Do you think that watching porn can ruin a relationship?

alrey

I do. I'm just not comfortable with the idea that my partner fantasizes about other guys than me. I'm not in a relationship now, so I spend some time watching porn and just enjoy it. What's your take on this, guys? Do you think it's okay to watch porn while you're in a relationship?

gaypraha2

you sound like a bigot women
Of course it's ok to watch porn anytime whether or not you are in a relationship.
When I'm done fucking (before going to bed) I usually have to go jerk off in front of some porn only then I go back to bed with the guy who is usually already sleeping. (cumming just once is probably not enough for me that's why I do that ). I never met a guy who told me it's not okay. And watching porn with your boyfriend can be fun.
I'm not really into "open" relationship but still, watching porn or even jerking off while you are in a relationship is totally okay and normal. I guess you dont understand the difference between a basic physiological need and feelings/love you can have for your BF hence the difference between "fucking" and "making love". Women usually have a hard time understanding that ( not all of them thank god) as their hormonal system is not made to be constantly ready to procreate like ours.
If one day I met a guy telling me I can't watch porn/jerk off when I'm not with him.. well I'm out so be careful as I'm pretty sure I'm not the only guy thinking that way ( or the guy will just lie to you..and lies are known to be healthy in a relationship ).

miang

Of course it's okay, and also completely healthy. It sounds like you have issues with insecurity and jealousy. Fantasising about other people is just normal. Everyone does it. No big deal. Porn can also help if your sexual desired don't match 100%.

Then again this is coming from someone who would prefer an open relationship to a monogomous one, or at most a closed relationship where you don't live with and spend every second with just one other person (can't imagine anything more exhausting. The honeymoon period will end…), so our viewpoints are probably completely different.

raphjd

YES, it can ruin a relationship. It depends on the people in the relationship. If you like porn and your boyfriend is a prude, the relationship won't work unless one of you changes. Some people withdraw into porn rather than sex with their partner.

HOWEVER, in general, there is nothing wrong with it. For most couples, it's no big deal.

Blastfurnace

Depends on the type of porn.

If he keeps watching fisting videos, while anal sex is already problematic for you, there is probably going to be an issue in the near/distant future.

Also, most porn is unrealistic and doesn't really contribute to a healthy outlook on sex. But on the other hand, it does give the other guy new ideas, which might be fun.

hhsq

It's always ok. Gee…

Latinuncut

I think this something related to open relationships. It's about the fact that many people want to hide under the mattress that fact that is very likely that you find other people attractive and you wish to have sex with them. People pretend to be in a monogamous relationship, because why to see the reality, and then go and cheat. If open relationships have the risk that someone will "steal" your boyfriend, at least porn won't.

spam17

@Latinuncut:

I think this something related to open relationships. It's about the fact that many people want to hide under the mattress that fact that is very likely that you find other people attractive and you wish to have sex with them. People pretend to be in a monogamous relationship, because why to see the reality, and then go and cheat. If open relationships have the risk that someone will "steal" your boyfriend, at least porn won't.