I think I might be gay, but I'm not sure. How do I know?
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If you don't know for sure you're probably bisexual.
If you're straight or gay you usually kinda know it. Unless you're a woman. But what you jack your dick to should be the indicator.
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I don't think you don't know. I think you're just afraid. But don't be, there's nothing to be afraid of.
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personally i've known i was attracted to bigger guys since about 7th grade. for me, girls are icky - and so are slim guys. But then i'm in the minority of an already minority group.
i don't even think i can function THAT way around a woman. Or a slim guy.
I did have a phase where i was intellectually considering girls, but when i started to think about them - i think "Ick. Nope".
No regrets here.
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you dont have to be either one or the other. there are 50 shades of gay. some guys are 100% gay, some are 100% straight. most people are somewhere in between. you could be 90% straight and 10% gay. or 80%/20%. you dont have to call yourself by one label or the other. just live your life and what feels right to you.
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I agree and there are so much more shades to it than the ones you outlined too. E.g. Asexual, demisexual, pansexual, sapiosexual, hetero/homoflexible, queer.
But these terms are all labels through which we can generalize our emotional/sexual attraction to explain it to other people and to relate. If you know how you feel, and it's not covered by a term, then it still exists, because you feel that way.
I came out as gay, but that's because I always knew I liked men. For most of us it feels so permanent, but honestly I feel that it limited me to feel/be whatever I feel. Just the last year or so I have also opened my mind to the possibility of a (sexual) connection with females. It's kind of tricky, because I don't hope this is the internal homofobia in me speaking that is hoping for a "normal" future.. Main point I think is just be openminded.
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I too, feel "different" when I was growing up. And being different isn;t always easy, but sure has it perks. I get friends more easily, because i feel like I understand how girls feel, while can also see it from boy's perception. Don't get caught up in the idea of "knowing". Just embrace you for who you are ;D
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i think i found about about myself when i was like 14 years old or older. it feels like the sky fell on my head, heart and everything. but i think i can cover up for a few more years. finger crossed.
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I too was at an experimentation point in my life when i was in High school. I slept with both men and women. Men, since i was 9 yrs old. Women since i was 13. And I actually LIKED both of them. Until, I earned my "red wings" in college. That was truly a first and last experience for me. Haven't wanted to have sex with a woman since then. HAVE had sex with 2 women, but they were both 1 nite stands. So basically what I am saying is that i agree with this post. We are who we are until we decide to be something else. And i do believe we are born this way, but, our exoeriences during our life time may mold us one way or the other.
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I'm 32 and I'm still unsure, I consider myself now 95% gay. 5% goes for the fact that sometimes (quite rarely TBH) I feel attracted by a woman, altough I've never seriously considered having sex. I think it might just get akward. On the other hand, I'm gay but I really don't like men, I have no male friends and if I werent with my partner I honestly wouldn't feel like talking to gay men.
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Since you are here, in a gay porn site, you are quite gay. I'm not sure = I'm afraid to confess to myself.
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1. You like to see hot boys whether on tv, magazine or real life
2. You have some feelings towards handsome men and your dick may get hard
3. You are attracted to men more than to women
4. If you ever been with a guy sexually, you liked it….... -
When you masturbate, what ever you think about is what you are. I mean if you think about sex involving men or penis, you are gay. It's that easy. The fact that you are asking the question is a good indicator as well.
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When your sexually erotic dreams are those involving men.
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if your attracted to Adam Levine or at one point Justin Timberlake.
if your attracted to Jude Law in Gattica or Bradley Cooper in Failure to Launch.
if you haven't rushed to see Teen Mom Farrah sex tape
if you haven't seen Paris Hilton sex tape One Night in Paris and you have seen it and Rick Soloman gets you off more than she does.
if your read James Deen blog and your not reading just looking at the pictures you looking at James more than his cofuckers in the scenes he does.
if you know who Bo Derek is and how she looked in 10 and not Wayne's World
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JUST keep in mind one thing = being gay is not a crime or bad thing. People should accept who they are. Just enjoy your life and be yourself. If you like men then it is no sin.
