Is watching porn ok in a relationship?

[ckslad]

what's your view?

[SimonSaid]

It's definitely ok, I would even say it's healthy as long as you are not addicted. It allows each person in the relationship to have their own secret garden which is often needed. And who knows, it can bring the couple closer together in some cases

[royalcrown89]

I agree that it's okay and could actually benefit the relationship in some instances. I've been in a relationship since 2012 and I've regularly watched porn and so has my partner. We watch it together and separately.

[JohnAllenson]

There's only two problems I can think of:

1/  Your partner considers watching porn to be something he doesn't want you to do.  (I'd find a new partner rather than such an insecure control freak.)
2/  You collect porn that is seriously disturbing/illegal:  kiddie-porn, bestiality, scat, revenge porn, blood sports….

[furfiend]

@JohnAllenson:

There's only two problems I can think of:

1/  Your partner considers watching porn to be something he doesn't want you to do.  (I'd find a new partner rather than such an insecure control freak.)
2/  You collect porn that is seriously disturbing/illegal:  kiddie-porn, bestiality, scat, revenge porn, blood sports….

You forgot…
3/  You use porn to hide/deny the fact that you're not attracted to your current partner.

[tiptoe88]

i don't see the problem as long as watching porn doesn't get more entertaining than the actual sex lol

[ivanunss]

Yes, but only if you watch porn together. Otherwise it may affect your sexual appetite negatively.

[hauntnut]

In my first relationship, my boyfriend watched porn but would hide it from me, so I always thought it was something that was a no-no if you were in a relationship. I've had two relationships where we both enjoyed watching porn together, one of which led to us making videos of each other as well. If it's doesn't become a complete substitute for actual sex, then I don't see the problem.

[dzirlo]

i wonder if people in open relationships think watching porn is cheating

[nikolaos84]

I don't think it is disturbing or it will necessarly affect your relationship on a negative manner. On the contrary I think that couples should watch porn together, it is a healthy way of sexual experimentation and exploration.

Porn is fantasy so I am totally ok as long as it remains only a fantasy

[Nagron]

It's ok with me and with my partner…I dont see this as cheating.

[rewolve]

I think it's harmless as long as it does not impact your sex drive with your partner.

I didn't know guys cared about it, it's usually straight girls who freak out over their bfs watching porn…

[erikiwi]

why would it not be ok?

[pols1337]

@erikiwi:

why would it not be ok?

When the porn is homo bro porn LOL.  That's when the girlfriend should worry  :cheers:

[erikiwi]

haha yeah maybe that would indicate some problem.

@pols1337:

@erikiwi:

why would it not be ok?

When the porn is homo bro porn LOL.  That's when the girlfriend should worry  :cheers:

[Duvet]

It is ot a problem as far as it will not distort your views on sex and affect your relationship.

[zeropolis79]

My partner and I watch porn while we have sex.. helps us

[FurryWolfPup]

Yeah it's perfectly fine as long as you are both honest and open about it.

My partner and myself have an extensive collection of porn, we share it, and openly discuss porn films and actors etc. We quite often send each porn pics and vids daily. It's quite hot knowing what turns your partner on and knowing it gets them off. Luckily we both roughly have the same taste in men, kinks and fetishes so it works out good for the both of us  :cheesy2:

Sometimes we watch it together, or sometimes one of us will be watching it and we just end up having sex anyway, or sometimes I will even surprise my partner by putting on a little porn show of my own with toys and gear and then he just ends up joining in ;D

[AnythingOld]

I don't know, I really think it depends on the relationship, and the relationship's ground rules. Personally, I did it once, and I had an overwhelming feeling of guilt, as he pointed out he new that I did. Mind you, I wasn't embarrassed that I watched porn; but I was more ashamed of my ex wrongfully interpreting that as saying he wasn't enough. But… That wasn't the case at all.

[FurryWolfPup]

@AnythingOld:

I don't know, I really think it depends on the relationship, and the relationship's ground rules. Personally, I did it once, and I had an overwhelming feeling of guilt, as he pointed out he new that I did. Mind you, I wasn't embarrassed that I watched porn; but I was more ashamed of my ex wrongfully interpreting that as saying he wasn't enough. But… That wasn't the case at all.

I had a similar experience in a previous relationships. One guy said that he didn't think porn should be used in a healthy relationship, so I threw all mine out only to find he had an extensive collection hidden away on his PC.

In another relationship I admitted to watching porn and was scolded for it, as the ex at the time believed it was wrong for me to even look at someone else, and made me feel guilty, so i ended up deleting 2TB of porn to keep him happy, but as it turned out he too watched porn secretly behind my back.

Turns out both those partners had control issues and were quite abusive to me anyway.

So this time around things are very different in my current (and hopefully last) relationship. We have complete honest and openness about such things, and it's a much healthier and happier environment for us both. There's no secrets or hiding, and no shame or embarrassment and no feelings of guilt, and we both have our private time if we want it.

But I agree, it's definitely depends on the relationship, and the relationship's ground rules…as long as the rules are not being secretly broken and there is actually honest and open communication about your want's, needs and desires.

Yes it can be hard at first to hear that the person you love finds someone else sexually attractive, but it can also be quite liberating, because if we are honest with ourselves, we all do it, it's just human nature.