How to approach guys?

krish1

Hello everyone,

I'm a South Asian guy who recently moved to UK. I was wondering how to approach guys at gay bars/pubs/clubs. I've never done that sort of thing back home as there were no gay clubs/bars in my home country. Any tips would be highly appreciated

brianboru72

I'd suggest starting with the tried and true buy the guy a drink, then start a conversation.

If you want to avoid spending right away, try giving him a smile to see if there's any interest. Most important is you try to relax, have fun, and be yourself. Good luck!

detroiticus

Just be really straight forward about your intentions. "Wanna come over, bend me over the sofa, and pump my hole?"

hugoritz

first of all, relax, it's just a guy (yes, maybe a hot, gorgeous guy… but still... just a human)... and really, just try to be yourself, it doesn't matter if you're just looking for sex or you're looking for something more serious... your own personality is what will pull (or not) the other guy towards you

boxingclever

take it easy and stay open to what happens; basically, you're getting to know someone and what they're open to, so if they follow your signals and you get laid that's definitely a plus!
don't take rejection personally, and if you start to find disappointment simply shift your focus elsewhere; hitting on a line of men isn't good for the morale – go for who catches your attention, and try being open to guys that are interested

bare4bear

I suppose that if you're cruising at a gay bar, you're looking for sex and not a relationship. Is that true?
Your approach should probably be different if you want to try and eventually date the guy than if you were trying to have sex.

upNXT

Most interactions just start by saying "hi"…works just as well as any other method...

Frederick

I am not into cruising at all, but from conversations I've had with many people… when they go cruising at clubs, they quickly lose interest once they realize that everybody there who is cruising has fucked everybody else in the place already. And then, the gossip and comparisons and rivalries kick in. Oy vey!

aadam101

If you just want sex use an app. It's quicker and you can get exactly what you want…...and you don't have to buy anybody a drink.

Frederick

@krish1:

I'm a South Asian guy who recently moved to UK. I was wondering how to approach guys at gay bars/pubs/clubs. I've never done that sort of thing back home as there were no gay clubs/bars in my home country. Any tips would be highly appreciated

I have noticed one trick used by gay cruisers.. they go out with a dog… and they train the dog to approach cute guys... which leads to small talk and then... slam, bam, that you Sam...

dragonclaws

Try to get a sense of dominance (alcohol does help) and approach the person with confident. You have to read his sign and see whether he's reciprocating or not. Also give them space

krish1

Thanks for the advice guys! Still trying to muster enough confidence to go and talk to a guy. I'm usually a shy person

OklaBalmore

@Frederick:

@krish1:

I'm a South Asian guy who recently moved to UK. I was wondering how to approach guys at gay bars/pubs/clubs. I've never done that sort of thing back home as there were no gay clubs/bars in my home country. Any tips would be highly appreciated

I have noticed one trick used by gay cruisers.. they go out with a dog… and they train the dog to approach cute guys... which leads to small talk and then... slam, bam, that you Sam...

That trick with the dog man #mindblown

geniusacamel

Thanks for the advice. I actually have a hard time looking for sex/relationship.

Ononoke

I think the most important thing is to make sure that he's gay. Otherwise things might end up as hell for you.
Unless you're a woman of course.

Oh, and single.

But yes, just like the other comments, try to just give the guy you like a smile. If he responds then you can proceed to the 'getting to know' part. If he doesn't, then he's obviously not interested in you, so don't try to pursue that guy anymore.