My lover wants to share me…

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Thu, 09 Oct 2014 16:57:33 GMT

pornofan — Thu, 09 Oct 2014 16:57:33 GMT

Pretty solid consensus, which I hope you take seriously. Emotions are, by definition, not rational, so no need to attempt to defend
them rationally. If yr not interested, yr not interested. Period.

Interesting that you are not, by yourself, sufficient for his erotic satisfaction. Is he playing the field and wants you to join in? Wants
your permission/approval? If playing without yr permission/approval, is he putting your health/life at risk from dishonesty?

Does he have any particular third person in mind? Who would get to choose?

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Wed, 08 Oct 2014 13:53:58 GMT

wrestler4000 — Wed, 08 Oct 2014 13:53:58 GMT

I would never do that…

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Sat, 27 Sep 2014 12:12:45 GMT

XxDamxX — Sat, 27 Sep 2014 12:12:45 GMT

If you arent comfortable dont do it. You can regret late on.

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Tue, 23 Sep 2014 04:56:41 GMT

Olitommy — Tue, 23 Sep 2014 04:56:41 GMT

I agree, compromise is important in a relationship, but sex is something that really should not be done in a way any of the participants is not comfortable with, if you don't want to do it you should not do it, if you only feel like you're not ready, but think you might enjoy it when you are, then it's sensible to give steps towards getting you there, but ONLY if you really want to.

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Tue, 23 Sep 2014 02:55:23 GMT

YORCH32 — Tue, 23 Sep 2014 02:55:23 GMT

you should never ever ever do something you dont feel like just to please someone else, whether is your lover, boss, family, friend

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Sat, 20 Sep 2014 20:13:35 GMT

shdwrulr — Sat, 20 Sep 2014 20:13:35 GMT

My husband is the same way, he likes to "watch me work". Says I am amazing cock sucker and it just turns him on so much as he sits in the corner. If I am in the mood, I sometimes do it. But only if I want to do it as well. That part is key. If you are not comfortable about the idea or not interested, make it clear.

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Wed, 17 Sep 2014 02:42:33 GMT

harrisbren — Wed, 17 Sep 2014 02:42:33 GMT

Since you aren't in to it, then don't.
If he can't take it, then find someone new. >:D

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:20:14 GMT

Flinxxx — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:20:14 GMT

@gaijin:

.. but I'm not ready or willing…

That just about sums it up

Should I do this just to please him?

What do you mean by share? A threesome? I think he needs to explain why that would be a turn on for him, and why he thinks it would be a turn on for you. And you need to explain to him why you think the situation is unappealing. Hopefully you come to an agreement one way or the other, but even if not, you will better understand each other.

You say you are "not ready or willing." But those are two different things: 'not willing' says no never, 'not ready' says not now but later. And if you are 'not ready', what would make you ready?

Sex is always bad when one (or more) of the people involved are not 100% into it. And when someone is really nervous it can be down right funny, or really, really sad.

The situation sounds emotionally charged between you and your lover on this issue. Just remember that emotions are always real. You experience them so they are real. They may or may not be based on false beliefs. Emotions can be stated, but they should never be up for discussion. If you need to discuss anything it needs to be the beliefs.

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Sun, 07 Sep 2014 01:27:16 GMT

ipertatos — Sun, 07 Sep 2014 01:27:16 GMT

Since you're not ready or willing, that's the end of the discussion.

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Fri, 11 Aug 2006 04:27:04 GMT

Playmate — Fri, 11 Aug 2006 04:27:04 GMT

Hmm…in my opinion, if you are in an open relationship, well that's fine and adds a bit of fun and xcitment to the affair, but if you are not in an open relationship and do not have 3sums or more with each other, then personally, give it a miss and perhaps find yourself a new boyfriend?

Reply to My lover wants to share me… on Sun, 06 Aug 2006 21:03:41 GMT

Joker — Sun, 06 Aug 2006 21:03:41 GMT

if you don't like it, i would not do it….. your lover has to respect this! if he's not, he didn't love you at all...
but think about it.. it could make alot fun!