ANGER MANAGEMENT, when leaving comments in Torrent presentations:
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I'll admit I sometimes get annoyed at "Can you help me find XYZ video?" requests when I can find it by typing XYZ into search. I also stay far away from the discussion of politics, which I'm really interested in, due to people who seem unable to refrain from ad hominem attacks (in the thread names!)
But as people say, this is a place where we are getting Queer content for free. I also download non-porn gay movies and tv shows. I enjoy giving movie or book recommendations and seeing whether other people think the latest Blockbusters are worth my time and money.
If someone sends the occassional Spam pm or says something I regard as offensive I can just hit the delete button.
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You know, I left behind a lot of public trackers because the mods/owners were just retarded! How strange that gay trackers are so different. The mods and owners on gay trackers are usually friendly and level headed, and the members are bitchy as hell. LOLOLOLOL ;D
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Just to comment that it may not be as bad as you think.
Your sample is biased since you only look at the people rude enough/low impulse control to leave nasty and/or vulgar comments in the first place. There may be more than 10%-20% willing to apologize who avoid making problems to start off with.
These statistically wouldn't be the members writing rude comments to begin with though.
It's a pre-selection bias. The angry trolls tend to write angry comments, and then tend to write angry responses to moderators. It kind of fits with their overall behavior pattern.
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Just to comment that it may not be as bad as you think.
Your sample is biased since you only look at the people rude enough/low impulse control to leave nasty and/or vulgar comments in the first place. There may be more than 10%-20% willing to apologize who avoid making problems to start off with.
These statistically wouldn't be the members writing rude comments to begin with though.
It's a pre-selection bias. The angry trolls tend to write angry comments, and then tend to write angry responses to moderators. It kind of fits with their overall behavior pattern.
It's a shame though…. You really have to wonder an individuals mental health status, investing so much time doing these kinds of pointless things. It could only mean they have absolutely no control of their own life. "Misery likes company."
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We should all be thankful for the free porn. If the upload is not what you want, please respect the uploader. We all have different tastes. leaving nasty comments is not the solution. Be thankful!
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Take a deep breath every time you feel like being negative with comments, people posting torrents are going out of their way, anger is just a reaction response to a deep rooted disappointment with yourself and life, the only one looking bad, whether you are hiding behind a screen or not is yourself. take responsibility for your emotions and reactions, that's part of the reason why this world is in its current situation, people blaming others for their disappointment in life, look inside instead of looking at so much porn 1st of all, love yourself, work on yourself and stop spreading hate. :love:
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A good norm to follow is to have comments (on torrents or in the forum) be about the topic at hand, not about other people. It's one thing to say "I don't like movie (or politician) XYZ," but quite another to say, "You're an idiot if you like movie (or politician) XYZ." There is, unfortunately, a lot of the latter going on, especially in the forum. It's probably a necessary evil, as the alternative would be to have our already overworked monitors policing every comment.
An important exception to the "principles, not personalities" rule would be giving thanks to someone for their efforts, such as a well-crafted torrent upload. Torrent quality seems to be drooping, so positive reinforcement of a job well done can benefit all of us.
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What about the simple fact that some people simply have knee-jerk reactions…no matter how polite or tactful the commenter is trying to be…or simply don't like being corrected, or having something wrong or incorrect being pointed out to them, no matter (once again) how tactful or nice the commenter is trying to be…and they simply fly off the handle, regardless whether they are the ones who are wrong?
A lot of people are like that on the internet for some reason. Some simply do not like being correct no matter how wrong they are or how nice the commenter tries to be. Frankly, IMHO, people like that have issues they need to deal with in their real lives.
Just to point out regarding the increased font size I use…which someone has actually bitched to me about in a comment awhile back, claiming I was throwing around some kind of attitude that I had to make my comment stand out with the larger font...Keep in mind that some of us, even wearing glasses, have trouble reading a small font and have to use a larger font size.
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Ok you have me convinced that apologies work.
I would like to apologize for expecting subtitles when an Uploader twice in a row mistakenly copied/pasted (then removed) Subtitles English [CC] from their torrent description, and for not having the best attitude in my comments.
Managed to find Spanish subtitles for one of them but nothing would quite line up after using machine translation and subtitle shifters. Have to say that was interesting. Now have a bit more appreciation for two of my friends that work in the captioning and subtitle fields, as well as for Sedit's work on Gas.
This Is What Love In Action Looks Like and Somefarwhere are both available at Amazon in my region.
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Yes ! ! !
Someone uploaded a better quality version of Somefarwhere with English Subtitles.
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Someone uploaded This Is What Love In Action Looks Like with actual working English Subtitles!
Would have put all these in the same post if could edit. And yes, I was a wee bit angry at first, but this got resolved by GT members nicely :love:
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It's honestly kind of shocking how petty some people can be.
Especially since we all help provide content for free to each other.
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omg what is it?
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Echoing an original comment here, isn't it amazing at how well even short apologies work ("sorry, it was a bad day, and I was a bit flip . . .")? Early in my work career, an opposing party in a deal did exactly that after some uncivil (and bad) behavior, and it cleared matters away as well as a Spring shower. And it cost him nothing, in the end . . . . I remember it to this day.
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