I'm virgin…
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No need to rush at all. I've waited until I was 22 to have sex and I don't regret it.
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don't rush it, do it when you feel comfortable for best satisfaction
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Even I am handsome and great body! But it is the same! Gays approached me, but I don't like ones approaching me, ones I like, i don't know how to approach them!
You'll know when it's the right time to do something for the first time. I was 24 before I did anything with a guy, and even then it was only mutual handjobs…and then another year before I tried oral. I think I was 28 before I fucked.
I think some of my "slow start" was because I didn't want to connect with guys, much less have sex with them, unless I thought they were Mr. Totally Perfect. Needless to say, life was a bit lonely for me. But soon I learned that I could be friends with other gay guys for friendship's sake, not simply as a prelude to sex.
Still, I don't worry about having "lost time." I've had two wonderful relationships, several more boyfriends, and if I just want sex for its own sake, it's definitely available...but that has less appeal as I get older.
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Nearly 28 and virgin here. No problem at all
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Just do it when you feel prepared for that, or when you find someone you feel comfortable with to do it
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There are many reasons one may find it difficult to make the leap. First, there is no right nor wrong choice here. And it is different for everyone.
A couple of you mentioned that you aren't out yet. In actuality you have to come out at least twice. You come out to other people. You also have to come out to yourself. That's not as easy as people think. And maybe that hesitancy is because you aren't ready to embrace that aspect of who you are. If you lose your virginity, does that mean you are gay? Does it make it real? That can be scary. Of course a lot of non-gay guys have sex and aren't gay. But that's an idea.
Also, maybe you are putting pressure on yourself to have sex as a rite of passage, but in all actuality you are Ace and gay, which means you want a love relationship, but no sex.
I know this is cheesy, but make a list of pros and cons. Free write your thoughts on it. Also, it is a big step for you. It wouldn't hurt to speak to a sex therapist. You would be amazed at how past trauma that you didn't even know you had can affect things like sex drive, confidence and even the ability.
The guys who said go for it covered the bases pretty well. I just would add that when you are out and about don't leave your drink unattended. Being drugged and fucked is not most people's idea of a pleasant good time.
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Virginity is really a personal thing in terms of how much stock you choose to put in the word. Some, because of religion or personal belief, want to save it for that special someone as the ultimate gift and proof of commitment. Others believe it is just an over-hyped term that keeps people from gaining practical sexual experiences with regards to penetration sex. It all depends on how strongly you feel about your want to have a sexual performance before marriage/find your forever-person.
For me, I remember being nervous my first time being fucked. It wasn't because I was about to lose my virginity; rather, I was more worried about how painful it might be. For me, virginity was just a word that basically labeled me as an inexperienced sexual being. As I didn't want to be sexually inexperienced, I wasn't all that hard-up about having some random be my first.
Though to be honest, I find virginity to also be an emotional aspect rather than just physical. In that respect, I have given away my physical virginity but have yet found someone to emotionally let go during intercourse. Don't know if that makes sense to some of you, but that's how I feel on it.
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Virginity is really a personal thing in terms of how much stock you choose to put in the word. Some, because of religion or personal belief, want to save it for that special someone as the ultimate gift and proof of commitment. Others believe it is just an over-hyped term that keeps people from gaining practical sexual experiences with regards to penetration sex. It all depends on how strongly you feel about your want to have a sexual performance before marriage/find your forever-person.
For me, I remember being nervous my first time being fucked. It wasn't because I was about to lose my virginity; rather, I was more worried about how painful it might be. For me, virginity was just a word that basically labeled me as an inexperienced sexual being. As I didn't want to be sexually inexperienced, I wasn't all that hard-up about having some random be my first.
Though to be honest, I find virginity to also be an emotional aspect rather than just physical. In that respect, I have given away my physical virginity but have yet found someone to emotionally let go during intercourse. Don't know if that makes sense to some of you, but that's how I feel on it.
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