What do u guys think of poly partners?
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A couple of years ago I was in a kind or triangle relationship and trust me…it is more work an less fun than it sounds. It is neigh impossible to treat everyone in the relationship equally and to make sure everyone is happy with every arrangement. Naturally things went south for us quite fast. The only kind of poly relationships that seem to work for a longer time I know of are master/sub relationships with one master and several subs. I guess this works because the people in the relationship are not supposed to be equal by design.
so this explains truth hurts :cry2:
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realationships are all different. what works for one may be a death knell for another. as long as everyone is treated with respect and feelings don't get hurt, then hey, if you can make it work good for you.
I think though, it is unrealistic to expect everyone in a poly relationship to be "equal". Humans are built that way. You can't love two (or more) people in the exact same way because people are different and have different personalities and interests and character quirks.
I think the key is communication and respect. as long as everyone is open and honest and resentments don't fester (I know, easier said than done sometimes) then make it work if you can.
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I envy them, definitely, its gotta be fun!
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a few years ago i met a couple who are in an open relationship…
we've had several threesomes, but mostly it's just me and the one guy.
it's a lot of fun. we still meet up at rare and odd intervals.
i don't doubt that polyamory can be done, just maybe very rare.
i'm not really a part of the relationship. i think i'm more of a fuck buddy, but that's fine with me.
i still consider myself single, but if they ever want someone else to join, i'm down.
as for me. if i ever met someone i really liked, i would want to be exclusive. -
a few years ago i met a couple who are in an open relationship…
we've had several threesomes, but mostly it's just me and the one guy.
it's a lot of fun. we still meet up at rare and odd intervals.
i don't doubt that polyamory can be done, just maybe very rare.
i'm not really a part of the relationship. i think i'm more of a fuck buddy, but that's fine with me.
i still consider myself single, but if they ever want someone else to join, i'm down.
as for me. if i ever met someone i really liked, i would want to be exclusive.i would consider that as fuck buddies too tho
i still think there s a big difference between a poly relationship and an open relationship -
I'm not into casual sex, and I'm not into having multiple partners, but I do not care if my partner does. I'm really easy-going, as long as people give me the basic respect and consideration I deserve. Honestly and consideration are what matter to me in a serious relationship. That's really the only thing I ask of guys who want a "serious LTR" with me.
Cheating (in other words, lying) and taking advantage of my good nature really pisses me off. But I don't consider it cheating or taking advantage if my partner is upfront about it.
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It's not for me. I could never be in a relationship like this.
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I want to be in one. But without the relationship part, haha
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I'm not into casual sex, and I'm not into having multiple partners, but I do not care if my partner does. I'm really easy-going, as long as people give me the basic respect and consideration I deserve. Honestly and consideration are what matter to me in a serious relationship. That's really the only thing I ask of guys who want a "serious LTR" with me.
Cheating (in other words, lying) and taking advantage of my good nature really pisses me off. But I don't consider it cheating or taking advantage if my partner is upfront about it.
but would it be so unfair for u? as ur partner has an open relationship with u while ur not
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not good
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No it's not a good thing.
Most people who are in relationships like this do wind up lying and cheating on the other person or people who they are involved with, and someone winds up hurt, and it's a toxic relationship that's best avoided.
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I'm not into casual sex, and I'm not into having multiple partners, but I do not care if my partner does. I'm really easy-going, as long as people give me the basic respect and consideration I deserve. Honestly and consideration are what matter to me in a serious relationship. That's really the only thing I ask of guys who want a "serious LTR" with me.
Cheating (in other words, lying) and taking advantage of my good nature really pisses me off. But I don't consider it cheating or taking advantage if my partner is upfront about it.
but would it be so unfair for u? as ur partner has an open relationship with u while ur not
Nope. As long as they're honest and with me, I don't care. I don't expect hourly bone reports and constantly being told where they are and what they are doing, just that they let me know whether or not I should wait around for them, if it's okay with me to have someone over, etc. And would I expect them to use protection for hook-ups, if only for my own sake. That's not even up for discussion. I'd expect that of anyone worth being with as part of a committed relationship. I fully comprehend why people would think this sounds weird, "unfair" or like being taken advantage of. But openness and communication is really the mitigating factor of all that for me. Also, the fact that I'm really not into flings or multiple partners means I don't feel like I'm "missing out" or being cheated of anything.
Truth be told, in my perfect fantasy world, I'd be with a guy that's into single-partner relationships like I am. But guys like that seems to be incredibly uncommon. I'd rather have a guy who is honest about having multiple partners than one who lies about it. Seems like the best compromise. I am not prone to jealousy or insecurity in relationships, just so long as I don't feel like I'm being manipulated or lied to. I don't need to "have" my partner completely. Only to feel like I have someone who I can trust and be myself with, and who can trust in and be themselves with me as well. While I like the idea of sex with someone I'm that close with, I can even live without that. I'd rather have an intense platonic relationship over a casual, disconnected sexual one. I guess it's fair to say I wouldn't want a partner with multiple committed relationships, but I don't care about flings or "fuck buddies".
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I find it almost impossible, very few people mature enough to do so. they know better to be just single
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