Coming out
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I'm not openly gay, because of my family. Although my sister is a lesbian, an open one at that; I still haven't told her. I guess she knows, but won't say nor do anything until I'm ready to come out. It's weird how after 7 years of not having a girl friend people still think I'm straight. As a matter a fact today my friend mentioned something about 2 guys kissing publicly in college and how he thought it was wrong, I just laughed hysterically and he asked me why I was laughing. I replied: "oh nothing" and told him how it was also wrong to exhibit yourself in public no matter your sexual preference and he agreed. The biggest reason to still "be in the closet" is because of my grandmother, at her age if she knew Id probably kill her of a heart attack. As they say in Spanish: "Tu eres mi ojos - mi todo" (You are my eyes - You are my everything) as she refers to me.
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I came out to my mother at 14…she ignored it until i was 15 when she caught me with another guy..doing what i do..LOL
the end result was not good because she told my father.....won't get into that...but you know what..I survived it...and I'm the happiest fucker in the world...I put myself into college..have my own place..and now my own business...
and now one way or another..any one i meet will know I'm gay...not because i'm flaming...not that there is anything wrong with that..LOL..
but because I'm comfortable..enough to talk about it...to anyone..if they don't like it..they will get over it...
Its not easy coming out...and you might lose allot...but what you gain at the end is worth it...so come out of that closet already...
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Ok here's what happened with me.
Me (at 15): "Mom, I'm uhh, I'm gay."
Mom: "Yeah I know, I figured that out when I found gay porn on the computer. I mean, I know it's not mine."
Me: "So you're not ….mad or anything?"
Mom: "No, just be careful and be safe.".......
Me (at 16): "Jennifer (my sister), I'm gay."
Jen: "Oh cool, I'm bi. What kind of guys are you into?".......
Me (at 17): "Dad, I'm gay"
Dad: "Does your mom know about this?"
Me: "Yeah I told her a couple years ago."
Dad: "I can't believe you told your mother before you told me. I thought you trusted me more than that"
Me: "...Umm, sorry?"
Dad: "Well as long as it makes you happy, just be safe."
........Lol, god I love my family's open-minded optimism. Even my friends all thought it was adorable that I was gay when I came out to them. Somehow I get the feeling this isn't the general reaction, but I'm glad my family was supportive. I always feel really bad that I had it so easy when I hear all these horror stories, and I really hope it goes as well for some of you as it did for me.
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Ok here's what happened with me.
Me (at 15): "Mom, I'm uhh, I'm gay."
Mom: "Yeah I know, I figured that out when I found gay porn on the computer. I mean, I know it's not mine."
Me: "So you're not ….mad or anything?"
Mom: "No, just be careful and be safe.".......
Me (at 16): "Jennifer (my sister), I'm gay."
Jen: "Oh cool, I'm bi. What kind of guys are you into?".......
Me (at 17): "Dad, I'm gay"
Dad: "Does your mom know about this?"
Me: "Yeah I told her a couple years ago."
Dad: "I can't believe you told your mother before you told me. I thought you trusted me more than that"
Me: "...Umm, sorry?"
Dad: "Well as long as it makes you happy, just be safe."
........Lol, god I love my family's open-minded optimism. Even my friends all thought it was adorable that I was gay when I came out to them. Somehow I get the feeling this isn't the general reaction, but I'm glad my family was supportive. I always feel really bad that I had it so easy when I hear all these horror stories, and I really hope it goes as well for some of you as it did for me.
I don't believe this, ur family is far too impossible to be true. And 1 more thing, you started watching gay porn when u were 15?
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Ok here's what happened with me.
Me (at 15): "Mom, I'm uhh, I'm gay."
Mom: "Yeah I know, I figured that out when I found gay porn on the computer. I mean, I know it's not mine."
Me: "So you're not ….mad or anything?"
Mom: "No, just be careful and be safe.".......
Me (at 16): "Jennifer (my sister), I'm gay."
Jen: "Oh cool, I'm bi. What kind of guys are you into?".......
Me (at 17): "Dad, I'm gay"
Dad: "Does your mom know about this?"
Me: "Yeah I told her a couple years ago."
Dad: "I can't believe you told your mother before you told me. I thought you trusted me more than that"
Me: "...Umm, sorry?"
Dad: "Well as long as it makes you happy, just be safe."
........Lol, god I love my family's open-minded optimism. Even my friends all thought it was adorable that I was gay when I came out to them. Somehow I get the feeling this isn't the general reaction, but I'm glad my family was supportive. I always feel really bad that I had it so easy when I hear all these horror stories, and I really hope it goes as well for some of you as it did for me.
I don't believe this, ur family is far too impossible to be true. And 1 more thing, you started watching gay porn when u were 15?
It is possible thomas. i first saw a striaght porn at age of 13 (after my puberty started) thanks to my bro who exposed it, he at age of 15 that time.
It not impossible to believe that Yoruichi's family accept it that early, it quite normal. i have few friend's parent already knew they were gay when they little. i came out of the closet with my parent at age of 15 and they accept. Based on Yoruichi's word, it sound like very normal American family.
