<![CDATA[Some friends are bad]]>How to cope with toxic friends ? They are good friends, but always putting you down  because of your sexuality.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47471/some-friends-are-badRSS for NodeWed, 08 Apr 2026 09:06:24 GMTTue, 16 Jun 2020 11:47:39 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Sun, 17 Apr 2022 23:21:42 GMT]]>@kako75015 I have found that the vast majority of "friends" will betray you very easily.

at the moment, I can't think of anybody I trust. I am working on one.

If someone even has ONE person they can trust in their lives.. that is one more than most people have.

I certainly do not trust any of my family members, nor neighbors, nor co-workers.

I might trust RaphJD.. but he lives thousands of miles away. I am hoping to have one I can trust 150 miles away.. and perhaps even closer.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/293238https://community.gaytor.rent/post/293238Sun, 17 Apr 2022 23:21:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Sun, 17 Apr 2022 23:14:19 GMT]]>I'm a bad friend and I tend to attract bad friends.

If I care about them they don't care about me and vice versa.

I feel like when I make the effort to be a real friend I get taken advantage of. So most of my friendships tend to be superficial.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/293234https://community.gaytor.rent/post/293234Sun, 17 Apr 2022 23:14:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Wed, 24 Feb 2021 17:58:49 GMT]]>@fezobe me too i am deaf.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/272738https://community.gaytor.rent/post/272738Wed, 24 Feb 2021 17:58:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Mon, 22 Feb 2021 21:47:06 GMT]]>Was such a friend myself, being a whiny and obnoxious jerk. Sadly, most of it I understand only in retrospect, after my straight friend of 10 years finally kicked me.
And now I'm a lonely and miserable jerk.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/272598https://community.gaytor.rent/post/272598Mon, 22 Feb 2021 21:47:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Thu, 03 Dec 2020 22:18:48 GMT]]>Another problem, is that they'll start bad mouthing you behind your back, aka=gossiping. Even I started doing the same thing :blink: it was that toxic.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/267293https://community.gaytor.rent/post/267293Thu, 03 Dec 2020 22:18:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Sun, 25 Oct 2020 18:21:24 GMT]]>I don't think its so black and white; and it's hard to just cut people out of your life, especially when they don't actually know what they're doing is wrong. If you're comfortable with talking to them about it, that's what you should do first. Educate them?

If not then go make some new friends, hang out with your old ones less and less. You'll find a friendship group who will appreciate you 🙂

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265546https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265546Sun, 25 Oct 2020 18:21:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Wed, 14 Oct 2020 15:16:35 GMT]]>I was in a very toxic friendship/group of friends last year… it took me time to notice how toxic they were, but another group of friends warned me of them and I finally admitted that they were right and broke up the friendship relationship.

I cannot feel happier than now.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265166https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265166Wed, 14 Oct 2020 15:16:35 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Sat, 10 Oct 2020 20:02:42 GMT]]>I ended two friendships a couple of years ago because of this. One was a friend (female) from university, who got into the habit of always asking me VERY intimate things to which I had, at no time, allowed her to talk about. Even worse, she got into that gay stereotypical thing - so that, everytime she would text me and I would answer only later (because, God forbid, I could be watching a movie, working out, eating), she would return like "what were you doing, naughty boy? tell me everything!". I got fed up with such attitude.

The other one was a guy I met through Manhunt. He seemed to be a nice guy, but had certain "creeds" towards gay behaviours that weren't same as mine, but he would never even consider talking about it - he was always right, I was wrong, even though I had been going out with men more than a decade before him (he was married to a woman, then divorced…). At some point I also got tired of not being able to talk about certain stuff because I knew I'd be preached. Then it was over.

And I must say: I miss nothing about both of them. Nothing.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265037https://community.gaytor.rent/post/265037Sat, 10 Oct 2020 20:02:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Thu, 03 Sep 2020 11:04:58 GMT]]>If you're trapped in a toxic friendship/group of friends, leave fast, because you'll start to act like them.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263361https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263361Thu, 03 Sep 2020 11:04:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Sat, 01 Aug 2020 11:06:32 GMT]]>Agree - get rid of them. They are not your friends, start looking to expand your circle and leave these behind. Although it might seem difficult now, you'll be glad you did it.

Why are you hanging around with people who put you down?

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/262113https://community.gaytor.rent/post/262113Sat, 01 Aug 2020 11:06:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Some friends are bad on Tue, 16 Jun 2020 12:08:27 GMT]]>They are not really your friends. Just kick them off and "expel" them from your life as soon as possible.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260032https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260032Tue, 16 Jun 2020 12:08:27 GMT