And up until 4 years ago, I was attracted to everything but Asians. Come to find out I was looking in ALL the wrong places lol

FYI my husband of 8 years is black so this is definitely not always true

I'm white, far from old and ugly, and I love my Asians!

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Well, I'm Asian and have a bad case of hair fetish… so that rules most other Asians out; though the odd hairy Asian have turned my head once or twice.

As for older men, it is intelligence that I find attractive - Someone who has worldly knowledge, his head screwed on,  experience and preferably a vocabulary of more than 10 words.
I like men, not boys.

Give me a rugged man, an apple and some rope and we are set for a party!

:cheesy2:

I so can relate to this! I also have "a bad case of hair fetish"  :cheers:

Asians' search for people to date are divided into 3 categories:
1. Those who idolized white men.
2. Those who stick with their own race (a.k.a keeping pureblood).
3. Those who are open to any.

Asian who idolized white men, and date exclusively with them, are ones who watch too much media. They watch them so much that their idea of an adonis has been shaped into the hunky, tall, white teeth and charming white men with beard. The idea of being good looking has led them to believe that only dating with white men can make them happy. This kind of Asian will fall into the "desperate" Asians who are willing to date (much) older white men. This may also have to do with Asian culture where they perceive people who has white skin are beautiful. Sure white men has different kind of white as Asian's white (milk/porcelain-like kind of white) but it's still white.

Asians are pretty diverse, and they don't always like each other. We have the whiter Asian (chinese, japanese, korean), then we have a darker Asian (malaysian, thai, philippines) and then we also have the darkest Asian (india, arab, some chinese/japanese/korean are born with darker skin). Some of the whiter Asian tend to avoid dating with darker Asian, as again, we are culturally raised to be successful by our family, and darker skin usually equals more outdoor work (which means poor people).

It's all about stereotypes, really. Living in Asian country, I date Asian all the time though I would like to try to date white guys as well.

Bottomline I realised is that each individual soul is colourless and everlasting. What we look and have in hand at the moment does not last. If you believe in a lasting relationship then I say widen your scope and look deeper. If you just want to have some fun and have the energy to hop around, continue to bring you list of ever ending desires out and place them in front of you each time you need someone new.

Just a own opinion. Cheers!

JZ

As for older men, it is intelligence that I find attractive - Someone who has worldly knowledge, his head screwed on,  experience and preferably a vocabulary of more than 10 words.
I like men, not boys.

Give me a rugged man, an apple and some rope and we are set for a party!

:cheesy2:

I think part of the reason for that was because I lived in a more ethnic part of California where I saw more asians and latinos than anything else. It really wasn't until I got into college that I started to actually see white people bahahaha

I know the feeling, and you're not the only one. I too am more attracted to older men. This may be largely due to the fact that older men tend to have a brain in their heads and know what they want, rather than trotting around like some immature little twink who is completely care free. I find it easier to engage in an intellectually stimulating conversation with an older man. Perhaps this is something that also drives you to older men?

Well, I've learned a lot of things from older men but I think it's their financial stability and level headedness that makes them more preferable partners.

i've fucked (or been fucked) by every race, body type, age, etc. But most of my boyfriends have been asian, and i'm happy to admit that many asian men happen to have physical characteristics that turn my crank. It's very superficial but also common. It's the physical things that you are attracted to physically which lead to introductions, conversations, and getting nasty.

But culture rears its ugly head, of course. My asian boyfriends have been very americanized. I can't help it…I have to be able to relate fundamentally with a person to date long-term. Of course I'm culturally ignorant, but this isn't a special burden of US citizens. Everyone is culturally ignorant except for really good anthropoligists (who are only just pretending) and those talented and lucky few who actually have lived within different cultures.

At the end of the day, the teeming masses only know what they see surrounding them. Who gives a shit whether they can correctly identify an arbitrarily-decided shape on a map that has been designated "Iraq"? We could train dolphins to do this.  I'm not preaching ignorance…i think it's actually important that I know where Iraq is on a map, accepting that this doesn't mean that i know anything about Iraqis.

you see i have this stereotype that foreigners or caucasians in general bring sexually transmitted diseases like aids here in our country…  did anyone get offended? and oh yeah.. we speak english very well here in our country so that stereotype that asians don't know squat about english is dead wrong... and oh yeah... that steretype about asians liking caucasians that much only applies to asians who are also butt ugly and jobless with no means for food...

just because some butt ugly lazy asians go for caucasians due to desperation don't mean all of us are very desperate... pls take note that most asians work hard to earn their living....

See? Proof that ignorance hath no stranger. Oh honey, we all work hard to earn our living. I don't really know very many people who aren't, in some way, desperate.

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we speak english very well here in our country so that stereotype that asians don't know squat about english is dead wrong

I've lived in Japan and South Korea and I can say for a fact that a lot of people in both countries pretend not to speak english, even though it's taught very early on in school.

Your comments have helped me to understand perhaps where his mind is in this matter!!!