Race Preferences in Dating
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I know that people do have preferences. I do too.
I have seen many beautiful white guys and ugly white guys, the same goes to black and asian or many others.
I wouldn't say necessarily though that I prefer white guys over black or asian because there are many attractive black and asian guys than average or ugly white guys (there truly are so many!!!!!).
For those who say I am not attracted to black and asian and would never date them, it's as if you have seen every single one of them on the planet and thus close the doors completely. That is indeed racist. People should not waste their time on racists. I personally don't even want to make friends with them.
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I think that it is ok to have preferences so long as they are not root in racial bias. Everyone likes what they like, whether it be food, cars, color, or people. If certain attributes do not turn your crank, no amount of force from an external party is going to change that.
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What is not okay, is people being shitty about it. For example, headlining different groups or races and warning them not to contact them. Or being rude to those you don't find attractive.
If you receive a message from someone not your type, ignore it. If you are approached by someone not your type, reject them kindly.
Exactly my thoughts, that kind of behavior is offensive and unnecessary and I think probably the cause of this whole discussion in the first place. Attraction to certain races doesnt make you racist, if the opposite group is your negative target then it is problem, otherwise just enjoy what you please.
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This is why I say one should list the attributes/qualities that turn their crank. The funny thing is, you sometimes discover that what you want ends up being drastically different from what you need or settle upon in the end. I never thought that I would be with an older guy and he has been stuck to me like glue now for the last 8 years.
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Attraction to certain races doesnt make you racist, if the opposite group is your negative target then it is problem, otherwise just enjoy what you please.
Ok, so being attracted to blacks doesn't make you racist, but not being attracted to whites makes you racist.
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This topic is a can of worms.
But honestly, you can find attractive guys in all races.
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It happens everywhere.
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In my opinion this isnt so much an issue about race exclusively.
I find that when I pick who to try and hit on in an app I go for what I am sure (based on what I see at least) will do it for me.
When I talk to people in person, I find that many of them could make me want them even though I might not pay attention to them if I just saw them in a hook-up site.
Part of what does it for me is what I am accustomed to. My country isnt as diverse as other countries so the only guys I'm accustomed to seeing is caucasian or middle-eastern looking. I've fantasized about them for decades, you know?
I am sure though that if I get the chance to meet and talk to an asian descended person I will feel like getting down and dirty with them (provided they are not taller than me lol). -
If you honestly don't think your preferences are racist, then ask yourself; "Why do I not like someone sexually, just because of their race."
If you are not interested in someone just because of their race, Then by the English definition of discrimination (the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of race, age, or sex), You are being racist.That might make you a little uncomfortable, but if your personal prejudices are showing that clearly, its best to sit and think for a bit as to where your way of thinking comes from so you can work on it.
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Well, if you do the research, you'll find that on average, about 9% only ever date outside their own race. That's all races, not just the evil whites.
EDIT: corrected typo, that affected discussion that followed
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Well, if you do the research, you'll find that on average, about 9% only ever date within their own race. That's all races, not just the evil whites.
You're putting words in my mouth, I never said anything about white people you're just taking my point to an extreme to dehumanise me. my entire point is that having a preference based on race is racist. it doesn't matter how many people do it, if YOU as a person discriminate against people, because of their race, sexually or otherwise, its racist. Also, your point is bullshit, MOST AMERICANS date within their race. Maybe sit and think as to why you have your racial preferences rather than defend them.
https://www.prb.org/usintermarriage/
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/young-people-look-for-love-within-their-own-race-brszq703w
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4850739/ -
My previous post was a typo.
It should have said that 91% of all races only date/marry within their own race. 9% date/marry outside their race. I posted about this in the other thread about whites not dating asians.
That being said, whites are always demonized for not doing something that other races also don't do.
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I have a problem with the word preference here as if you choose to like certain races.
Let me tell you all the truth, you don't. And it's not a preference but attraction. You don't choose who you're attracted to, full stop!If you honestly don't think your preferences are racist, then ask yourself; "Why do I not like someone sexually, just because of their race."
If you are not interested in someone just because of their race, Then by the English definition of discrimination (the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people, especially on the grounds of race, age, or sex), You are being racist.You are also attracted to someone based on physical characteristics which can be gender, sex, skin colour, height, weight, age, hair colour, complexion (wrinkles, freckles etc), body hair, beard, eye colour and probably many more. And whichever side you happen to be on regarding these categories, it doesn't make you bigoted in any way.
Are you bigoted against blonds for being into dark-haired people, bigoted against tall people for being into smaller people or even better misogynist for being gay!?By the way, dating is in and of itself discriminatory! Apart from a few pansexual polyamorous affirmative-action fetishising progressives, most people are picky when it comes to dating.
That might make you a little uncomfortable, but if your personal prejudices are showing that clearly, its best to sit and think for a bit as to where your way of thinking comes from so you can work on it.
I don't have to do anything! I did not give in to the fundamentalist religious right back then and I'm certainly not giving in to the far-left today. Thank you very much!!
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Just so everyone knows, one of my stalkers, WAFFLEZ, is the one who's following me around downvoting and "angry facing my posts regardless of content.
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I find Asians more attractive to me even if he is short or young or old or darker skin. It's not racism. it's just a preference.
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I still can't understand why black guys can say "only black" but white guys can't say "no black guys".
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كل شخص لديه دوق في الرجال الدين ينجذب اليهم هذا لا يعني انه عنصلري انها مسالة اذواق وميولات دنسية طبيعية
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my entire point is that having a preference based on race is racist. it doesn't matter how many people do it, if YOU as a person discriminate against people, because of their race, sexually or otherwise, its racist.
So, 91% of all people, regardless of race, is a racist.
OR, maybe it's something ingrained in us to prefer our own.
BTW, 89% of whites prefer their own, making us the most liberal race, therefore the least racist.
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Thank you !!!
That is exactly what I think. -
It isn't racists when it comes to dating. If you say 'white only' when looking for friends, yeah that's pretty racist. But dating, particularly sex, requires physical attraction. It is okay to think certain traits are ugly and that certain traits are attractive. These days I prefer white people. When I was 14 I exclusively dated Chamorro. Inbetween those times I had interests in other races in particular, and I will likely swing my preference swing again later in life. Am I racist for liking almost every race I found at some point as my exclusive dating option? No. No one gets upset when its someone who is exclusively into black men, so what's wrong with finding mostly white men attractive?
All that being said, there is no reason to put it on your profile. Even with a strong preference people often date and bang outside of their 'preference' because the right person with the right other qualities come along. Even if you are completely rigid there just isn't really a reason to list it, it doesn't save you more time as you can just ignore any messages by people you don't find attractive anyways.
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