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    How'd you react if your kid was homophobic?

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    • J Offline
      jjevvann
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      it will be crushing. but i wonder if that would be telling of the job i did as a parent.. like i did not educate/teach my child adequately..

      then again, lots of screwed up kids with perfectly alright parents.. hmmm

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        mattb36469
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        I honestly doubt you would have this situation. My Neice has grew up around my partner and I. She has just started high school and one of her friends announced she might be Bisexual. While the rest of her friends freaked out she told them "Get over yourselves, its completely normal" and here is my point. Growing up with gay parents is going to teach the child from an early age that being gay is perfectly normal. What matters to a child is love and thats what they are going to see.

        Mattb36469
        The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you’re hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward

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          gaypraha2
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          I honestly doubt you would have this situation

          yes you can have this situation, like a lot. you only point one of the simplest situation, where the child has grew up in a gay family.
          dont forget they are many gays who are married, have children and then realize they are gay , get a divorce and go live with a partner. in that not so uncommon case your child could be hating you for being gay..

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            mattb36469
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            @gaypraha2:

            I honestly doubt you would have this situation

            yes you can have this situation, like a lot. you only point one of the simplest situation, where the child has grew up in a gay family.
            dont forget they are many gays who are married, have children and then realize they are gay , get a divorce and go live with a partner. in that not so uncommon case your child could be hating you for being gay..

            Good call. You know I totally didn't think of that situation. In all honestly probably because its not a situation I would find myself in. Naturally I apologize for making an assumption. Sometimes it's difficult to respond without some context.

            In that situation I think it would be rough, and if I was in that situation I think I would accept that the child would be angry. The family dynamic has drastically changed. Its a tricky situation and one I would need to deal with diplomatically and avoid arguing and let them work through whatever issues they have. For me family is everything an no matter what happens blood is always thicker than water and like to think that you can work through whatever issues. In my time I've seen cases that I would have classed as hopeless become resolved. I think that child will need space and time.

            I will admit I am somewhat of an Optimist, and my advice to anyone in that situation would be to have faith.

            Mattb36469
            The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you’re hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward

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              Meilie
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              you can´t do nothing

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                killerbody14
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                homophobic acts based on the places where children raised. If gay parent provide with their children good educatian, there is almost no change them to be homophobic

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                  horyna
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                  I would ask the little bugger what's wrong with him.

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                    Eridanos
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                    Homophobia doesn't develope out of thin air, it had to be nourished somewhere.

                    If my child had homophobic ideas I would, first, explain to him/her at the best of my possibilites how homophobia is wrong. Second, I would sniff out where he/she is getting all that shit from and cut my son/daughter from it.

                    Of course if you do something douchey like divorcing your wife without any explanation and then go live the gay-party-boy lifestyle, you screwed up, BIG time.  Either the child is gonna hate you (and the mother would nourish that hate) or he/she would grow up to be an irresponsible ass and will use you as an example.

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                      munchie885
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                      People aren't born homophobic so I doubt I would have to problem with raising kids and one of them popping up as homophobic. As long as you treat your kids right the chances of them hating you is thin to nothing. And I still don't get why it's called homophobia, I don't know why people are scared of gay people, I've only ever met douche bags.

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                        revenger
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                        teach he/she a leasson heheh Lol. But pretty sure a honest converrsation, and educating would solve it easily!

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                          hngn2
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                          that's no bigge for me….. oh no! i will be worried... for all the pressure she or he would carry in this life

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                            Oscarbingham
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                            Very wise question.

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                              KissMyAirs
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                              My kid can not be homophobic because first thing im going to teach him/her would be that everybody is equal and shoul not be judged by things they cant choose

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                                Mcjl
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                                I have the joy of being a step parent.  5 kids.  They real mom and dad are awesome.  They teach tolerance. And they as us questions. They know we are just the same except our love is shared in a gay

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                                  jkronfuss
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                                  Kids usually have to become rebels at some point, I want to be a father and I imagine myself with a partner but I have always wondered what can you possible rebel agains to when your parents are gay. I mean, it's like having hippie parents and becoming a CEO, I guess being straight as ever would be the most possible outcome, yes, they might even yell faggot at you during an argument but I don't know. It's an usual response to fight everything your parents are at some age. Let's hope it would just be a phase but in the end, that's just parenthood. Or so I guess.

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                                    kenjysn1
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                                    I will make a reflection of my daily behavior, serious thought and consideration myself first. if he is very young dont know much about sexuality and just curious. I will lead him to the right side. If he is teenager i will accept his sexuality. As a father your responsibility is to give them what’s right and wrong in their growing ages.

                                    by the way boys always like to play woth boys. At the early age like 7-10, they will have a curiosity to sex, that’s normal play with each other’s cock or try to do anal or oral is not that strange. you will pay attention at that time it’s very a period

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                                      kenjysn1
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                                      @kenjysn1:

                                      I will make a reflection of my daily behavior, serious thought and consideration myself first. if he is very young dont know much about sexuality and just curious. I will lead him to the right side. If he is teenager i will accept his sexuality. As a father your responsibility is to give them what’s right and wrong in their growing ages.

                                      by the way boys always like to play woth boys. At the early age like 7-10, they will have a curiosity to sex, that’s normal play with each other’s cock or try to do anal or oral is not that strange. you will pay attention at that time it’s very a period

                                      I miss understanding the topic… homophobic is totally opposite of homophobia. can’t modify my post now. but i’d say if they hate gay and they are grown up at 16 years old, they will lose inheritance of mine. I don’t want to give my legacy to a gay hater. and I will not pay their college fee. they don’t belove against all of my love to them for decades.

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