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]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/31178/the-process-of-coming-out</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2026 19:35:19 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/31178.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Thu, 16 Mar 2017 01:37:03 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Thu, 05 Oct 2017 04:55:52 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/cteavin" aria-label="Profile: cteavin">@<bdi>cteavin</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/1995ds" aria-label="Profile: 1995DS">@<bdi>1995DS</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">I haven't come out yet, do you have any ideas on how to do it the right way?</p>
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<p dir="auto">There are four groups to whom we come out:</p>
<p dir="auto">Ourselves.<br />
Our family.<br />
Our friends.<br />
Our community.</p>
<p dir="auto">Then there's the fact that we come out daily, pretty much, meaning that when we step out with our bf into public or correct someone's pronoun usage we are coming out to the strangers around us.</p>
<p dir="auto">There's no correct order except that we tend to come out to ourselves first. (There are people who's family or freinds tell them, or to whom passers-by assume for you but that's a little different.)</p>
<p dir="auto">If you've come out to yourself and you don't know who to trust next the I suggest coming out to your community. Find the LGBT center near you, take part in an LGBT themed event (baseball game, picnic, social group), go to the gay ghetto near you and sit in a coffee shop. In the community, most everyone will empathize with you. (There's always a bitchy queen out there who doesn't pay them no mind.) Places like West Hollywood and Castro are "safe spaces".</p>
<p dir="auto">Going to a bar or club is another way to come out to your community but the vibe is very different and alcohol is involved, that might work for you, that might not.</p>
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]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228986</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228986</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[spam17]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 05 Oct 2017 04:55:52 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Wed, 27 Sep 2017 21:24:44 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/1995ds" aria-label="Profile: 1995DS">@<bdi>1995DS</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">I haven't come out yet, do you have any ideas on how to do it the right way?</p>
</blockquote>
<p dir="auto">There are four groups to whom we come out:</p>
<p dir="auto">Ourselves.<br />
Our family.<br />
Our friends.<br />
Our community.</p>
<p dir="auto">Then there's the fact that we come out daily, pretty much, meaning that when we step out with our bf into public or correct someone's pronoun usage we are coming out to the strangers around us.</p>
<p dir="auto">There's no correct order except that we tend to come out to ourselves first. (There are people who's family or freinds tell them, or to whom passers-by assume for you but that's a little different.)</p>
<p dir="auto">If you've come out to yourself and you don't know who to trust next the I suggest coming out to your community. Find the LGBT center near you, take part in an LGBT themed event (baseball game, picnic, social group), go to the gay ghetto near you and sit in a coffee shop. In the community, most everyone will empathize with you. (There's always a bitchy queen out there who doesn't pay them no mind.) Places like West Hollywood and Castro are "safe spaces".</p>
<p dir="auto">Going to a bar or club is another way to come out to your community but the vibe is very different and alcohol is involved, that might work for you, that might not.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228193</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228193</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[cteavin]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 27 Sep 2017 21:24:44 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Wed, 27 Sep 2017 20:14:24 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/harry3500" aria-label="Profile: harry3500">@<bdi>harry3500</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">I came out to my close friends first, but haven't to my family yet..</p>
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<p dir="auto">Not yet?</p>
<p dir="auto">::)</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228192</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/228192</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[spam17]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 27 Sep 2017 20:14:24 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Thu, 29 Jun 2017 23:37:26 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I came out to my close friends first, but haven't to my family yet..</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/220786</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/220786</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[harry3500]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 29 Jun 2017 23:37:26 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Wed, 28 Jun 2017 04:12:24 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/mohanaddsami" aria-label="Profile: mohanaddsami">@<bdi>mohanaddsami</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">I think its about the right person to come out to</p>
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<p dir="auto">Second..</p>
<p dir="auto">:love:.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/220577</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/220577</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[spam17]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 28 Jun 2017 04:12:24 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to The Process of Coming Out on Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:46:32 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I think its about the right person to come out to</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/207053</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/207053</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[mohanaddsami]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:46:32 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>