I fell in love with someone who's not my type, physically. So confused
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I'm in my 30's too and I find myself caring less about sex and more about a person I can share my life with.
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well, go for it.See how it will go.TRY it!i definitely would
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When I was nineteen I fell in love with a man who served me in the boutique (is that english?) where i used to buy my clothes.
Through this man I learned to reflect and who introduced me to music like Philip Glass and David Sylvian. But he could nott kiss and he had a very small penis. I hate me still for this. but I could not accept him. Sad. -
I say go for it and see where it goes. It's easier to find someone you're attracted to and have sex, but much harder to find someone you genuinely connect with and whose company you enjoy.
There are ways to get around the lack of sexual chemistry- use your imagination and treat it as a challenge. If you really love him, then it's worth the effort. Good luck!
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I'm in my 30's too and I find myself caring less about sex and more about a person I can share my life with.
Me too! The "hotness" fades away, but true connection lasts forever (or for a much longer time…).
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While sex is important to a relationship, it does not make 100% of it.
Give it a try. Who knows? This 'type' thing is actually limiting how we experience relationships. Also, eroticism and attraction have a mental component. It's obvious this dude gets your hormones crazy…let your mind let go of this 'type' thing and explore the relationship fully.
When love hits, it hits hard.
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Has this ever happened to you? You date someone, fall in love, but the guy is not really your type physically? I'm in my 30s and really felt I found the perfect guy to settle with, but my sexual attraction towards him is weak. He's really hot, but just not my type.
I'm confused and don't know if I should continue or break it off. We've been together for months now and everything is great except the sex. I'm afraid to break it off and then regret my mistake.
Well the question is, what do you mean by "he is just not my type".
There is a saying that friendship is love without the erotic part. Pardon my bluntness, but… If everything is great with someone, just not the sex, then why have sex with him? In that case, you may as well live with a woman, there are many wonderful women ideal to settle with.
Then again, you stated that he is "hot". Can you detail that a little, praise him, tell us how do you find hot? Is he handsome, but fat, or does he have a sexy body with an average face? Is he older than your ideal?
And maybe you should also think of what your "type" is. Is it a very strict type, like "bald guys with a face resembling my childhood crush", or did you only mean that his looks alone does not excite you very much? If your previous boyfriends were cut out for a particular fetish, and he isn't, then maybe it is only that your taste have changed.
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Has this ever happened to you? You date someone, fall in love, but the guy is not really your type physically? I'm in my 30s and really felt I found the perfect guy to settle with, but my sexual attraction towards him is weak. He's really hot, but just not my type.
I'm confused and don't know if I should continue or break it off. We've been together for months now and everything is great except the sex. I'm afraid to break it off and then regret my mistake.
Sex is great, however, it is harder to find a person that you could settle down with.
Try it out what do you have to lose?
Your in your 30s you still have time if it doesn't work out. -
Has this ever happened to you? You date someone, fall in love, but the guy is not really your type physically? I'm in my 30s and really felt I found the perfect guy to settle with, but my sexual attraction towards him is weak. He's really hot, but just not my type.
I'm confused and don't know if I should continue or break it off. We've been together for months now and everything is great except the sex. I'm afraid to break it off and then regret my mistake.
Well the question is, what do you mean by "he is just not my type".
There is a saying that friendship is love without the erotic part. Pardon my bluntness, but… If everything is great with someone, just not the sex, then why have sex with him? In that case, you may as well live with a woman, there are many wonderful women ideal to settle with.
Then again, you stated that he is "hot". Can you detail that a little, praise him, tell us how do you find hot? Is he handsome, but fat, or does he have a sexy body with an average face? Is he older than your ideal?
And maybe you should also think of what your "type" is. Is it a very strict type, like "bald guys with a face resembling my childhood crush", or did you only mean that his looks alone does not excite you very much? If your previous boyfriends were cut out for a particular fetish, and he isn't, then maybe it is only that your taste have changed.
I said that he's "hot" because I don't want people to think that I don't want him because he's unattractive. He happens to be a good looking guy. But he's not my type. I don't wake up every morning feeling so horny when I'm with him. I won't take a picture of him and jerk off to it.
I really like guys who are not smooth on their body, and he is very smooth. All the porn I download here are basically hairy-type guys. So I'm just wondering from people here who've had this experience - am I going down a path that will lead to a breakup? Do couples really need to be totally attracted to one another?
He is literally everything I wanted in a guy…such a sweetheart.
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Like what Disney has always said with their musical numbers…
"True to Your Heart"
"Can't You Feel the Love Tonight?"
"Listen to Your Heart"
"Let it Go"
"How Far Will I Go"I said that he's "hot" because I don't want people to think that I don't want him because he's unattractive. He happens to be a good looking guy. But he's not my type. I don't wake up every morning feeling so horny when I'm with him. I won't take a picture of him and jerk off to it.
I really like guys who are not smooth on their body, and he is very smooth. All the porn I download here are basically hairy-type guys. So I'm just wondering from people here who've had this experience - am I going down a path that will lead to a breakup? Do couples really need to be totally attracted to one another?
He is literally everything I wanted in a guy…such a sweetheart.
I believe your last statement is the key!
Why? Because physical attraction will grow over time. And it WILL grow, once you've shared emotional attraction.
How can I say that? Personal experience. I had this good friend, and I used to think that this was a guy I could just be friends with. After all, he's simply just NOT my type. Similar to you, I have sexual preferences that easily aroused me (hairy, moderately muscular, physically active), and he's not at all like that (smooth as a bun, moderately chubby, and loved to laze around)!As we got closer, I was starting to see him… 'differently'. As in, I began to slowly tolerate his looks, because his personality won me over. That sentiment actually caught me by surprise! That's when I began to... you know, just want to be with him. That longing feeling that only you alone could understand. Thanks to that, as time went by, I began feeling sexual attraction from him too! Highly likely because my trust for him grew stronger and stronger. Sure, it didn't end as a happy ending for us due to a very trivial issue, but that's my problem. Many other people have indeed found happiness through the same path!
You said "I don't wake up every morning feeling so horny when I'm with him". I'm completely sure that's just how you feel FOR NOW. Just go for it, wait and see, what develops, what's going to happen next once you take the first step. I can't guarantee a fairytale happy ending, but who knows, the result might just pleasantly surprise you ;).
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