I can't get my d1ck hard for long time, help.

[markystarky]

I wonder if a butt plug or dildo would help.

[MOSCOWMOUSE]

Hi, I see your problem and have experienced this. I do not have the solution but I can recommend some techniques. These may or may not help. The first is a furtive imagination , in your mind when the erection fades imagine you are with someone else whom you have always found attractive use the person as a substitute - but never reveal them the fantasies you hold in your head. You could put pornography on, pornography you think you may both enjoy then if you feel the urge dwindle then look at the pornography to keep your member from going to sleep. Never judge your own sexual abilities or prowesses by the standars of others. never think that in the pornography you watch that you have to sustain an erection for 30 minutes to an hour - these men ecome flaccid, have a break, get horny again after an unidentified amount of time and then the camera starts rolling again - porn actors, i would imagine, never really do everything in one take. Their sexual stamina and longevity is to do with the way the film is cut. Try blindfolds and work on areas of the body when you are flaccid and then build up to the erection - from reading your dilemma the issue is not being able to get it up at all but maintaining the erection in your cock. As the tide comes in and out so the penis ebbs and flows . It may be down for a short period but after resting time it may very well spring to life again. One natural remedy is Macca Root which can be used and these are easily available - search online about it . It needs to be taken over a period of time to receive the benefits. Another is using lube which has an active ingredient for mainaining an erection one contains guarana and is a massage and lubricant 2 in 1 this has a warming sensation which will assit to stimulate and maintain an erection. Finally a penis pump will help, this is exercise for the member basically and using this twice a week will help the blood flow in the capillaries. Should you resort to alcohol then this will do very little altough cannabis which is legal in some states of America is an excellent stimulant if used sparingly however constant use will have the opposite effect on your penis. A furtive imagination and some of the above may assist you. An understandning partner will not really bother whether you can get it up all of the time but will certainly look forward to the moments you can. It's the same as orgasms, I have had wondeful dry orgasms where there is little or no ejaculation but it doesn't mean I didn't feel the earth move. Be natural and remeber the ebb and flow .

[QCDelights]

Not that I'm judging you Mr. Coke000 but have you considered canning the coke that shit can mess up a hell of a lot including an erection. Short of that I can suggest looking on youtube for a mantra to heal what ails you, thoses Hindus have a mantra for everything

[justwith]

i think you said already what the problem is:  "i feel insecure or something"  ….
now the solution? ... probably a terapist would say 

[MrCoke000]

@aadam101:

Does your username have anything to do with your erection problems?

@QCDelights:

Not that I'm judging you Mr. Coke000 but have you considered canning the coke that shit can mess up a hell of a lot including an erection. Short of that I can suggest looking on youtube for a mantra to heal what ails you, thoses Hindus have a mantra for everything

I never tried coke, I just like coca cola, lol.

[warpaint]

Hahahahahah I just fuckin died

[syuvan12]

I'm not a psychologist, so I can't really help with the mental and emotional part of it, but for the physical part: Try using a cock ring.

When I'm alone and horny (and have time on my hands lol), I love to edge a lot, like I like to go for like 2-3 hours or even more sometimes, and during that time, I do get soft sometimes, obviously.
But when I'm using a cock ring, (or even a substitute, like even a shoelace around my cock lol), I don't get soft as much.
So try using a cock ring when you're trying to have sex with this guy.

But, if it is a mental issue, I'd have to agree with some of the others here. Just try and relax. Try not to be insecure, and just enjoy the sex. Don't think about anything else.

Hope that helps!

[dm84]

It's very hard to me to get and erection (If i got one) when im stand up and even when i'm kneel down. Try to stay on your back this position is more easy for me.

[MrCoke000]

Hey guys, I'm back.

I'm reviving this thread just to update my status about the subject.

So, I don't know if some of you guys are still around this page, and if anyone is interested in knowing how I solved my problem you can continue reading. But I just want to say that I did it! I was finally able to maintain an erection for at least like half an hour.

So how did it work?
I had this huge doubt about myself: "what if I wasn't working properly because I was never able to get a chance with some guy that I'd find truly hot?"
So I had this chance with this guy that was actually my type (hairy chest, ass and nice face)
When we met up we talked a lot, just to know each other and see if we could go any further.
And it all went pretty good so I stayed at his place all night.

We didn't fuck because he said wasn't ready for that though.
But that night, for the first time I felt like I was secure, I felt safe, I felt wanted, and he was hot, so when I was with him that night, everytime we would kiss and touch, I would get so hard, and I would love every moment of it; it was probably the best night I had in a long time.
And let's be honest. Who doesn't like to feel loved and wanted?
That night I felt like that, I felt like I could rest with him, like he would take care of me :hug2:, like everything was going to be just fine.
I know that I might sound a little corny, but I don't feel like I'll ever going to be like those guys who can get hard with any stranger that they find (I actually envy those who can).
So yeah, we just met that one time, and I won't ever see him again (that's another story).
But tbh, I feel very happy to know that at least now I can have a long erection if I'm with someone that I find very attractive, and that in the end it was all in my mind.

Sometimes some of us just can't randomly hook up with someone and go straight to action, I really wish I was able to do that, but I don't think I can, I feel like I'm full of emotions, and I never saw that part of me before.

Anyways that's it, I would like to thank you again for the comments and advices, it was very kind of you to share your knowledge and experience.

If you have more to share you still can.

Greetings.

[Oscarbingham]

Ian Happy that you solved his issue, take care.

[priya]

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[spam17]

@priya:

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