<![CDATA[Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait?]]>I usually tell people up front

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/21568/do-you-tell-new-friends-your-gay-right-away-or-waitRSS for NodeWed, 08 Apr 2026 12:46:11 GMTFri, 23 Oct 2015 23:48:03 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 03 Nov 2016 16:20:27 GMT]]>I rarely ever walk up to someone and say, "Hi I'm Dag and I'm queer."  But I also do not censor myself.  If I'm in a car with someone and I see someone attractive I will say, "Ooooo, he's cute."  If a co-worker asks which actress I think is hot, I will tell them Russell Tovey.

Most new people assume I'm straight.  But I've almost never told anyone I was queer.  Almost no-one has ever asked ME if I was queer.  But everyone ends up knowing in the end.

But when someone is being homophobic, I have looked people in the eye and told them that I like getting fucked in the ass.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/190284https://community.gaytor.rent/post/190284Thu, 03 Nov 2016 16:20:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:46:49 GMT]]>I don't have enough social skills to meet new friends frequently, at least not face-to-face friends. For those that I know from some time ago, I only told to a few of them bc I thought it was important to feeling more conformable being around with their company. I also came up to one guy that I really liked in high school, and he stopped talking to me. At least he wasn't a bully… Nowadays I only told it right away to virtual people that live far far away. I don't mind to do it bc it's part of my work (I broadcast in Chaturbate).

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188914https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188914Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:46:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:33:49 GMT]]>My core group of close friends (most of whom are straight) all know and we are fine. I don't hide it from new friends, but I also don't wave it in their faces. If it comes up then I answer them honestly and if they have a problem with it then I know they aren't really my friend.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188912https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188912Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:33:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:13:55 GMT]]>I don't really have too many straight friends.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188908https://community.gaytor.rent/post/188908Sun, 23 Oct 2016 02:13:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Mon, 10 Oct 2016 03:03:29 GMT]]>I will definitely not tell any str8 friends. Few people accept that and I may receive unwanted criticism.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/187243https://community.gaytor.rent/post/187243Mon, 10 Oct 2016 03:03:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sat, 02 Jul 2016 18:58:20 GMT]]>Don't ask, don't tell. Simple.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/178611https://community.gaytor.rent/post/178611Sat, 02 Jul 2016 18:58:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sat, 02 Jul 2016 17:33:31 GMT]]>I wait until the ask.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/178600https://community.gaytor.rent/post/178600Sat, 02 Jul 2016 17:33:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 26 Jun 2016 22:40:00 GMT]]>if i don't see any specific reason to tell it i won't, if they ask i'll answer.

in my book it's a bit like religion or vegans, no need to shove it into people's face, no need to hide it

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/177952https://community.gaytor.rent/post/177952Sun, 26 Jun 2016 22:40:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 26 Jun 2016 22:00:49 GMT]]>I think its best to wait because you don't really know the person really well

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/177935https://community.gaytor.rent/post/177935Sun, 26 Jun 2016 22:00:49 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 19 May 2016 17:31:19 GMT]]>You can never really know what another person is thinking. If they cannot accept you for who you are then they are hardly your friends. I wouldn't do it because I don't want my individual identity to be lost inside a label.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/174466https://community.gaytor.rent/post/174466Thu, 19 May 2016 17:31:19 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Fri, 13 May 2016 08:38:22 GMT]]>you dont necessarily have to tell them, just drop hints and they'll get it nowadays

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/173936https://community.gaytor.rent/post/173936Fri, 13 May 2016 08:38:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Fri, 29 Apr 2016 19:37:48 GMT]]>Wait a long time…
If her/his mentality matches mine, then only I tell them about myself.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/172734https://community.gaytor.rent/post/172734Fri, 29 Apr 2016 19:37:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Mon, 28 Mar 2016 01:18:00 GMT]]>I test the waters and wait. First I need to test the kind of person they are - as in if they'll 'out' me just because they're that kind of douche, and if they're naturally opposed to it or not. I won't be fake if they're homophobic, I'll just cut them out and go on going on!