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I'm not so sure either since I never dated a girl.
I'm guessing I'm gay because I usually attracted to guys not girls, but sometimes I can watch female porn too.Makes me wonder if I'm bisexual or gay…
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sexuality is fluid. Just because you're straight doesn't mean you are attracted to every individual of the opposite sex, so just because someone is gay doesn't make them attracted to everyone of the same sex. You shouldn't label yourself, things happen, love is love regardless of gender/sexual pref. I think you are def curious about some same-sex action, though :cheesy2:
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i knew, but at the same time, i tried to brush it off
until i kissed my first guy, then i knew for sure, and gay i was
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I always knew….
I always loved playing "doctor". changing time in the locker room, and I would often find myself day dreaming about being able to hook up with a man.Same here. I remember as a child touching myself while watching Lou Ferrigno in Hulk (yes, Im in my 40s :P)
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Johns3: I'm guessing I'm gay because I usually attracted to guys not girls, but sometimes I can watch female porn too.
But who do you want to be naked and busy with?
There is too much fuss over labels. Gore Vidal felt that you were whatever you were doing at the time. You could be gay with a man, str8 with a woman, and like most of us I suppose, asexual in between. Except for all the thoughts about sex…. Hmm. Maybe the truth is, as I always claim, that "real men" do anything sexual that they want to do, in the same way that the joke that claims "real men don't eat quiche" is readily countered by asserting that Real Men eat anything they want; wanna make something of it?
I used to worry about this crap, but at some point I decided that since I am a man, anything I do is something that a Man does. I am the definition of masculine. If my equipment got shot off in the war as with that Hemingway hero with the unspecified wound, I would still be a man. And just as doing it with a woman does not make me a woman, doing it with a gay man does not make me gay, though it might indicate I am one horny sumbitch and, hey, we were stuck in the rain with nothing to do.
It's only partly a joke that the difference between a strait man and a gay dude is a six pack. One current U.S. presidential candidate in the clown car (guess which party of hypocrities) claims that people can become gay in prison, just because. Southern belle and "confirmed bachelor" Lindsay Graham clutches her pearls regularly but has had the guts to claim that Republican dupe Caitlin Jenner, nee Olympic decathlon champion Bruce, is welcome to join in the party if she wants to.
More obvious may be the point that sexual activity is fluid and situational. Just because all those paid dupes getting sucked by a man at a gloryhole and think they are being fellated by a female supposedly do not know what is really going on (like the hired pickups on BaitBus or the shocked "victims" on Straight2Gay, what we know is that they managed to get off, whatever they thought was hoovering their horn, so it is not Actually the sex of the partner and, surprise, sex is in your thoughts first.
I was thinking that it might matter whether you felt most comfortable and at home with gays or straits, but there is lots of self-loathing and I cannot be the only one here who went through a confused and tearful phase of feeling cursed when my less than half-hearted efforts to enjoy sex with women were not satisfactory. It is probably still common for dudes to spend years going through the motions without a lot of passion before they manage some other accommodation.
That is different from the old men well over half a century who have lost their wives through death or divorce or are sexless due to the wife's medical situation and then, no longer familiar with dating rituals, decide to exploit their "bicurious" side. Now, that aspect may have been there for years, but it sure is convenient how they manage to, in the words of Woody Allen, double their chances of a date on Saturday night.
If everyone were not bigoted and prejudiced, sex would be sex, but as it is, there are still stigmas. A famed U.S. singer was in the news when she got a serious girlfriend and found it not at all convenient or readily accepted when she was surprised to find herself in love with a man.
If it really were equally convenient and socially approved to have consensual sex with anyone of any gender, there would be a lot less horny people running around in a rage. One thing at least Freud's brilliant follower Wilhelm Reich got right is that orgasms are the enemy of Fascists.The truth is undeniable-- "When you're hot you're hot, and when you're not, you're not." All the rest is commentary.
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