[Grindr, Pics attached] What am I doing wrong!? Can't get laid.
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ive used grindr for a while and i will say u live in a wayyy bigger area then i do. im in a small town where most of the gays know each other and or have slept with each other. but no issues with grindr hookup sense that is what most use it for. most have given u good advice already. from what i see in the pics youre a good looking dude with a great physique so thats not the problem at all. most gays arent as shallow as they claim when it comes to hookups. however most do have a type. one part is saying your a power bottom may intimidate some but not all it would just cut u off to a good bit of tops who can most likely fuck great but are worried it wont turn out good so they go with another guy. when u do send pics i would just say just send your face maybe body but no ass or cock because like someone else said they could just jerk to your pics. im not sure how youre conversation goes in the chat after your greeting but if u keep it geared only to sex or describing yourself sexually that should be good. if u can get in his head and make him imagine fucking u your most likely gonna get fucked lol :). i saw someone said they use manhunt for looking to. i would say even try another site. there is adam4adam to. but i would say grindr should work for u. well anyway hopefully i helped u in some way and i just wanna add im 27 but all my friends have always said i give the best advice for any and everything. but good luck and hope GREAT fuck for u.
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Your problem is that you're on Grindr. Social Media doesn't work.
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I thought the ass pics were on point, though.
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OP did anything suggested so far work out well for you or did you find something else really helped that you'd thought of yoourself ?
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It's not your fault, you're way hot! Wish I had run across your grindr profile last time I was in NYC! >:D But I have had almost uniformly bad luck on grindr in NYC compared to everywhere else (not that it's good anywhere, but NYC worst of all) so I think it may be a geography thing. 99% of NYC guys on grindr just don't seem to wanna actually hook up.
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Again, your problem is that you're on Grindr. When you go on that app, what do you think of the other guys? That's what they think of you. They think you're a dirty slut. Just like you think they are. Just go out to the bar and meet people. Just because we have apps now doesn't mean evolution has changed and we don't need to go out an meet people in person. A picture means nothing. I have met many people who appeared pretty at first, then appeared disgusting once they opened their trap. A picture is one's best representation of oneself, and if that's all you got, it ain't much usually. Just go out to the gay clubs and meet someone. Enough with the fake social media. You meet someone and then what? Maybe you hook up, and then what? Do you really think that person is going to want something lasting? NO. Because they most definitely think you're a slut. Sorry, that's just the way it is. I know you don't want to hear it, but you know it's True. They will NEVER Trust you, and you will never Trust them. It's just the way it is.
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I would suggest other apps as well. You mention you can be a power bottom, and then show the best ass picture with a great bubble butt. I am not even a top and it makes me want to fuck that. Try making some first moves and find an app that works better for you.
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I would fuck you
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Dude, get off the apps, ignore these other people on here. Get off the apps. Go out an meet people and have fun. People think if you're on the app, you're pathetic. A picture is not worth anything. You need to go out an meet people.
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Again, your problem is that you're on Grindr. When you go on that app, what do you think of the other guys? That's what they think of you. They think you're a dirty slut. Just like you think they are. Just go out to the bar and meet people. Just because we have apps now doesn't mean evolution has changed and we don't need to go out an meet people in person. A picture means nothing. I have met many people who appeared pretty at first, then appeared disgusting once they opened their trap. A picture is one's best representation of oneself, and if that's all you got, it ain't much usually. Just go out to the gay clubs and meet someone. Enough with the fake social media. You meet someone and then what? Maybe you hook up, and then what? Do you really think that person is going to want something lasting? NO. Because they most definitely think you're a slut. Sorry, that's just the way it is. I know you don't want to hear it, but you know it's True. They will NEVER Trust you, and you will never Trust them. It's just the way it is.
Well said. P.S. Is the dp yours? Damn you're hot!
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i'd fuck you
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Maybe they are racist.
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well, you are lovely!! i think the problem is that you show off all your body - i firmly believe that you should leave the man dreaming about how sexy you look under your clothes!! the first picture, for example, is perfect for that!
you have an amazing body.Good work! -
Probably start with a face pic or a non-nude body pic and see if they are interested before you go further. Another things is we tend to aim high in an anonymous setting, so you might be aiming out of your league maybe? IE if I approached you prob you'd ignore me haha
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Probably start with a face pic or a non-nude body pic and see if they are interested before you go further. Another things is we tend to aim high in an anonymous setting, so you might be aiming out of your league maybe? IE if I approached you prob you'd ignore me haha
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Sorry for the super long delayed response guys.
Thank you for your input.As strange as it may sound, it somehow did not occur to me that ethnicity might be a factor - which I've become acutely aware of now.
Just the other day, someone at the gym hit up my buddy and asked about me saying, "Who's that. He's cute for an Asian guy."I do have preferences myself, but a wide-scope rather than just one. Better put, it's not so much that I have preferences but very specific dis-preferences.
That being said, considering my honest self-observation about my sexualization or desexualization of certain ethnicities, I'm assuming that's the same cause/reason as to why others do/may not find me attractive.It's like the issue with Steve Harvey having said on TV that Asian men are simply just not attractive.
When I made the original post, I'm pretty sure I was in heat
:cheesy2:. I would literally bite my lip so hard at the sight of a hot guy working out at the gym that it would bleed. Since then, I've come back to my senses and haven't really hooked up with anyone or tried to.It is a bit strange though, I have to say: those that are attracted to me seems to be a very specific type. I don't mean in a demographic or physical way, but in that they have a very very specific preference if not exclusive interest in Asians. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but eh. I have other things to worry about nowadays.
Oh, I also forgot to mention: since making the post, I shaved my head. And the change in the way other guys look at me is so drastically different to the degree that it's pathetic… I'm wondering if perhaps Asian men are feminized, and the longer-than-short hair was not helping such an image?
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Sorry for the super long delayed response guys.
Thank you for your input.As strange as it may sound, it somehow did not occur to me that ethnicity might be a factor - which I've become acutely aware of now.
Just the other day, someone at the gym hit up my buddy and asked about me saying, "Who's that. He's cute for an Asian guy."I do have preferences myself, but a wide-scope rather than just one. Better put, it's not so much that I have preferences but very specific dis-preferences.
That being said, considering my honest self-observation about my sexualization or desexualization of certain ethnicities, I'm assuming that's the same cause/reason as to why others do/may not find me attractive.It's like the issue with Steve Harvey having said on TV that Asian men are simply just not attractive.
When I made the original post, I'm pretty sure I was in heat
:cheesy2:. I would literally bite my lip so hard at the sight of a hot guy working out at the gym that it would bleed. Since then, I've come back to my senses and haven't really hooked up with anyone or tried to.It is a bit strange though, I have to say: those that are attracted to me seems to be a very specific type. I don't mean in a demographic or physical way, but in that they have a very very specific preference if not exclusive interest in Asians. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but eh. I have other things to worry about nowadays.
Oh, I also forgot to mention: since making the post, I shaved my head. And the change in the way other guys look at me is so drastically different to the degree that it's pathetic… I'm wondering if perhaps Asian men are feminized, and the longer-than-short hair was not helping such an image?
You shaved ypur head?!
Wow!
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Lot of good advice here.
Think some better photos could help, but that is coming from a hobbyist photographer.
Timing, and having your own place can make a huge difference for hooking up.
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I think your hot and would definitely hookup for a pounding.
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