testing center in Sydney, we figured out safety measures: I suck his dick until he gets hard without condom first, and we will continue with condom – although they confirmed that swallowing has a very minimum risk of HIV contraction.
When it comes to anal sex, we always use protection, now. It felt weird at first -- I lost my erection every now and then, because I was so used to barebacking -- but it gets better. Our doctor recommended to apply lubricants to my dick before I put the condom on.
However, it all depends on ourselves. I mean, if it is a one night stand, I would make sure of his status and I would take more precautions. I would still do all, with protection.
We are in a monogamous-love-based-long-term-relationship, so you might see it as a different case.
I got confused.. You are negative but your boyfriend isn't?
I'm afraid that in this case you should be more protective towards yourself..
Yes, I am negative and my boyfriend is not.
He is on medication already, and I am aware that there are risks for me to get HIV from him.Since we knew his status, we always do safe sex. We also gather more information on HIV/AIDS from every source there is, and from every expert we could find. We also have several friends who are positive or in a relationship with a positive partner.
Our relationship does involve sex, a lot of them, and also involve a lot of other things aside of sex.
Have you ever thought that 'things' could change?
Will you be or are you prepared for such an issue?
Sorry for replying so late.
When I met him, we had ourselves checked. At that time, the last time I had sex was more than three months. He, on the other hand, just had a one night stand a couple of days before. That's why, I think, the result came back negative.
When we found out that he is positive, he begged me to leave him. Yes, I had thoughts about leaving him. But it's not that easy.
I have just had a terrible relationship before I met him, and with him, everything seems just right. I did seek information on the matter, and I discuss everything with him. I know the risks, and I am prepared.Wish me luck, guys.
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i would think it before i had sex with a HIV positive guy.Even oral.
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i think if u use condum its safe
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