<![CDATA[Coming Out Reactions]]>Describe the moment when you came out to a relative.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/13685/coming-out-reactionsRSS for NodeWed, 08 Apr 2026 13:18:53 GMTThu, 08 Jan 2015 12:42:29 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Sun, 24 May 2015 08:08:06 GMT]]>😉

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/130603https://community.gaytor.rent/post/130603Sun, 24 May 2015 08:08:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Sun, 24 May 2015 05:54:05 GMT]]>Mine went so well with my parents that it was a tear jerker for me, I didn't expect it to go like that at all.
What got me was when my father said "Why didn't you tell me!" in a really annoyed voice, and "I would have helped you", kinda like I'm an idiot -ROFL, but that's my Dad -haha.

Because I waited so long to come out, I lost so much time that I could have been closer to my parents. That's what teared me up too, that regret.
All those years thinking they wouldn't love me as much if they knew.

I don't have a close family. Half of them are out of the country, and a lot of the others (Mom's side) aren't the best people.
Came out to the only sane one on my Mom's side, my cousin, and that went amazingly well too. Now we're good friends and talk a few times a week (we're on opposite coasts in the US).

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/130598https://community.gaytor.rent/post/130598Sun, 24 May 2015 05:54:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Fri, 15 May 2015 11:50:32 GMT]]>i came out to my closest friend when i'm 20, i was quite surprised that he knew it all the time.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/129174https://community.gaytor.rent/post/129174Fri, 15 May 2015 11:50:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Thu, 14 May 2015 14:30:09 GMT]]>I just chuckled at that. So nice 🙂

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/129017https://community.gaytor.rent/post/129017Thu, 14 May 2015 14:30:09 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Thu, 14 May 2015 08:49:52 GMT]]>In general my family was pretty supportive. As an example:

Me: You know I'm gay, right?
Brother: Yeah, I figured.
Me: Thought so. Mom wanted me to tell you.
Brother: She's weird that way.
Me: Yup.
Brother: So can I get a ride to work?

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128989https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128989Thu, 14 May 2015 08:49:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Sat, 09 May 2015 06:48:34 GMT]]>In all honesty? I was forced to "rebuke" it because I couldn't support myself yet. Still can't, not until I finish college anyway.

It was so hard, there was so much yelling, cursing, and they threatened to throw me out on the streets in a dress and make-up. Got whipped with the metal buckle of a belt, too.

So yeah, I don't think I'll ever come out to my family again. My friends are mixed, though, which is short of a relief.

I'm not the best for coming out advice, clearly. Haha

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128290https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128290Sat, 09 May 2015 06:48:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Fri, 08 May 2015 00:45:28 GMT]]>not so much anger or shock , just confusion

Hi Mum , dad , this is my boyfriend dane

then they found out that dane once long ago used to be daniella

then they were really confused

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128180https://community.gaytor.rent/post/128180Fri, 08 May 2015 00:45:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:24:50 GMT]]>Not the worst nightmare, my mom still loves me, however, she is still in denial after years. She thinks it's some kind of fashion and that it can be changed and she still talks from time to time about how cool it would be if I had a girlfriend and kids… I tried to educate her about gay people and life as a gay male on multiple fronts, but nothing seems to stick... as she is too narrow minded in this area.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/125525https://community.gaytor.rent/post/125525Sun, 12 Apr 2015 20:24:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Fri, 10 Apr 2015 02:32:04 GMT]]>It was fine. I knew that my mother would be disappointed, but she took it very well. She was really a very old fashioned lady but she loved me so much. I really miss her 😞

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/125163https://community.gaytor.rent/post/125163Fri, 10 Apr 2015 02:32:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Sat, 21 Mar 2015 18:23:03 GMT]]>@m9pp9l:

It was not too bad!
I had drunk some beer on the train, so when I had arrived to home, I was tipsy.
My mother was always asking me that who is my girlfriend, when will I show her to her, who is the misterious person I always went to a trip.
I asked her whether she really wanted to know and she said, yes, of course.
I said "with my boy friend".
She said, OK, then I asked her as a confirmation that she really understood this?
She said yes again, and asked some questions about HIM.
She didn't said any disineritage or anything, just that I should try to keep open the 'other door', and it is strange, but she loves me all the same.

So it was quite good, but going home at the weekend was a bit funny, I felt some discomfort.

My dad is dead for 3 years.

Sorry to hear that.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/123212https://community.gaytor.rent/post/123212Sat, 21 Mar 2015 18:23:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Fri, 13 Mar 2015 17:44:45 GMT]]>It was not too bad!
I had drunk some beer on the train, so when I had arrived to home, I was tipsy.
My mother was always asking me that who is my girlfriend, when will I show her to her, who is the misterious person I always went to a trip.
I asked her whether she really wanted to know and she said, yes, of course.
I said "with my boy friend".
She said, OK, then I asked her as a confirmation that she really understood this?
She said yes again, and asked some questions about HIM.
She didn't said any disineritage or anything, just that I should try to keep open the 'other door', and it is strange, but she loves me all the same.

So it was quite good, but going home at the weekend was a bit funny, I felt some discomfort.

My dad is dead for 3 years.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/122686https://community.gaytor.rent/post/122686Fri, 13 Mar 2015 17:44:45 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Wed, 04 Mar 2015 05:00:06 GMT]]>For some it's great for others it's a nightmare… sadly mine was a nightmare.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/121923https://community.gaytor.rent/post/121923Wed, 04 Mar 2015 05:00:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Mon, 02 Mar 2015 01:02:53 GMT]]>It was ok with my mum but I think a lot depends on the place (country, state, city) where you live. I mean, I live in London now and saying "I'm gay" doesn't even feel like coming out anymore.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/121694https://community.gaytor.rent/post/121694Mon, 02 Mar 2015 01:02:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Coming Out Reactions on Thu, 12 Feb 2015 00:44:36 GMT]]>A nightmare.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/119618https://community.gaytor.rent/post/119618Thu, 12 Feb 2015 00:44:36 GMT