I see you from Asian country, in America is different story. it depends on Location location and location. if you in west or east America, it tend to be more open-minded people there about homosexuality, but in Central America it enitrely depends. i noticed the huge difference between them. If you thinking about how that can be because American is very religious, not all of us are t religious. You from a Asian country, it make sense that you have to be careful with homosexuality. here in America, it all about location.
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… o.O Umm (legally I shouldn't have been able to get porn until I was 18). But you'd be amazed at how much porn a 12 year old can find on the internet. (Having your own computer in your room and a lock on your door does wonders). Yeah, I've been watching gay porn since I was 12. And yes I live in California, so I imagine it is much different than what you're used to.
Ok just to be clear I can't technically be prosecuted for that since it happened so long ago right? Don't wanna be admitting to any crimes here.
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… o.O Umm (legally I shouldn't have been able to get porn until I was 18). But you'd be amazed at how much porn a 12 year old can find on the internet. (Having your own computer in your room and a lock on your door does wonders). Yeah, I've been watching gay porn since I was 12. And yes I live in California, so I imagine it is much different than what you're used to.
Ok just to be clear I can't technically be prosecuted for that since it happened so long ago right? Don't wanna be admitting to any crimes here.
Yes legally you shouldnt get porn but hey it AMERICA! what you expect?
a 12 years old… nothing new. but i will be surprised if 8 years old found porn.....
Oh you live in California... where you live? i live in San Diego County
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Thomas: There's this thing called the internet that will allow anyone to find/watch porn…
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anyone know where I can look for porn, I am have trouble finding any…
sgmusuk
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anyone know where I can look for porn, I am have trouble finding any…
sgmusuk
you are in porn…. GayTorrent.ru??
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you are in porn…. GayTorrent.ru??
I was making a joke DarknessWing
sgmusuk
Ah… sorry, my mind stll worried from California Fire, still in the area where the fire is.
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you are in porn…. GayTorrent.ru??
I was making a joke DarknessWing
sgmusuk
Ah… sorry, my mind stll worried from California Fire, still in the area where the fire is.
My prayers and thoughts go out to all of you in Ca dealing with the fires. I hope you and everyone else dealing with these horrible fires come out OK. (you know what I meen)
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My house is still fine. Look like the fire in Fallbrook is gone, havent hear the news about it since two days ago. So im starting unpacking everything since it seem ok to settle.
The sky is still filled with ashes, the sun become orange, it look awesome looking at it.
This fire is worse than what happen 4 years ago. but this time, people are prepared for it and got stuff as they need, it very calm pace to leave the town than it was four years ago
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Hello you guys, I have the feeling that you're spamming my topic! :weep:
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Well, I think there are many different ways how the family or the friends will react.
In fact, I had a real bad time with my parents after I had my coming out. Both, my mother as well as my father, couldn't understand that and they treid to "change my mind" to be "normal" again. I had real much discussions abaout that and one time it was so heavy, that my parents told me to leave the house.
So I did that. I Had luck that my boyfreind already had is own flat, so I went to him and staid there. After a few month I had contact with my parents again. Not the sort of contact you may wish to have to your parents, but what should I do?
By now I have my own flat as well. I have a real great job to do and my new boyfriend is just awesome
The contact to my parents has become better by now. I think they accept it boy now, even if they give me hints to become "normal" again. But this is my decision. I have my own live and so they can't tell me what to do or not. Everything's fine for me.
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Well, I think there are many different ways how the family or the friends will react.
In fact, I had a real bad time with my parents after I had my coming out. Both, my mother as well as my father, couldn't understand that and they treid to "change my mind" to be "normal" again. I had real much discussions abaout that and one time it was so heavy, that my parents told me to leave the house.
So I did that. I Had luck that my boyfreind already had is own flat, so I went to him and staid there. After a few month I had contact with my parents again. Not the sort of contact you may wish to have to your parents, but what should I do?
By now I have my own flat as well. I have a real great job to do and my new boyfriend is just awesome
The contact to my parents has become better by now. I think they accept it boy now, even if they give me hints to become "normal" again. But this is my decision. I have my own live and so they can't tell me what to do or not. Everything's fine for me.
Are you a the only child?
i noticed the couple with the only child in the family is more closed minded to gay because they want their child to have children. that is what almost all parent dream is to have a grandchildren, but the only child in the family being gay would shatter that dream, even gay can have a child.
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Yes, I'm the only child. I know this could be the reason why they react like this. I can understand that they wanted to have grandchildren, but in another way I can not understand why other parents, who only have one child too, react very cool to this. I mean they also have only one child but they are not just like my parents.
Hmm…. Guess I will never figure this out^^
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Yes, I'm the only child. I know this could be the reason why they react like this. I can understand that they wanted to have grandchildren, but in another way I can not understand why other parents, who only have one child too, react very cool to this. I mean they also have only one child but they are not just like my parents.
Hmm…. Guess I will never figure this out^^
it depends how parent are raised. the parent values is passed down from their parent. so basically you are carrying your values from your parent
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