Just about to hit 30 and I do not have a lot of social outreach. My friends are all out of state, including the one gay guy I knew. Right now I have some online friends but it's not the same.

make a female friend who has gay friends and steal the ones you like

So far, this thread has been really interesting, containing some good advice on making friends when you're past 30, 40, and so on.

The response from yayahiloude made me laugh and it's good advice, except you can SHARE your female friends' gay pals, rather than STEAL them, of course.

The tips from JohnAllenson about types of groups to join are also very on target.

And I agree with the posters who have made friends from a computer-matched "coffee date" or any "first date" that doesn't click sexually.  As long as no one gets catty when the "sexual interest" fails to appear, imperfect dates can turn into great friends.

If you like movies see whether there's a Facebook group for people to see movies together.  Is there a gay/welcoming Church?  I know people who met a lot of their friends through MCCT.  I'm heavily into Science Fiction/Fantasy and most of my friends are also people involved in that.

It's always hard and to keep long lasting friendships. Good thumb of the rule is that you cannot force it and it cannot happen over the night so it is best to go with the flow. If you are in a new environment, it's best to be pro-active and seek out your hobbies and interests. Go out and about, try to mingle. Internet is the common medium these days to do all sorts of communication, and one advice is to use maybe a meetup.com up and seek some common interests. It's hard and you really need to make an effort, comfort zone is somwhere you cannot be.

I like being with guys, but I will get bored of sex when a few months later. I do not know what to do. I still like the guy, more like brother type… Is it common?

initially, i was flirting with him subtly and he was like "all the guys on this website want is sex", which made me back down; we had a good match score, and he's insane, but we've been great friends for ages. i met guys through okcupid for dates and sex, but they weren't really that great; i would go for the high match scores and then find that we might be too similar, or something in person that didn't come across online.

ANYWAY, there are also some friends that i've made through grindr, but i've found that putting myself out there and showing up to things (like parties) can certainly grease the wheel.
i feel like commonality is a good foundation and that someone who's consistent with their first impression will make a good friend. friendship is a collaborative effort.
lastly, i've been reaching out occasionally to people on facebook that i don't often see in person. i feel like i have a greater amount of acquaintances than close friends.

Id like more straight acting gay friends but hard to find so might be easier to go on a gay group then find the guy with similar interests.

well, i'm very shy. i dont know what to do about that.