Gay Fathers

rickydrexel

@rickydrexel:

I am a fairly new gay father of a beautiful one year old son. His mother and I get along very well, and support each other 100 percent. However, being new to this, it is nice to get other gay dads perceptions on things. Like I am currently in the process of potty training, and I keep being told that I need to take my son to the bathroom when I go so he can watch me. That makes me feel a little uncomfortable. Just seems kinda strange. Any opinions out there??

I have 3 sons, 18y/o, 16y/o and 18mo. They all learned differently and the most important thing is to pay attention to your son's reactions to certain things.

Does your son seem interested in the potty chair or toilet, or in wearing underwear?
Can your son understand and follow basic directions?
Does your son tell you through words, facial expressions or posture when he needs to go?
Does he stay dry for periods of two hours or longer during the day?
Does he complain about wet or dirty diapers?
Can your child pull down his or her pants and pull them up again?
Can your child sit on and rise from a potty chair?

When your son displays any of these behaviors, he's ready to learn and showing him how is only weird if you make it so. (the BOLD lines are the ones that my sons exhibited but not every kid is the same obviously)

All my boys started with a couple questions about why 'daddy's diaper was different' and that started a conversation about the difference between 'big boy' underpants. When put into the right context, their natural curiosity and desire to emulate you will kind of take over and almost help guide you to guide him. Kwim?

hope this helps.

Thank you very much for your insight. I need to pay more attention to my son is basically what I got from your post. LOL!! He is only one, so right now, no questions, but as far as taking his diaper off, he does it all the time. He's never seen me in my underwear so that might be something that I need to actually let him see so he can see the difference. Right now he pays no attention to his potty chair but I also don't make any effort to work with him on it as far as putting him on it or things like talking to him about it. I will be trying this and watching him to see if he gets interested. Thanks again man.

lockedbashed

this is quiet insightful.. All the best!

uomo45

anch'io padre di 2 figli 24 e 21 anni…ma nn sanno della mia natura bisex,è cosi difficile :cry2:

LEVI

Let's see

3 children. Two daughters age 6 and 10. A son age 16. All adopted. My girls are actually sisters and my son is the biological child of two close friends whom died in a car accident. Never thought of being a father it all of just happened. Would never trade any of them. Okay maybe the one that takes after me.

pipedaddy

My name is Duncan, I have a 25 year old son that I raised pretty much on my own. Being a Dad is the only important thing I will ever do on this planet, and as tough as being a single parent seemed at times, I wouldn't trade my life and experiences with my child for anything. Today I am blessed to have a wonderful man for my partner (I met him while my son was in college) and even more blessed that my son considers him to be part of our family. My son graduated from Depaul University College of Law this past spring and both of his Dads shed some tears watching him walk across the stage and accept his diploma. He works for a law firm now in Chicago which feels like a long way from where we are (we live in North Carolina) and has become a fine young man but he will always be my little boy. When I look back all I can think of are the many things I should have done better but it's nice to know that I must have done some things right.
Over the years I've been called a lot of things but nothing sounds sweeter to my ears than being called Dad.

pittstop17

My dream

revenger

Not cool at all, i respect my boys whose dream with becoming father .. but i never thought about it and would hate having a kid!

turriel

@russbill:

Welcome to the club guys…..

I came out to my kid's 14 no 15 years ago and haven't seen or heard from either since
I kinda wish I had kept my mouth closed...

I have just readthis and found it was so sad.

exetiv

Hi All.
Just thought I would post to this.
I became a single farther very unexpectedly and was left with two very young boys to bring up by myself.
It was one of the most stressful but amazing periods of my life and helped me not only bring the boys up to be well adjusted and funny kids but also helped me learn about myself and who I am. Ten years down the road one is off to uni and the other still at school we are a very happy and close family unit, I have always found the best way was just to be honest and open with them but never to try to push any of my beliefs to hard as they will in the end always go there own way, there have been many bumps along the road and some very nasty comments from so called friends and other “Normal” parents at there schools but I have always hit them face on and never hidden away. And as my eldest is now becoming an adult I look back and think was it worth it all I can say is “Yes” and I would do it all over again and again the rewards are so great and the all the other stuff from society well who cares.
I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity and good luck to anyone out there doing the same just try to hang onto your sanity lol. :cheesy2:

rimani

Hi guys.
I'm 26 and I'm not a father.
But all of you, sweethearts, stop raising my paternal instinct. ;D(just joking)