@hhsq:

A little rant here, if I may: I hate when people (most oftenly tops) think that the bottom is not enjoying himself when his dick is limp.

why would u hate it, it could be a concern for your sexual partner.

although i like it, i too am partly worried with a new partner i don't know well that he's not enjoying if it's limp. it could be that. not  necessarily. but it could.

I can understand a lot from visual clues, but it is really important to communicate with your partner.  Top or bottom, if something hurts, is painful, or is something you want to stop, you really need to say that.  I do not want to be a rapist.  If we are having sex and I start sucking your tits.  If you don't like that, you need to tell me to stop.  If I start licking your armpits and you think that it's gross, you need to tell me.  Sometimes visual clues can be misread.

I remember once, I was getting fucked.  It felt so damn good that I started moaning loudly.  The guy fucking me stopped and asked if I was okay.  I remember growling at him, "Don't stop fucking me!"  His conclusion was wrong, but his intentions were good.  Communication even during sex is a good thing.

A little rant here, if I may: I hate when people (most oftenly tops) think that the bottom is not enjoying himself when his dick is limp.

why would u hate it, it could be a concern for your sexual partner.

although i like it, i too am partly worried with a new partner i don't know well that he's not enjoying if it's limp. it could be that. not  necessarily. but it could.

A little rant here, if I may: I hate when people (most oftenly tops) think that the bottom is not enjoying himself when his dick is limp. I've heard of tops that were personally offended or turned off by their limp dicked bottoms. But many bottoms stay limp! It doesn't mean they are not enjoying! So, of course, I have no problems with that!

I agree.

I can get into domination and submission, but I see limp dicks as something separate from that.  Just because a bottom is limp, it doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't enjoying it or is in pain or is submissive.

But I don't see the act of fucking as complete until the bottom nuts as well.

(And by all means, rant.  I for one likes to hear what is on people's minds.)

if it's hard i like it cuz he is turned on.

if it's limp, i feel like he's in my power, so hot, yet powerless. i have the same fantasy in porn. of course the reasons for the limpy could be different than my fantasy but what the heck.  :love: