[Grindr, Pics attached] What am I doing wrong!? Can't get laid.

spam17

i'd fuck you

;D

tony666

Maybe they are racist.

DamaDama

well, you are lovely!! i think the problem is that you show off all your body - i firmly believe that you should leave the man dreaming about how sexy you look under your clothes!! the first picture, for example, is perfect for that!
you have an amazing body.Good work!

sakyo

Probably start with a face pic or a non-nude body pic and see if they are interested before you go further. Another things is we tend to aim high in an anonymous setting, so you might be aiming out of your league maybe? IE if I approached you prob you'd ignore me haha

spam17

@sakyo:

Probably start with a face pic or a non-nude body pic and see if they are interested before you go further. Another things is we tend to aim high in an anonymous setting, so you might be aiming out of your league maybe? IE if I approached you prob you'd ignore me haha

:love:

cwamoon

Sorry for the super long delayed response guys.
Thank you for your input.As strange as it may sound, it somehow did not occur to me that ethnicity might be a factor - which I've become acutely aware of now.
Just the other day, someone at the gym hit up my buddy and asked about me saying, "Who's that. He's cute for an Asian guy."

I do have preferences myself, but a wide-scope rather than just one. Better put, it's not so much that I have preferences but very specific dis-preferences.
That being said, considering my honest self-observation about my sexualization or desexualization of certain ethnicities, I'm assuming that's the same cause/reason as to why others do/may not find me attractive.

It's like the issue with Steve Harvey having said on TV that Asian men are simply just not attractive.

When I made the original post, I'm pretty sure I was in heat :cheesy2:. I would literally bite my lip so hard at the sight of a hot guy working out at the gym that it would bleed. Since then, I've come back to my senses and haven't really hooked up with anyone or tried to.

It is a bit strange though, I have to say: those that are attracted to me seems to be a very specific type. I don't mean in a demographic or physical way, but in that they have a very very specific preference if not exclusive interest in Asians. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but eh. I have other things to worry about nowadays.

Oh, I also forgot to mention: since making the post, I shaved my head. And the change in the way other guys look at me is so drastically different to the degree that it's pathetic… I'm wondering if perhaps Asian men are feminized, and the longer-than-short hair was not helping such an image?

spam17

@cwamoon:

Sorry for the super long delayed response guys.
Thank you for your input.As strange as it may sound, it somehow did not occur to me that ethnicity might be a factor - which I've become acutely aware of now.
Just the other day, someone at the gym hit up my buddy and asked about me saying, "Who's that. He's cute for an Asian guy."

I do have preferences myself, but a wide-scope rather than just one. Better put, it's not so much that I have preferences but very specific dis-preferences.
That being said, considering my honest self-observation about my sexualization or desexualization of certain ethnicities, I'm assuming that's the same cause/reason as to why others do/may not find me attractive.

It's like the issue with Steve Harvey having said on TV that Asian men are simply just not attractive.

When I made the original post, I'm pretty sure I was in heat :cheesy2:. I would literally bite my lip so hard at the sight of a hot guy working out at the gym that it would bleed. Since then, I've come back to my senses and haven't really hooked up with anyone or tried to.

It is a bit strange though, I have to say: those that are attracted to me seems to be a very specific type. I don't mean in a demographic or physical way, but in that they have a very very specific preference if not exclusive interest in Asians. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but eh. I have other things to worry about nowadays.

Oh, I also forgot to mention: since making the post, I shaved my head. And the change in the way other guys look at me is so drastically different to the degree that it's pathetic… I'm wondering if perhaps Asian men are feminized, and the longer-than-short hair was not helping such an image?

You shaved ypur head?!

Wow!

TopJock

Lot of good advice here.

Think some better photos could help, but that is coming from a hobbyist photographer.

Timing, and having your own place can make a huge difference for hooking up.

vaylon 0

I think your hot and would definitely hookup for a pounding.

mattb36469

I am a bottom and I would happily top for you.

TopJock

Did you get some yet?

cwamoon

You guys are hilarious :cheesy2:
Thank you all for those that tried to validate me :love:
Especially:
@mattb36469:

I am a bottom and I would happily top for you.

because as a bottom myself, I know how much of a compliment this is <3.

No I didn't get any yet.
I did get a few matches - the guy that I was talking about when I said that I once bit my lip so hard that it bled while watching this guy work out? Turns out he has been checking me out too. I guess I need to start wearing my glasses or contacts, cause I can barely see people.

Somehow though, my libido's been gone :cry2: So I haven't actually been fucked by him yet.

And of course. Here I am on vacation, horny as fuck and in need of a breeding, and no one interested. I'm over it :cheesy2: :cheesy2:

blkbnnyc

definitely try adam4adam. Used to live in NYC and had lots of luck with it…you are hot, especially the ass pic. I'd eat and fuck it all night...

nancledra53

After a quick look at your photo's I'd advise a frontal pic rather than butt pics. Bottoms seem to think tops want to see the butt, or worse their hole. This top guy wants to see what is up front.

raphjd

@nancledra53:

After a quick look at your photo's I'd advise a frontal pic rather than butt pics. Bottoms seem to think tops want to see the butt, or worse their hole. This top guy wants to see what is up front.

I totally agree.

I don't want to see anyone's stink eye. Butts are part of the total picture, not the main thing.

spam17

@nancledra53:

After a quick look at your photo's I'd advise a frontal pic rather than butt pics. Bottoms seem to think tops want to see the butt, or worse their hole. This top guy wants to see what is up front.

I would agree!

;D

spam17

@raphjd:

@nancledra53:

After a quick look at your photo's I'd advise a frontal pic rather than butt pics. Bottoms seem to think tops want to see the butt, or worse their hole. This top guy wants to see what is up front.

I totally agree.

I don't want to see anyone's stink eye. Butts are part of the total picture, not the main thing.

B.t.w. Wrap the butt towel around your cheeks and get ready to laugh!

!

;D

takasugi4

I work in NYC and I would love to top you. And as others have suggested try "the cock" or some other gay bar.

Lynxlux92

That body tho. :cheesy2:
Grindr is greasy anyways there are alot of thirsty guys with no quality.
I don't mind tinder tho. I find more quality guys on there.

motri

@cubtellak:

Grinder pics and porn for many relieve the need for physical sex as they can jerk off and fantasise over them and then get on with their lives. By sending people pictures of your ass or cock there is nothing left to find out so they can wank off and no need to meet. Personally I find dating apps mostly a waste of time and get most sex meeting people physically. Saunas offer the best option for quick sex as everyone there is there for the same purpose. If you really must use apps then "less is more", don't show your cock or ass and if you must then obscure it so its teasing. Keep your shorts on with hard on etc. Your face pics are very much like everyone elses so try to be different here too and less pics, one or two are enough. Give little and you will get back lots. Good luck

legit god advice. didnt learn this until way later on