Is it possible to found out you're actually bi?

spam17

I have not been with a girl yet but I know that I like girls. I am attracted to beautiful girls. Eventhough I have not dated a girl but I know that I will do it one day. On the other hand, I have had sex with guys. I am so much attracted to guys more than girls.
So the big question here about my label - I would like to label myself as Bisexual although I have not even touched a girl sexually. I don't care what the world says.

helloitsmesf

well, i wouldnt use the term find out but, enlightened - i think yes. the thing is, we're not just straight, gay, bi or whatever. sexual orientation can't be labelled and put in mutually exclusive and exhaustive categories. it's a spectrum and you're allowed to be attracted to everyone regardless of gender.

mufum69

I'm in my 50s. I struggled with the idea that I was Gay/bi or strait for years. Most of my relationships were with women. I've had plenty with men also. Finally about 10 years ago I accepted the fact that I was attracted to both. Guess on an 80/20 split 80 being women. Most women find themselves relating well to me. Probably because of my feminine side. Though if you met me you would think I was the most hetero person you know. My gay friends also feel comfortable with me. So I like to use the tag Heteroflexible. I guess if I'm attracted to you then it doesn't matter whether your a male or female. If we connect it works for me.

JACK777

There is some kind of a scale so its all fluid.

DamaDama

i have thought of that but i don't think i am.Sure, i like the idea of messing with a woman, but what really happens is that women do not attract me at all.Sexually at least,because i like seeing pretty women

gaypraha2

side note : some people are actually ambisexual. Ambisexual means you switch from time to time from straight to gay ; it's different than bisexual cause you can be straight for some months or even years and you dont feel like having sex with same sex but then you enter a period in which you are gay and you dont feel like having straight sex. Bisexual is different, you can be horny for both sex along the same period of time.
(I know in english bisexual and ambisexual are used in the same way but not in my language).

R3ini3r

Just try both sides again. And again.. and again ;D

mcmic4

I guess it's more than a label; It's a journey.

I have had experience flip flopping my way through which I prefer better; guy or girl, at the point where i just fall in love with the person, regardless of their sex. There are some women I am both sexually and romantically attracted with, while there are guys who I am only attracted to physically, and vice versa. Once you come to accept that deep down they are just a person (politically correct but whatever), I guess it was easier for me to come to accept my inner dilemma.

Besides, I like having the opportunity to explore both options. Why limit oneself to one when you have the open mindedness to "try" both?
These are the things that my friends are jealous of and they responded by saying that I was lying to myself or that I am actually straight/gay.
Well, they are still jealous and I am still bi :cheers:

fuckall

@myrea:

Kinsey scale… there are two fixed orientations in totally straigh and totally gay, however there is a lot of fluidity in the mid areas, a 50/50 bi is probably fixed but it's common that people who are 20 hetero/80 gay or 80/20 might at times flow to the other side of the spectrum.

this!

Cub2263

I've been there – I think of myself as biromantic and homosexual. Due to this, I call myself gay....and that is because I could never marry a woman and resist having sex with men. Thus, I only plan on having relationships with men.