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/170283https://community.gaytor.rent/post/170283Mon, 28 Mar 2016 01:18:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 25 Feb 2016 14:39:07 GMT]]>@gerb930:

I wait because in our coutry the people are highly against gays.So thats why i am carefull

it definately depends on which country youre from i agree

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168212https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168212Thu, 25 Feb 2016 14:39:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 25 Feb 2016 10:24:55 GMT]]>Well I definitely don't immediately tell people I'm gay when I introduce myself.  Since I fit a few stereotypes I don't usually have to tell people, but if I don't tell them at some point I have to deal with that stupid game of them subtly trying to get me to bring it up.  I take the first opportunity to come out to people just to get it over with, like when they ask if I'm dating any women, or if a thing a girl is hot, or I drop the name of a known gay bar when talking about clubs and bars.  I don't like investing time in relationships with people who will have an issue with my sexuality so that's why I think it's best to get it out of the way as soon as possible.

In professional situations, I will probably never mention my sexuality unless there's some kind of workplace diversity activity taking place or if my not saying I'm gay would lead to a lie including lies of omission.  I live in the United States and the state I live in has laws in place that prohibit workplace discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation so I'm never worried about how it would impact my job, I just don't think it's professional to discuss these topics unless it's somehow work related.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168191https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168191Thu, 25 Feb 2016 10:24:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 25 Feb 2016 08:54:22 GMT]]>i think its easier to tell them when youve known them for a long time, as for new friends i prefer to wait and get a grip on their feelings about it first

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168181https://community.gaytor.rent/post/168181Thu, 25 Feb 2016 08:54:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Mon, 15 Feb 2016 21:27:29 GMT]]>I usually wait

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/167472https://community.gaytor.rent/post/167472Mon, 15 Feb 2016 21:27:29 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Thu, 11 Feb 2016 20:06:09 GMT]]>I live in London so culture isn't too much of an issue.

But I would always wait.  To be honest I would only ever want to bring it up to someone that I felt close enough to have a discusssion about sex with. Otherwise it's irrelevant.

I usually get asked though (which I really prefer people wouldn't do).

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/167263https://community.gaytor.rent/post/167263Thu, 11 Feb 2016 20:06:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Tue, 26 Jan 2016 08:36:13 GMT]]>I'll wait. Since I live in a country where there is only a very few people who tolerate people like us, I have to be really careful when it comes about coming out. I need to really know and trust them very much then I can decide whether I want to tell them or not.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/166419https://community.gaytor.rent/post/166419Tue, 26 Jan 2016 08:36:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Tue, 26 Jan 2016 02:05:16 GMT]]>Never, who knows if he will be your friend forever.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/166404https://community.gaytor.rent/post/166404Tue, 26 Jan 2016 02:05:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 08 Nov 2015 16:13:24 GMT]]>i think we should wait.. take one step at a time…we may never know how tolerant he is towards being gay..

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155788https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155788Sun, 08 Nov 2015 16:13:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 08 Nov 2015 13:55:11 GMT]]>I don't ever bring it up. It's not that I'm ashamed of being gay, I just don't like the idea of bringing unnecessary attention to the fact. I'm a bit uncomfortable with the idea that it may come to "define" me if I choose to discuss it without being prompted to, because I don't think my being gay should warrant any more attention than someone else's being straight does.

I don't have a problem telling people I'm gay if they ask, and I've dropped hints about it without directly saying I'm gay many times. It's not a secret any more than it is a celebration with me, it just "is".

Still, I do think people knowing off the bat would go a long way in avoiding any possible confusion or misunderstandings down the road.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155774https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155774Sun, 08 Nov 2015 13:55:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 08 Nov 2015 12:57:00 GMT]]>I tell them if it comes up or asking about why i don't go crazy about girls, so i don't lie about it and also don't advertise it 😉

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155769https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155769Sun, 08 Nov 2015 12:57:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Do you tell new friends your gay right away or wait? on Sun, 08 Nov 2015 11:09:57 GMT]]>I wait because in our coutry the people are highly against gays.So thats why i am carefull

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155759https://community.gaytor.rent/post/155759Sun, 08 Nov 2015 11:09:57 GMT