No matter what country you are born & raised in, a child's parents & extended family participate in the indoctrination process that instills the values, expectations & rules that will be required to exist & prosper in society.  This usually includes an introduction to the family's belief system, people to admire, people to fear & hate and so on and so on.

I was taught that LUST was bad and LOVE was good, as if one was opposite the other. I have come to the conclusion that LUST and LOVE are not even related to each other.  One is an emotional response and the other is a bodily function that we are pre-programmed to experience as a means to the continuation of the species.  We sometimes fall in love with someone we have sex with, but we most certainly do NOT have sex with everyone we truly love.

All male mammals have much the same "Wiring By Mother Nature" instincts.  There are three distinct parts to a male mammals sex life: 1) The Hunt for a Potential Recipient, 2) The Chase & Staging after Capitulation, followed quickly by 3) The Planting of the Seed.  Think about First Time Sex with an individual as compared to Sex in a Marriage. The comparison can best be summed up with the phrase 'You can't Rape the Willing."  There is no Hunt, no Chase, no Capitulation.  Our indoctrination most certainly did not include the factoid that a Man's biggest thrill wasn't the moaning & the groaning if it didn't include the Hunt and Chase portion.  Who knew?

An education system that hides certain important facts about Human Sexuality is ultimately responsible for sending vulnerable teen age boys and girls out into the world with false expectations and ill prepared for the events that may lead to infidelity and far too many single parent households.  Boys are often told that marriage means never having to go on the hunt for sex partners and for the inexperienced, that shady promise turns hollow when the sexual boredom becomes apparent.

You may not be comfortable lumping the sex act with coughing, sneezing, pooping, peeing, eating & sleeping.  Just think how different 'wedlock' would be for both participants if sexual fidelity didn't enter into the vows spoken during the wedding ceremony.

@Eridanos:

Normal sex recipe:

Bottom partner lies on his back

Top partner penetrates

Missionary position (other positions non-negotiable)

Insert non-comprehensible generic grunts and sighs of pleasure at moderate volume.

Once a partner finishes he helps the other one.

Once both are done they compliment the deed with meek adjectives.

Each partner goes to his side of the bed and proceeds to sleep.

:hug: that's normal and boring sex, because of your deadpan humor. 

But I don't mind settling down with someone with blissful boredom  :love: where there's more to share than just sex, instead of hunting around for sex with Tom's dick and Harry's stick. I'm tired of putting myself up on the shelf like some merchandise waiting for buyers and we all know that I meant it literally. What we'll do for sex, sometimes we had to add a little extra to sell to a better buyer.
Now that my sex drive is getting low, I can understand why some buyers need a little kinkiness to get the same kick as before. But I'll keep away from extremes like BDSM, Scat… they disgust me instead.

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Normal sex recipe:

Bottom partner lies on his back

Top partner penetrates

Missionary position (other positions non-negotiable)

Insert non-comprehensible generic grunts and sighs of pleasure at moderate volume.

Once a partner finishes he helps the other one.

Once both are done they compliment the deed with meek adjectives.

Each partner goes to his side of the bed and proceeds to sleep.

:hug: that's normal and boring sex, because of your deadpan humor. 

But I don't mind settling down with someone with blissful boredom  :love: where there's more to share than just sex, instead of hunting around for sex with Tom's dick and Harry's stick. I'm tired of putting myself up on the shelf like some merchandise waiting for buyers and we all know that I meant it literally. What we'll do for sex, sometimes we had to add a little extra to sell to a better buyer.
Now that my sex drive is getting low, I can understand why some buyers need a little kinkiness to get the same kick as before. But I'll keep away from extremes like BDSM, Scat… they disgust me instead.

I used to be a good boy and never fantasized anything besides normal sex.

Then men.com happened - now I crack a whip while screaming commands in German, use his faggot mouth as an ashtray, fist his hole while I'm sitting on my sofa, watching tv, and his forearms are resting on the floor, his knees next to my hips, till he's loose enough to shove my beer into his cuntkoozie.  Then when he's been punished so many times for not understanding the German commands, that he starts picking up what I'm saying, I switch to Russian so I can get more beatings out of him….

:afraid2:

To the people asking you to do those things, it IS normal.

Then men.com happened - now I crack a whip while screaming commands in German, use his faggot mouth as an ashtray, fist his hole while I'm sitting on my sofa, watching tv, and his forearms are resting on the floor, his knees next to my hips, till he's loose enough to shove my beer into his cuntkoozie.  Then when he's been punished so many times for not understanding the German commands, that he starts picking up what I'm saying, I switch to Russian so I can get more beatings out of him….

hahahahaha I'm kidding.  Men.com fucking sucks.  If anything, they're pretty tame and boring to watch.  Which was actually what I was finding a place to complain about...but I agree with you that most men try to force their fetish onto you.  However, if you try to bring up yours, they're like NO.  I'M NOT INTO THAT!!!  It's turned me away from hooking up the last few years.

It drives me nuts when I plan a hook up and meet.  Then find out the guy hasn't prepped his ass at all, is either doing some drug, or didn't shower/brush his teeth.

@poison824:

We live in a modern society where porn and sexuality is so in our face 24/7 that we can become bored quite easily. that is why some people have fetishes, they get bored cause porn and sex is so readily available.

fetishes aren't actually chosen though

True Fetishes are chosen they come from a part of your life that has made this 'Thing or idea' important to you sexually.

Also why does 'Normal' sex have to include penetration?

Can't 'normal' sex be a coming together of two people and enjoying the body and sensations together?

We live in a modern society where porn and sexuality is so in our face 24/7 that we can become bored quite easily. that is why some people have fetishes, they get bored cause porn and sex is so readily available.

fetishes aren't actually chosen though

Normal sex recipe:

Bottom partner lies on his back

Top partner penetrates

Missionary position (other positions non-negotiable)

Insert non-comprehensible generic grunts and sighs of pleasure at moderate volume.

Once a partner finishes he helps the other one.

Once both are done they compliment the deed with meek adjectives.

Each partner goes to his side of the bed and proceeds to sleep.

:love:

Bottom partner lies on his back

Top partner penetrates

Missionary position (other positions non-negotiable)

Insert non-comprehensible generic grunts and sighs of pleasure at moderate volume.

Once a partner finishes he helps the other one.

Once both are done they compliment the deed with meek adjectives.

Each partner goes to his side of the bed and proceeds to sleep.

@poison824:

We live in a modern society where porn and sexuality is so in our face 24/7 that we can become bored quite easily. that is why some people have fetishes, they get bored cause porn and sex is so readily available.

That's a fact..

:blink:

There's another factor… I'm really into normal (boring) sex.
But if I'm planning an online quickie and I'm in a craving hunger for something specific,
then if it's ok for you we're already fucking, otherwise I'll find someone else in the next 5mins.

We live in a modern society where porn and sexuality is so in our face 24/7 that we can become bored quite easily. that is why some people have fetishes, they get bored cause porn and sex is so readily available.

That's a fact..

:blink: