Being jealous of your bf's ex is a must. Otherwise you are just not in love.

ivanunss…

That's straight bullshit!

"Jealously" is not an indicator of one's love, but more so of one's insecurity; and the issues behind that insecurity.

Of course, that's my personal opinion; and you too (sigh), are entitled to yours.

You need to have a sit down and explain your feelings.
Don't accuse him of, or insinutate any cheating. That would just be your jelousy talking and will push it into a fight. If he really cares for you he needs to respect you enough not to be maintaining such a close relationship with his Ex.

I know it's a horrible thing to ask and i'd even admit to that but I would still need it to happen.

It sounds possessive or superjealous, typed out like that, but it's not like I tried to control his life or anything Just made me uncomfortable, and when he didn't care (about my feelings or his problems) I realised I couldn't stay with him. Regardless, I think it's something gay men need to talk about more, the idea of ex-boyfriends/fuckbuddies/hookups being around, because it seems so many of us have a few floaters like that in our lives, and it leads to a lot of doubt and mistrust and paranoia in otherwise good relationships.

Just my tuppenceworth on and old topic :3

Now, talking about your case you need to decide if you can put up or it is too much for you, talk with your boyfriend, hear is opinion and reasons and then decide if you can or not continue on this relationship

all emotional pain lasts only 15 minutes... after that, it's just self-indulgence...

It does seem very odd that the boyfriend has sided with his female friend and is now also regularly seeing his ex.

you feel insecure.

you have a trust issue with your bf.

and you are definitely not doing anything productive about it by keeping all your thoughts, questions, insecurities and fears to yourself.

you are in a relationship and part of a productive and healthy relationship is talking about these things and working out problems so that these things won't alienate both of you from each other.

i understand why you need to rant here. it is healthy but you really need to talk to your bf about these things.

then and only then can you decide/discover where you are in this relationship.

you might be right or wrong with your assumptions and fears but once you get the truth, you can then plan on what to do next.

don't waste your life in silence.

also, when you talk to your bf about these things, talk in a calm and matter-of-fact manner and avoid the "drama"…

nothing good can come out of it.

good luck.

Also, his ex now calls more frequently, plus, they went out at about 16:00, my boyfriend had had no sleep the other day so it was expected from him to sleep early that day so he slept from 21:00 but woke up at 11:00 in the morning (14 hours of sleep) plus he also felt sleepy for the rest of the day.

With the combination of his ex's frequent calls, I couldn't help but wonder, did he cheat on me with his ex that day? Met at 16:00, slept at 21:00, 14 hours of sleep. There is a gap there isn't there? Also, they went for a coffee very near his house. Which is strange. I don't know.

You seem to have serious trust issues with this man. If that is his fault then you can not change him. If it is your insecurity then you must learn to trust again somehow but an open discussion and his support are the only way to solve this .