In my case no, I love big/huge guys but I'm planning to remain small myself

Me too  ;D

I've always wondered about this.

I once talked to a professional gay matchmaker about a similar issue.  He told me that it is nothing more than "like attracts like".  I used to see this as a narcissistic egomaniac thing, but the more I think about it, the whole thing makes sense.  If I have self confidence and believe I look good, why am I not going to find people who look like me / as good as me attractive?

The whole concept sadly works against me.  I'm 36.  I have always been interested in younger guys, but younger guys never found me all too attractive.  When I was in college, I didn't have much confidence.  I didn't look all too great either.  Now that I am older.  I'm a lot more wise and self aware.  Sadly, guys that are my type only want others guys that are my type.  At the end of the day I can try my best to at least meet them halfway, but the reality is.. I'll never be them.

The better question is…  We all know that not everyone ends up with someone they believe is drop dead gorgeous.  So, for those of you who are the least attractive of the pair, what is it that you did to break down that barrier and get your type to give you a chance?

I'm in the same boat, even a similar age (I'm 34). I'm into younger twinky guys and I really wish I could go back to being a young twinky guy and leave the closet instead of waiting as long as I did haha. Like you, I also notice most of the guys who are my type tend to be into guys similar to them, so it kind of sucks for me.

I don't have any answer for this, obviously, but just wanted you to know you're not alone haha.

I once talked to a professional gay matchmaker about a similar issue.  He told me that it is nothing more than "like attracts like".  I used to see this as a narcissistic egomaniac thing, but the more I think about it, the whole thing makes sense.  If I have self confidence and believe I look good, why am I not going to find people who look like me / as good as me attractive?

The whole concept sadly works against me.  I'm 36.  I have always been interested in younger guys, but younger guys never found me all too attractive.  When I was in college, I didn't have much confidence.  I didn't look all too great either.  Now that I am older.  I'm a lot more wise and self aware.  Sadly, guys that are my type only want others guys that are my type.  At the end of the day I can try my best to at least meet them halfway, but the reality is.. I'll never be them.

The better question is…  We all know that not everyone ends up with someone they believe is drop dead gorgeous.  So, for those of you who are the least attractive of the pair, what is it that you did to break down that barrier and get your type to give you a chance?

Can't say I'm copy paste dater. I'm attracted to a mix of people. It just depends on the person. Saw the pic on IG. So many guys stated they were called out.

Ha. The pic is perfect. Although I definitely wouldn't want to be that similar.

For myself it's more about features – like being attracted to bearded and hairy men and also wanting to be bearded and hairy myself (thank you genetics!), like not the exact same but just shared features. Perhaps similar looking but not like we could be siblings or we're actually copying each other.

Basically no need to compare who's better than who, who's richer than who.
Unfortunately in the real world, most people are choosy and age, size, status comparisons are the norm.