I have always had a huge fetish for gangbangs. Let me also add that I am a completely versatile guy. When I say I have a fetish for gangbangs, I don't just mean as the bottom, but even as a top. The idea of multiple men using their bodies to pleasure one man is extremely arousing to me.

Now here's the problem. I'm recently dating someone. I really like the man and I love his energy. I don't want to ruin my prospects with him by bringing up orgies and gangbangs, but I do want to explore that side of myself with him.

What is a good way to bring this up?

It's actually good for couples to DISCUSS fantasies - that doesn't mean you're pressuring your partner to FULFILL those fantasies (and if you value the relationship, you'll understand - and put on hold - your fantasy if it's not something he's interested in).

To wit: how many couples have a "hall pass" celebrity? (Oh, Brad Pitt is my "hall pass" - if I ever meet him, I get to fuck him "free" and my partner has already agreed!)

MY partner and I met because he wanted to TRY bondage & blindfolds... it turned out he did NOT like it (tho I do...) So, we started dating - and we don't do bondage anymore.... I still love it, but he doesn't, so it's just fantasy right now... c'est la vie! He's a great guy, and the sex is good - with or without the bondage!