I feel this is a problem more common than people realize or want to admit.  I myself have a hard time staying hard when I'm about to fuck someone; it's why I usually bottom.  I have no issues getting hard any other time; it's just when I'm about to enter an ass.

For me, I'm not even thinking about "I'm about to go in" or "Hope it goes well".  I just legit start softening until it's nothing.  And strangely enough, it's always when I use a condom that it goes down.  Kinda makes me feel like George from that one Seinfeld episode where he complains about losing an erection between the time of getting a condom and opening it.

But seriously, I have no mental qualms about wearing condoms.  It just seems to affect me as such when I try my hand at topping.  It's somewhat better when I bareback fuck someone, but I reserve that for only one person whom I trust but is a total top who miraculously lets me at him once in a blue moon.

That said, it's best to talk to your doctor to see if there's anything you can do to change it.

A doctor though may help may not..

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For me, I'm not even thinking about "I'm about to go in" or "Hope it goes well".  I just legit start softening until it's nothing.  And strangely enough, it's always when I use a condom that it goes down.  Kinda makes me feel like George from that one Seinfeld episode where he complains about losing an erection between the time of getting a condom and opening it.

But seriously, I have no mental qualms about wearing condoms.  It just seems to affect me as such when I try my hand at topping.  It's somewhat better when I bareback fuck someone, but I reserve that for only one person whom I trust but is a total top who miraculously lets me at him once in a blue moon.

That said, it's best to talk to your doctor to see if there's anything you can do to change it.

Though recently I was in a threesome with my top buddy and successfully fucked the bottom.  Of course, that was after I came 15 minutes ago.  I'm not sure if that helped or because of how hot the whole situation was since I rarely do threesomes.

I experience the same, getting nervous and try to fuck someone I don't really care about don't help, it's also easier when they are 100% bottom and not versatile, if they are… well, closed, I find it hard to keep it hard. You are not at alone, it's pure stress and nothing else.

If the hole is too tight and closed, try opening that hole up a bit so you can get your dick in.  This is why men with larger penises are often better lovers, because they have to get the bottom to relax mentally and physically before sticking their dick in or it won't go in at all or will at least the hole will be too tight.  They are also necessarily concerned about hurting the bottom, so they don't rush and let the bottom control the pace.  They know the bottom needs to enjoy the sex in order to be relaxed.

A guy with an average or smaller penis will sometimes be successful just poking around without sufficient foreplay but that's not much fun for the bottom.

For a good example,  watch Cade Maddox.  His penis is not huge but it is large enough that he has to have skilz.

Hi all!
This topic may be classic and I need some advice
Normally, I can easily got erection in the morning after waking up, when i think about sex or when i try to masterbate. It's all okay. My dick is in a good size and I'm confident about it. I want to be the top
But when I try to put it into the butt hole, It gets weaker and weaker then went off. ( plz don't laugh, it's just sad) . Since that, I'm so nervous whenever I have sex, only 1 time sucessful but It was short and I didn't feel so good.
Should i take some kind of pill to help that? Or any tips and tricks. Thanks

Hi I should be something psychological if you can get an erection in the morning or on other times then it isn't a functional thing. You should try to talk to your partner about your nervousness and find a way to relax. The pill might make you keep the erecton longer but it wont be a long term solution. You should explain to your partner how nervous you are about beeing on top and work from that

The fact that you can get erections in the morning or during other times is a big indicator that it is a mental rather than physical issue.

It happens far more often than you would think and most men encounter some issue with this at some point in their lives.

If you've tried other things, you can purchase (depending on applicable laws to your area) generic Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil) which are far cheaper than the branded equivalent which would help with the anxiety aspect. Both require sexual arousal to work so bear that in mind. This can help put your mind at ease.

Sildenafil lasts for about 4 hours and Tadalafil has a longer lasting period up to 36 hours.

As always, it's best to consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication.

Always consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication!

It happens far more often than you would think and most men encounter some issue with this at some point in their lives.

If you've tried other things, you can purchase (depending on applicable laws to your area) generic Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil) which are far cheaper than the branded equivalent which would help with the anxiety aspect. Both require sexual arousal to work so bear that in mind. This can help put your mind at ease.

Sildenafil lasts for about 4 hours and Tadalafil has a longer lasting period up to 36 hours.

As always, it's best to consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication.

I'm having the same problem.

@NickJakobs:

Hi ,
i have the same issue alot of times. But i get soft because my mind is so busy thinking " oh god , dont turn soft" or " i hope i am a good top "
i belive its all the pressure in our heads that lets the fun part go away.
i try to relax myself myself and just have fun. Your only human and not a fucking maschine. It hapends. Just try to take the pressure ( that only you put on yourself by the way not the bottom) away.

greetz Nick

I total agree. My husband are in that age when you sometimes dont get it up (regardless how horny you are). And its just sex, not the end of the world.

As a Bottom, i often get hard when he fuck me, but often im soft to ejaculation. I often cum hands free in missionary or doggy (our favorite position)

:love:

Hi ,
i have the same issue alot of times. But i get soft because my mind is so busy thinking " oh god , dont turn soft" or " i hope i am a good top "
i belive its all the pressure in our heads that lets the fun part go away.
i try to relax myself myself and just have fun. Your only human and not a fucking maschine. It hapends. Just try to take the pressure ( that only you put on yourself by the way not the bottom) away.

greetz Nick

I total agree. My husband are in that age when you sometimes dont get it up (regardless how horny you are). And its just sex, not the end of the world.

As a Bottom, i often get hard when he fuck me, but often im soft to ejaculation. I often cum hands free in missionary or doggy (our favorite position)

greetz Nick

Hi all!
This topic may be classic and I need some advice
Normally, I can easily got erection in the morning after waking up, when i think about sex or when i try to masterbate. It's all okay. My dick is in a good size and I'm confident about it. I want to be the top
But when I try to put it into the butt hole, It gets weaker and weaker then went off. ( plz don't laugh, it's just sad) . Since that, I'm so nervous whenever I have sex, only 1 time sucessful but It was short and I didn't feel so good.
Should i take some kind of pill to help that? Or any tips and tricks. Thanks

I get often hard (hands free) when my husband fucks me. I have never, ever toped anyone, so i dont know about that. Maybe you, just think to mutch?