I'm currently in a job in which I'm constantly traveling. Literally constant; the longest I'm in any city is like 4-5 days. What app or online service is best for hookups or chat with local gay folks? I'm in the Midwest, throughout KS, OK, TX.

Well… I'm just over the state line in Kansas City living in Blue Springs Missouri...

How you doin? 

@Blastfurnace:

So why didn't you start a relationship with that guy?

All my fault. I had other things going on in my life, and striding in the direction of a new connection with someone felt like a burden I didn't want to face. I didn't even try to have sex for almost a year; I just went back to the age-old solution of jerking off (well … jerking off MORE  ;D ).

It was only a few months ago that we last spoke, though. I might still have a chance if I pull my head out; I've got his number.

you go girl!

So why didn't you start a relationship with that guy?

All my fault. I had other things going on in my life, and striding in the direction of a new connection with someone felt like a burden I didn't want to face. I didn't even try to have sex for almost a year; I just went back to the age-old solution of jerking off (well … jerking off MORE  ;D ).

It was only a few months ago that we last spoke, though. I might still have a chance if I pull my head out; I've got his number.

It's been about a year since I got it out of my system (for now), but I had a good run of no-strings fun between 2014 and 2015. I've had success with Growlr, Scruff, and Grindr … in that order. Growlr because I'm in pretty high demand on that app (grr!), and have met my most permanent fuck buddies from. Scruff was hit and miss for me, mostly miss.

Grindr ... well, it was said that it was the "fastest" way to hook up, and I think that was true. It's just that worrying so much about speed seems about desperation to me (and I don't judge, I've been there), and you might find yourself just accepting a blatant anonymous fuck offer just for the convenience of it with a guy you normally wouldn't consider remotely attractive. Then again ... I had the most amazing sex with the most amazingly perfect-my-type guy with someone I met on Grindr. We've texted back and forth a few times over the last year, talking about meeting up again ... but it always falls through when it comes to me committing to it, for some reason. :-S

I also think it's regional, to be honest. Some areas might be very heavy into Scruff and not use Grindr much, some vice versa, etc. Just download them all (I know it sounds slutty, but let's be real ... you want to get laid within a short timespan by someone you find attractive ... so you are being kind of slutty.  You can get a better and faster hookup by casting a wide net), and switch back and forth once you've decided to cruise. You'll probably see a lot of the same guys on all the apps, too, so you'll know you're not alone. One of those guys might even be the one you end up pounding.

Good luck.

So why didn't you start a relationship with that guy?

Grindr ... well, it was said that it was the "fastest" way to hook up, and I think that was true. It's just that worrying so much about speed seems about desperation to me (and I don't judge, I've been there), and you might find yourself just accepting a blatant anonymous fuck offer just for the convenience of it with a guy you normally wouldn't consider remotely attractive. Then again ... I had the most amazing sex with the most amazingly perfect-my-type guy with someone I met on Grindr. We've texted back and forth a few times over the last year, talking about meeting up again ... but it always falls through when it comes to me committing to it, for some reason. :-S

I also think it's regional, to be honest. Some areas might be very heavy into Scruff and not use Grindr much, some vice versa, etc. Just download them all (I know it sounds slutty, but let's be real ... you want to get laid within a short timespan by someone you find attractive ... so you are being kind of slutty.  You can get a better and faster hookup by casting a wide net), and switch back and forth once you've decided to cruise. You'll probably see a lot of the same guys on all the apps, too, so you'll know you're not alone. One of those guys might even be the one you end up pounding.

Good luck.

• Grindr (quick hookups usually fastest way to hookup)

• Hornet + Jackd (If you want more of a dinner date and maybe to actually talk to someone. Can also be used for sex if the other person is horny)

• Scruff + Recon (These apps are more niche focused. Usually more of an older or leather kink croud)

Gay App where guys actually seek date? Impossible, sounds too good to be true.  :funny2: